mstewar1 is offline mstewar1 Post #1  February 19,2011, 6:54pm
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Thank you for taking the time to critique my profile. I appreciate any input you might have to make it better.


The one thing I am most passionate about:

Family... I love the idea of a Dad, Mom, Children and the cat/dog. I thrive in knowing that men were created to be the head of the home and loving toward their wife and that women were created to respect and care for their husband and children. God is the center of my family and I love knowing He has a plan for my life.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:

Faith in God, Honesty, loyalty and the ability to love and care for a family. I need someone who is able to love and be loved. I am looking for a man who can fulfill their God given role as Spiritual leader (No, I don't expect you to be a preacher or hold a Ph.D. in Theology ~ only be willing to continually grow closer to God and have a family that wants to do the same.) and the head of a household; a man who can, "love his wife as Christ loved the church." That is my dream.

The most influential person in my life has been:

God. Thanks to Him I now understand the meaning of marriage and that God has that perfect someone out there for me, if that is HIS will. Without Him, I would never have known what I was capable of being. The instructions for a loving marriage, home and life are clear and now I know that happiness and contentment are achievable.

The three things which I am most thankful for:

God
My children
Great friends

Three of my best life-skills are:

1. Sharing my beliefs through teaching, participation, and example
2. Being a good friend and companion
3. Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

How loyal, honest and caring I am. It's not an act. I love to pour my heart out to others and I never expect anything in return.

The things I can't live without are:

God & A Church that truly preaches the Word
My Children
My Friends & Family
My love of the arts
Passion for life

The first thing people notice about me:

I am optimistic and truly care about others.

Some additional information I want you to know:

I know what I want, who I am and that I deserve to be happy. I want to continue growing in Christ and learn more about what He has planned for my life. I want to share my life with someone who knows how to love and how to be loved. I have been on my own for over nine years and I am ready to share my life again with the one God has for me.

I typically spend my leisure time:

I enjoy creating a calm, beautiful home. I also enjoy being active outdoors (when it is warm!), listening to and reading books, and playing games with my children.

The last book I read and enjoyed:

I love to read and do it a lot. The last book I completed was The Testament by John Grisham. It was about a missionary who finds out that she is heir to eleven billion dollars and wants nothing to do with it. She is content to live among the tribal people who she loves so much. Also, I enjoy A Purpose Driven Life and completing the journal that accompanies it. I just completed Brisingr, and the fifth book of the Gregor series... So, my book tastes are very diverse! Yes, Harry Potter is also a favorite!

My friends describe me as:

Caring
Loyal
Thoughtful
Intelligent
 
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elterco7 is offline elterco7 Post #2  February 19,2011, 7:20pm
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"God & A Church that truly preaches the Word"

You might want to specify a denomination here since this phrase is in your "must have" list. If you wrote it this way because you don't mean to specify a denomination, it would help to be more specific in some way.
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #3  February 19,2011, 8:06pm
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All I saw was references to God, God, God, God and God.... At least 10. Maybe you'll have better luck matching up with someone in the ministries.
 
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PreachersSon is offline PreachersSon Post #4  February 19,2011, 8:47pm
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Okay, let me take a crack at this. I share many of your presuppositions here, about God, the Bible, and a church that "Truly preaches God's Word", as well as the relative roles of husbands and wives within marriage. So, this is not meant in any way sarcastic or demeaning.

However, a couple of things jump out at me. First, saying the same thing over and over (and over) gets a little grating after about the third or fourth time. We get it, you're a real Christian, whose values affect her life. You want a home where God is central, and the husband leads and loves. This is NOT the answer to every question, and pretending it is, is decidedly not helpful. It doesn't phase the guys who don't agree with you, and it tends to turn off even those who do--especially after the third or fourth time yourepeat it.

Closely related to that is the second thing. Too little real personal information that might cause a guy to like you--for you. The closest you got to something that gave us a sense of "you" was in the "Last BooK I read" section, where you talk about John Grisham, Harry Potter, etc.

Are you part of the choir, or special music at your church? Do you like classical music? Country? Contemporary Christian? Gospel? Southern Gospel? Do you play any sports? Did you in high school? What do you watch on tv? Do you have an ironic sense of humor or a more traditional one? The idea is, what is it about YOU, as a person, that would make someone want to be your friend, or date you, or even, some day, marry you? You need those personal touches in the profile.

Third, and last, not to be blunt, but where did those kids come from? You mention them 5 or 6 times, I think, but never give us any idea whether they were conceived out of wedlock (which doesn't seem likely, for someone with the professed Biblical values you tout, unless you "came to Jesus" after they came along.), or are you divorced or widowed? If they are going to be featured so prominently in your profile, you need to at least hint at the answer to this issue. It might make a difference in the kind of guys you attract, and the kind of advances they make.

Again, this is not meant to demean you in any way for your faith or principles. Just a friendly voice, trying to be honest and helpful.
 
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suzyque is offline suzyque Post #5  February 19,2011, 8:55pm
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I think it is good that you put your relationship with Christ front and center in your profile. You are understandably looking for a man equally passionate about his walk. I would, however, personalize your profile a bit more. Be more specific. Talk about your hobbies, your occupation, pets if you have any, what makes you laugh. Let the prospective match get an idea of the woman you are. There are men out there as passionate as you - I had met two in the short period of time I was dating. Overall it is a good profile, well written - I would just add more personal details. Good luck!
 
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Rob625 is offline Rob625 Post #6  May 16,2011, 8:22pm
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I was struck by the repetitiveness of the profile. It is enough to state clearly the importance of your religion in your life and then move on. As it is, you give the impression that you are hiding behind your religion. The other thing that bothered me was the over-use of the word "love". Count how many times you used variants of this word. It does not make a good impression. I liked the description of the book best, since that is the only place in the profile where I felt you were giving us a glimpse of who you are, rather than who you want to be.
 
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