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I had a guy who gave me one sentence answers to nearly every question I sent him in OC. It was hugely frustrating because he also forgot to ask me anything in return. It got to the point where it was so one-sided I felt like I was interrogating him. I think in the end he closed me but it was actually a relief - no more pulling teeth...


I'd be careful about asking her to call too soon. There are enough weirdos out there that it's hard to tell before OC and I'm not keen on giving my phone number (cell or home) to someone I don't know at least somewhat. I had a guy leave just his phone number in his first OC message. Even though I was somewhat interested, it was an instant close. Give me some of your time and thoughts first.


I like RSG's idea of sending a note with an e-mail address. I'll have to try that sometime.
- June 20th, 2008, 09:58 am
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okay guys...here's the girl's take on it. I've only gotten to OC with 4-5 matches. My first to reach OC was within the first week of signing up. I set him an email with some more info on me. He replied...."WOW, you type fast. When could we meet up face to face." That's a little too fast for me. Another guy gave me his number, cell # and personal email in the 2nd email and expected me to call HIM! My final bad OC was the guy who was upset that I mentioned a slow down in my matches with EH--"you are still matching, I turned my off"...hello, did when did we agree to be exclusive?? I'm all for emailing back and forth and calling when the time is right. I have 2 matches I still have OC with on our personal emails but I don't think it will go beyond that.


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Those guys sound just plaint weird and creepy.


That said, I agree with RSG. I tend to like to, as we say down here, git er done. I do not like to waste a great deal of time emailing and phoneing because the correlation between online and phone chemistry and personal chemistry is low. I like to get to OC, get a feel for the person, make sure they are not nuts, maybe shoot a few personal emails back and forth (again looking for red flags and creepy things), and then meet for a drink somewhere.


It is hard when you get people who do not communicate because, as Corky said, you feel like you are interrogating them. You never really get a sense of who they are. I guess they must be either ultrashy, something I cannot at all relate to, too busy to really be involved in this, and or not interested and just goofing off. In the latter case, I guess the trigger should be pulled.
- June 20th, 2008, 10:18 am
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MW77009 wrote :

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okay guys...here's the girl's take on it. I've only gotten to OC with 4-5 matches. My first to reach OC was within the first week of signing up. I set him an email with some more info on me. He replied...."WOW, you type fast. When could we meet up face to face." That's a little too fast for me. Another guy gave me his number, cell # and personal email in the 2nd email and expected me to call HIM! My final bad OC was the guy who was upset that I mentioned a slow down in my matches with EH--"you are still matching, I turned my off"...hello, did when did we agree to be exclusive?? I'm all for emailing back and forth and calling when the time is right. I have 2 matches I still have OC with on our personal emails but I don't think it will go beyond that.


mw77009---some of your austinite women can do the work too!!


Those guys sound just plaint weird and creepy.


That said, I agree with RSG. I tend to like to, as we say down here, git er done. I do not like to waste a great deal of time emailing and phoneing because the correlation between online and phone chemistry and personal chemistry is low. I like to get to OC, get a feel for the person, make sure they are not nuts, maybe shoot a few personal emails back and forth (again looking for red flags and creepy things), and then meet for a drink somewhere.


It is hard when you get people who do not communicate because, as Corky said, you feel like you are interrogating them. You never really get a sense of who they are. I guess they must be either ultrashy, something I cannot at all relate to, too busy to really be involved in this, and or not interested and just goofing off. In the latter case, I guess the trigger should be pulled.
The first guy I got to OC with gave me his cell phone number immediately. We emailed back and forth for about a week and he seemed ok. As soon as I gave him my number it was non-stop text messaging. I don't know about you guys but I have to pay for that and I don't see the need for extra monthly charges for it to "be free". He called alot and always called me "sweetie". He kept asking when we would meet and since our schedules were both so chaotic at the time I said just hang on for about a week. I was camping the day we met. He wanted to know what time we would be back so we could have a late dinner. I called him at 7pm and said I'm exhausted we just got back and he expected me to meet half way, (about an hour) anyway. When we got there it was ok but it wasn't great. I haven't spoken to him since.


The second guy was better and we had ALOT in common. We exchanged numbers but it was pulling teeth to get him to talk about anything. I'd ask a question and it was one word answers "very frustrating". Online we talked great. I even came up with a plan to see "Wicked" together. I told him whoever buys the tickets is in control. If we don't meet up that person would choose another to go with him/her so we wouldn't be out any money. He loved this idea, thought it was great, but he never offered to pay for the tickets. I was very frustrated with this especially when he knew I was on a tight budget and it would be a month or two before I could get the cash. Right out of the blue we quit talking.


I'm very frustrated and am starting to hate EH.
- July 2nd, 2008, 08:49 pm
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corky44 wrote :

I had a guy who gave me one sentence answers to nearly every question I sent him in OC. It was hugely frustrating because he also forgot to ask me anything in return. It got to the point where it was so one-sided I felt like I was interrogating him. I think in the end he closed me but it was actually a relief - no more pulling teeth...


I'd be careful about asking her to call too soon. There are enough weirdos out there that it's hard to tell before OC and I'm not keen on giving my phone number (cell or home) to someone I don't know at least somewhat. I had a guy leave just his phone number in his first OC message. Even though I was somewhat interested, it was an instant close. Give me some of your time and thoughts first.


I like RSG's idea of sending a note with an e-mail address. I'll have to try that sometime.
EH suggest that you get the guys number and call them. That was a surprise to me...but they say it is for safety purposes. Same with e-mail - make sure it doesn't have your last name associated to it. It is amazing how easy it is to find people by email addresses and for the weirdos out there to find you.
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EH suggest that you get the guys number and call them. That was a surprise to me...but they say it is for safety purposes. Same with e-mail - make sure it doesn't have your last name associated to it. It is amazing how easy it is to find people by email addresses and for the weirdos out there to find you.
That is why I got rely ID. It says I am whom I say that I am.
- July 3rd, 2008, 04:41 am
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When I got ino OC last month with someone that I am interested in. We have been in OC for a month now and have not gone any further. I have given him my e mail address and he said I was moving to fast that was after 3 weeks of OC. So we are still in OC and write each other a few times a week.


How do I know if the person is interested? Should I come right out and ask. But I don't want to be too pushy and fast since just giving him my email was to fast I guess.
- July 3rd, 2008, 09:08 am
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