MicMan is offline MicMan Post #11  March 10,2011, 12:05pm
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Addressing just the close part: there's no harm in leaving a match open.
 
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You need to give him some time. I have travelled for work for a week it tends to be pretty busy where all you do is work sleep and eat. You dont have much time to do much else.

Also if he was traveling he may not have access to his account because if he was bringing the work computer he doesnt have access to the site.

online relationships is VERY VERY COMMON for out of site/out of mind to kick in. There are numerous times when someone say I will be away on vacation for a week and then when they come back they seemed to disappear because they6 likely forgot about you.

Its also quite possible you arent the only one he is communicating with so say he is communicating with 3 different women he has them ranked based on whod he like to be with and then focuses on those and forgets about the others.

Not sure of your timing...but its possible he was not a paying member who left the system when the free communication month died at the end off february.

He also sounds like he is new to this because he sent an icebreaker which is what a novice doess instead of sending first 5 questions. Being a novice he may have gotten swarmed by the system with matches and communication so he realizes he cant talk to 5 at a time so instead of closing out people he just slows communication with those lower on his priority list.
 
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mariane38 wrote :
Hi, i am pretty new to Eharmony and to the Board . I have been matched with a man and really like his profile. He's the one who sent me first an Icebreaker " i like your smile" so i have answerd and sent him the First Questions , he answered within 2 days . Then he sent his question and i answered . Everything went pretty fast until the 2nd questions . He took him 10 days to answer . I sent an icebreaker and then he answered something like sorry i have been busy with work . 5 days ago i sent him my questions and still no answer . So i would like to get your point of view since he's the first one who sent me an icebreaker . Do you think that he's doing that cause he has no interest in me ?? should i close him ? I really don't get a lot of matches everyday and sometimes none and i really like his profile ....
I really believe it is up to you to decide if this person is worth waiting for. Personally, I have found that people who stall on completing the GC process isn't interested or has placed the person they are communicating with(or better yet a lack of communication) at the bottom of their dating priority list.

We are all busy. That should never be an excuse as to why someone can't communicate with someone. I see people at work on the phone talking/texting, on their ipad/laptop as well as while driving, shopping, eating, etc.

It really doesn't take much time to answer three questions(it should not take no longer than a few sentences per question which equals a few mins out of a 24 hour day).

Now, one option for you is to skip the GC process and request to go to open communication. From there, exchange numbers and plan to meet.

Another option is for you is to look at other profiles and initiate contact with them and see if there is a possibility to start the GC process.

Lastly, you can close out this individual and move on.

So, to answer your question...You should keep the profile open, but put a statue of limitations on it. After a determined date(by you), if you don't hear from your match by that date, then close out the profile. Think of it this way, if a person you don't know starts off with bad communication skills, what makes you think it will get better should you hook up with the person? What makes you think that said person will all of a sudden have a plethora of time once the both of you meet? If said person is busy today, said person will most likely be busy tomorrow, next week and next month.

Value your time and hopefully good results will come about for you.

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MicMan wrote :
Addressing just the close part: there's no harm in leaving a match open.
^^^ This.

Plus he's probably busy communicating with / dating others, which is what you should be doing too. When the others fizzle out, he'll be back.
 
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I had a match on EH who stopped responding after we got to OC, but I kept him open anyway. I just found him on OK Cupid and noticed he was "online now" (that's at least one advantage over EH, where for all you know the guy hasn't logged on in 3 years...). I sent him a message on OKC and got a notification that he read it, but he did not write back. Maybe he'll close me out on EH now? Who knows what his deal is... I certainly don't.
 
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It depends on the situation. At two different times, I found someone I was interested in. I closed the first match because he kept writing to me but never took the next step. And the length of time between emails was slowly getting longer. The second time, we went out twice and he was hinting at plans in the future. I remember clearly he did look at me critically once during the meal. Then I didn't hear anything for over a week and sent him a brief, kind email. He emailed back but he did not ask me out again. I responded and waited a few days. I noticed during that time he was active on his account on days he was not communicating with me. All signs pointed to a decreasing level of interest on his part so I closed the match. I felt like the tables had turned and I was pursuing him. In my mind, when I'm obviously more interested than they are, I close the match so I can move on and keep myself open for the next one.
 
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