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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #1  May 8,2011, 9:15am
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Over the years there have been many threads that ask "What does this question mean?"

The real question is not what the question means but what someone who asks that question could learn about their match. So Lori and / or Renee here is your challenge: Get the eHarmony psychologists and other personality gurus that have created the questions and answers in Guided Communication to sit down and tell us what each question is designed to tell us about our match.

All you on the boards can join in and share what you get out of the questions that you ask in Guided Communication, too.
 
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This is a great post, and I am curious to see if there are any "official" responses from EH. We have seen various threads lately about EH possibly revamping their questions and/or profile sections. It would be nice to get rid of some of the more "loaded questions".
 
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Guys don't you know that the entire GC system is not there for you to really learn a great deal about your matches (that is what OC and beyond is for).

All GC is for is to break the ice. To talk to someone you are interested in in a constructive format and to find out if they are interested in you as well.

If you are using GC to try to learn a great deal about matches then you are getting way ahead of yourself. OC is to get to know someone. GC is to just get introduced to someone.
 
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We are aware that GC is to "give you something to talk about". But, the way in which many eH members use this feature is to make sweeping assumptions about "why would my match ask that?!" The whole GC process is just indicative of baggage - yours and your match's. But, I really don't think that eH designed the process in that way.
 
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I would really like to know this too. Maybe I'm not picking the right questions, but I don't seem to find out much about my matches from as least the initial round of questions that I didn't see in their profile or that isn't obvious. I would pick different questions, but the rest either seem way too intrusive for a first communication, or I really don't care about their answers so much.
 
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Maybe I'm a bit naive, but I don't believe there was any underlying reasons for any of the questions in GC other than to break the ice and provide something to discuss later.

Some answers to some questions may indicate baggage or may provide some other insight, but all the reading between the lines here seems a bit of a stretch to me.

But then I'm not that good about psychobabble. I'm an engineer.

*shrugs*
 
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Im doubtful that psychologists wrote the questions- I'm thinking just regular members of the eh staff did.
 
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tweet37 wrote :
Maybe I'm a bit naive, but I don't believe there was any underlying reasons for any of the questions in GC other than to break the ice and provide something to discuss later.

Some answers to some questions may indicate baggage or may provide some other insight, but all the reading between the lines here seems a bit of a stretch to me.

But then I'm not that good about psychobabble. I'm an engineer.

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Hey I be an engineer too

I could be wrong but I suspect that there was a very clear reason that the questions and the particular canned answers were chosen / written. eHarmony started out as a very deliberate, psychologically driven dating site. That is why I believe that the crafters of the questions had some reason for the questions that they used and would gain something from how a person has answered a particular question.
 
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tweet37 wrote :
Maybe I'm a bit naive, but I don't believe there was any underlying reasons for any of the questions in GC other than to break the ice and provide something to discuss later.

Some answers to some questions may indicate baggage or may provide some other insight, but all the reading between the lines here seems a bit of a stretch to me.

But then I'm not that good about psychobabble. I'm an engineer.
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In the same boat here, but I bet there were discussions in the corner office about each question. I think their insight would be entertaining.

I didn't put much stock in the replies either, but more the manner in which the gals answered. Enthusiastic? Creative? Timely?
 
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