Video on eHarmony - yes or no?


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ScottK is offline ScottK Post #21  April 29,2011, 8:06am
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ami1uwant wrote :
I would not post a video.

I also see people using this video for other things...similar to craigs list where it notes a pic posted and then you think it would be a persons photo but it ends up being some other photo.
Presumably, they (eH) will be watching each Video before it is allowed to be posted, very similar to what they do for Photos.

Otherwise, like you said, it would be ripe for exploitation and abuse.
 
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As for my viewpoint on this...

I don't think it is needed, and I would guess very few people are clamouring for this.

I know eHarmony is trying to find new things to add to try to bring in new customers, and yes, it has a certain "draw" to it...
ie, lets make eHarmony more of a social web site like Facebook!

If eHarmony was a teen dating site, perhaps it would be a good idea.
But eHarmony is not.

Lets ignore the fact that probably 50%+ of the people on eHarmony probably don't have the capability or know how of doing a video and posting it.

But also take into account that people agonize about trying to find Photos that make them look reasonably flattering, let alone taking a Video that does!

To be honest, I think for a lot of people, having a Video will actually be detrimental to their success on eHarmony.
It is VERY difficult to shoot a good one that captures you and your best features well enough.

Does eHarmony REALLY want users to have to agonize frame by frame about any Video they post?

It would be HORRIBLE for so many people!

That being said...
Yes, I would probably post one, because I have the capability and knowledge to do so, but I would absolutely hate doing it, and I would hate eHarmony for making me do it.

(They in essence ARE make you do it if they add this, because without it, people will feel like they are hurting their chances with their Matches)
 
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ScottK wrote :
(They in essence ARE make you do it if they add this, because without it, people will feel like they are hurting their chances with their Matches)
I can just see the "he/she didn't have a video, so I know he/she isn't really taking the whole thing seriously" thing popping up here regularly.

This really wouldn't be much different than pictures. Posting pictures to your profile is, technically, completely optional, but choosing not to post pictures can have an adverse affect on your experience.
 
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MicMan wrote :
This really wouldn't be much different than pictures. Posting pictures to your profile is, technically, completely optional, but choosing not to post pictures can have an adverse affect on your experience.
Yup, but it is even worse.

Most people can find a couple Photos that showcase themselves in a good light...
On a good hair day, good face day, good tan day, whatever.

But for a Video, that is just so much harder to do!

We all don't have Videos of ourselves lying around that we can select the best from.
It is very likely that we all would have to create a Video specifically for eHarmony.

This means people will be agonizing over how they look in the Video, how they act, how they talk, etc.

Seriously, I could see some people spending DAYS if not WEEKS trying to create a Video that showcases them in a good way.

And for those that don't, they will just get very unhappy about how bad their Video attempts turned out, and be a more unhappy Match for all of us.

Personally, I think having Video is a big mistake.

If anything, they should not have Video, because they should be encouraging people to MEET soon, and thus rendering the Video moot.
 
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Frankly, I don't see a lot of people taking the time to create a video to showcase their lives. The reality is that most videos will probably wind up being dark, grainy webcam videos with a v/o of "So...I'm John...and...uh..: and so on and so forth. Those videos will likely be more of a detraction than an attraction.

If someone is really itching to show a match a video now, they're welcome to do that when they get to OC. As it is, I don't think this is where eHarmony should be spending its resources.
 
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Yes I would use it, and yes I would watch their video. Mostly because I can see if pictures are matching up with the video.

That said, I doubt most people would be able to create a very good video on their own.
 
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Absolutely.

We live in a digital age where everyone has a camera and anyone under forty knows how to upload a video. You can learn more about a persons true self watching them speak in a sixty second video then reading a profile that looks like so many others. I would use it gladly. If it had already been a tool utilized on eH would have saved emotions and time invested in someone, who ten seconds into meeting and seeing what they were truly like knew would never be a compatible match.
 
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It would be fascinating to ask this same question when Generation Y (people born 1981-2000) become the majority on EHA. I wonder if they would be more eager to use video than we are.

I would guess the majority of EHA respondents today are baby-boomers and Gen X (born 1965-80).
 
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