mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #1  May 2,2011, 1:20pm
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...I must have a partner who mainly enjoys staying in together and having quiet evenings alone or with close friends.

I have gotten this as a Must Have from a few matches recently.
On the surface, I do not have a problem with this, because I am not one of those social butterflies who has to be on the go all the time. Since I am single, with few single friends, you will find me at home on a weekend night more often than you will find me out.

However, if I had a partner, it would be nice to go out and do things together. At least in the early stages of dating. If I wanted to sit home on the couch and have a quiet evening doing nothing, I might as well stay single.
 
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Well, except for that baby thing.
 
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This is one of those "Must haves" that needs clarifying in OC, but definitely not a reason to hit the close button.

And this is one of those Must Haves that makes me think the whole MHCS section of eHarmony is pretty useless.
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
...I must have a partner who mainly enjoys staying in together and having quiet evenings alone or with close friends.

I have gotten this as a Must Have from a few matches recently.
On the surface, I do not have a problem with this, because I am not one of those social butterflies who has to be on the go all the time. Since I am single, with few single friends, you will find me at home on a weekend night more often than you will find me out.

However, if I had a partner, it would be nice to go out and do things together. At least in the early stages of dating. If I wanted to sit home on the couch and have a quiet evening doing nothing, I might as well stay single.

Well, is it a dealbreaker for you or not? If so, then properly close. If not, then ask for clarification that way you can get a better understanding of where he is coming from.

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mitchell175 wrote :
...I must have a partner who mainly enjoys staying in together and having quiet evenings alone or with close friends.

I have gotten this as a Must Have from a few matches recently.
On the surface, I do not have a problem with this, because I am not one of those social butterflies who has to be on the go all the time. Since I am single, with few single friends, you will find me at home on a weekend night more often than you will find me out.

However, if I had a partner, it would be nice to go out and do things together. At least in the early stages of dating. If I wanted to sit home on the couch and have a quiet evening doing nothing, I might as well stay single.
I have always assumed this one means that they don't to be hanging out at bars and dancing away the night, every night.

There are some people that just really like to be out every night, always out on the town, and never really like to have a quiet night at home cooking dinner together and catching a movie together.
I suspect that this one is meant to catch those kinds of people.

Granted, at my age 36 (almost 37), I assume that by this time, those bar-hopping days for my Matches are in their past.

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I do not use that MH/CS, because I figure I will learn pretty early on whether she seems to be these kinds of people or not.
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
...I must have a partner who mainly enjoys staying in together and having quiet evenings alone or with close friends.

I have gotten this as a Must Have from a few matches recently.
On the surface, I do not have a problem with this, because I am not one of those social butterflies who has to be on the go all the time. Since I am single, with few single friends, you will find me at home on a weekend night more often than you will find me out.

However, if I had a partner, it would be nice to go out and do things together. At least in the early stages of dating. If I wanted to sit home on the couch and have a quiet evening doing nothing, I might as well stay single.
The problem with these Must Anythings is that they are totally dependent on the person who's using them (meaning, you have no idea what they mean to them or why they included them). I could well change many of mine any day of the week, depending on how I feel THAT day -- not all, but many. You never know until you truly get to know that person or he or she tells you, directly, I *really* want this.
 
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I also, broadly, tend to see this as "not a party animal/bar person."
 
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must have staying in = boring home person.
 
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BabyYoda wrote :
Well, is it a dealbreaker for you or not? If so, then properly close. If not, then ask for clarification that way you can get a better understanding of where he is coming from.

B.Y.
Not a deal breaker, just an observation. I am certainly not one of those out-at-the-bar-every-night kind of girls, and never have been. My friends and I often joke about "Remember how we used to go out Thursday, Friday AND Saturday night?" like we were out "every night of the week". I guess some people really do that, have to be out clubbing all the time. But, then they grow up, and realize life is not always about "doing stuff".

But, I still wouldn't want to be with a guy who NEVER likes to go out, except to the video store.
 
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My thought is it might be a clever way of stating that they are tight on funds right now....so they are trying to set the bar low...

Now...we all know that there are plenty of ways to get out with little to no cost...so I think it would be worth asking a bit more about in OC or on the phone...(don't have to ask about money per say...just about what they like to do for fun and how they spend a typical weekend)...

I put in my profile in the 'more about me' info that because of my neck surgeries....my life is about a balance of activities like hiking, camping, going to museums, etc.....that I also love my snuggle time in front of the fire with a good movie/tv show..
 
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