Video on eHarmony - yes or no?


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eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  April 27,2011, 3:57pm
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If eHarmony added an option to show video on your account, would you use it? If you had a match who provided a video, would you watch it?
 
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No, I would not add a video. Besides the fact that I don't have a web cam, I understand the effort it would take to make a (good) video. My background in marketing would force me to be a perfectionist about it, and then it wouldn't be fun. We do have a camcorder, but my son is the expert on that.

I don't know that watching a video would gain me anything more than what is already on a profile. So, I probably wouldn't watch one unless I really had hard time figuring out a profile.

I think if this was an option it would just create more reasons for people to close. "well, he didn't have a video, he's not serious about dating, so I closed him." Yep, that would become the next thing to complain about.
 
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
If eHarmony added an option to show video on your account, would you use it?
I assume that the rules would be the same as for the profile pictures where you had to be in it?

Right now, no I probably wouldn't use it. I don't have any good video of me that isn't a demo tape from college and I'm not really interested in shooting some video for this.

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If you had a match who provided a video, would you watch it?
Sure, I'd watch it if it was there, but this isn't a change I'm clamoring for. I don't know if eHarmony has the staff to keep people from posting random videos (OMG! I love this song!!!). This would also be a fantastic way to circumvent the TOS about contact information. Unless eHarmony takes the time to review every video, what's to stop someone from saying "here's my number/email/etc." or making up some sort of card with all that info?
 
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Nope.. I wouldn't post a video..

eH has enough technical problems now, I can only imagine what new issues this would bring. Plus who is going to pay for this upgrade?




However Lori, you would have a gazillion new fresh topics in this forum..
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I don't think it would add much for the user. But putting my engineering/marketing hat on, are you kidding!!! Where are you going to find the testers to watch every video before putting it up to ensure there is no inappropriate content. Not to mention the technical issues of posting a video when eHarmony seems a bit stretched on accepting photos. I'm thinking they really, really don't want to go there.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
No, I would not add a video. Besides the fact that I don't have a web cam, I understand the effort it would take to make a (good) video. My background in marketing would force me to be a perfectionist about it, and then it wouldn't be fun. We do have a camcorder, but my son is the expert on that.
My perfectionism would make recording a video take forever as well. I would hate doing it but probably would.

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I don't know that watching a video would gain me anything more than what is already on a profile. So, I probably wouldn't watch one unless I really had hard time figuring out a profile.
A voice, facial expressions, sense of humor, potentially, tone, etc.

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I think if this was an option it would just create more reasons for people to close. "well, he didn't have a video, he's not serious about dating, so I closed him." Yep, that would become the next thing to complain about.
Sure, but people could say the same thing about pictures, or any other feature that gets added. Eventually, all of those features video gives you will be exposed, why not get them out of the way in the beginning.

In short, most people would watch videos of their matches and hate doing it themselves.

A related comment: Why don't they offer the option for video chats? I think those would be a better option than a video on your profile.
 
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Yeah, that would be a no on the video. Wasn't this done in small rooms of dating offices back in 80's or something? Besides, some members won't or can't even post pics How about just requiring every member to have photos to start?
And yet I can just imagine the people at eH screening thousands of videos to catch the "naughty bits"
 
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kitmarlowe wrote :
Wasn't this done in small rooms of dating offices back in 80's or something?
Video dating reminds me of the 90's movie..'Singles' with Matt Dillion & Bridget Fonda..
 
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I would use this option. I vlog on Youtube and I have quite a few regulars that I watch videos of on Youtube and I must say that when you watch videos, you feel more connected to the person behind the screen. Like you get a feel for them and I think this could help make make for a better decision as far as pursuing communicating or not. Perhaps their photos were horrible but yet as I watched a quick video their natural smile captivated me or their laughter. These things could easily change my mind about a person and not make a judgment off of a few still pictures. Likewise, I would love to have the opportunity for men to get a taste of how quirky, sexy and humorous I could be in just a quick video on my profile as well.

It could just be a quick 1-3 minute introduction too. Nothing long-winded.
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eHA_Admin_Lori wrote :
If eHarmony added an option to show video on your account, would you use it? If you had a match who provided a video, would you watch it?
I wouldn't use this option, just because I think it would be yet another hindrance to people actually getting together and meeting face-to-face. Besides, if they want to see me in 3-D, they're just going to have to meet me!

As for watching a video provided, I guess if it was there, I'd watch it. I wouldn't count it against anyone who didn't have a video.

I think, though, that people will have a greater tendency to close out individuals who have videos. Let's face it, based on some of the comments on the boards, a picture from a bad angle will get your profile shut down faster than you can blink, so a video where you're nervous and the light might not be flattering? No thanks.

I have a question, though, Lori...would these videos be protected so they couldn't be removed from the site and posted anywhere else? It would be sooooo humiliating to go on YouTube and find my botched dating video there, beating out Justin Bieber for worst video of all time!!
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