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Sakura365 wrote :

I think I read this in a post on here somewhere, some people said that they've gotten at most 7 at a time (a limit perhaps). It depends on how many people have signed up for the day and whether or not they "matched" you in those 29 dimensions.


And what I've realized is that they come in spurts, if I remember I click the button, if not, I just let the matches come.


Good luck!
Thanks for mentioning that the most they give is 7 at a time! I've been on for a week, and have been getting 6 a day, with a 1 time exception of 7. I haven't tried the button yet, but now I won't bother....before anyone get jealous, only 2 matches have been from the city I'm in...the rest are at least 1 hour away, and most have ignored my first set of questions. Sigh.
- June 22nd, 2008, 07:41 pm
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I've only had it work once. Good to know I'm not alone.
- June 22nd, 2008, 09:11 pm
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I think what you have to do is keep hitting the find new matches button while closing out those you're not interested in. Don't let your box get jammed up.
- June 23rd, 2008, 06:15 am
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miss_cinderella wrote :

I was told by an eHarmony rep that using the "find matches" button actually reduces your chances of being matched, because it overrides the system's 24 hour search, and the system is often times not likely to do a thorough matching process in the minute or so that it takes to do the "find matches" search.
I doubt that. I never hit the button and my matches SUCK...There is no way someone is doing a thorough matching process and think these men are a good match for me..if so, they should be fired..I mean they have become so pathetic I only read the profiles to get a good laugh.
- June 23rd, 2008, 12:54 pm
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JerseyGirl wrote :

miss_cinderella wrote :


I was told by an eHarmony rep that using the "find matches" button actually reduces your chances of being matched, because it overrides the system's 24 hour search, and the system is often times not likely to do a thorough matching process in the minute or so that it takes to do the "find matches" search.


I doubt that. I never hit the button and my matches SUCK...There is no way someone is doing a thorough matching process and think these men are a good match for me..if so, they should be fired..I mean they have become so pathetic I only read the profiles to get a good laugh.
I bet if they took their 29 points and turned them upside down we would all have perfect matches.
- June 23rd, 2008, 01:01 pm
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Hi Folks,


If you aren't getting the matches you want perhaps... just perhaps you weren't thinking along the lines that would have brought you the matches that you want when you answered all of those nifty questions...I had to read that sentence several times beforeI understood it and I wrote the d#$n thing...


We aren't matched physically correct? So if these are physical things that are keeping you from meeting your matches well... that's life on EH. If I don't like what a person looks like I close them.


If you are getting closed out allot look at your profile. I read about one guy who was getting closed out constantly so I looked at his profile... Trust me, women don't want to read that you are still into comic books... That's the cold hard truth... It might be time to take a hard lookat what you have written in there.


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- June 23rd, 2008, 04:59 pm
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EH matches, not really sure there's anything happening here. I joined EH a while back, but found that all my matches were "flexible matches", meaning randomly selected individuals that aren't matched anywhere else....I cancelled my subscription and SUDDENLY I was getting matches constantly. They finally lured me back with 60% off, thought I'd give it a go again and...suddenly...as soon as I'd paid up, no new matches AND none of the existing matches have responded. Get new matches button...it's supposed to do something? It's never done anything when I press it either ....
- June 24th, 2008, 09:33 pm
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I notice that I'll have at most about 6 people on my list at any one time, it's not till one of those gets closed that I like magic get a new match and ya that button NEVER has worked for me.
- June 24th, 2008, 09:38 pm
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I've experimented with this "option" before, both with and without changing my preferences. I've never have gotten new and/or additional matches.


The verdict is still out if it's a "real" thing or not. If it's real, then I must be doing something wrong (I live in a major Midwestern city). If it's not real and just a gimmick...it's a cruel gimmick.
- June 24th, 2008, 09:54 pm
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LawyerDan wrote :

kim9610 wrote :


LOL...Not happy with your matches LawyerDan?


they are all too slow I need more lolol. How can 22 people not respond and not close out. I think EH is giving me nothing but nonsubscribers. I even changed my preferences to everything on earth just to get more cycling through. I hit the button and it never gives me more matches. Ahhh the humanity!
I get plenty of matches probably 10-15 a day but no takers. Litteraly 10-15 per day either close me out or do not respond at all .......the majority would be the second.


- June 24th, 2008, 11:32 pm
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