Contacting someone who doesn't have Secure Call


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acgoldis is offline acgoldis Post #1  February 13,2011, 3:57pm
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Hi! I have a girl who wants to talk with me via Secure Call. However, when I try to contact her using the service, it says she hasn't signed up for it. I get the impression she really wants to chat, though.

How can I contact her some other way? I've used my icebreaker, and the "Next Step" just includes "Place Secure Call" and "Close Match".
 
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Hi! I have a girl who wants to talk with me via Secure Call. However, when I try to contact her using the service, it says she hasn't signed up for it. I get the impression she really wants to chat, though.

How can I contact her some other way? I've used my icebreaker, and the "Next Step" just includes "Place Secure Call" and "Close Match".
I've been on and off of eh for several years, and have never really known or cared what "Secure Call" is, nor have I known anyone who has used it. It seems to me like a lame attempt to get extra money from us. If she won't talk to you through regular communication, I'd move on.
 
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Are you in OC with this match?

Why not just ask for her number. If she's not comfortable giving it out, then give her yours and she can block her number when calling..

Otherwise I think both members have to be secure-call paying subscribers -not positive though..

ETA: other members here have used google voice. You may want to look into that too. Maybe Sparkles or Mitchell will chime in about it..
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Have her get a Google Voice number. Get one yourself. That way, neither of you will know your real number.

I give all of my dates my GV number instead of my real cell number. Since I have a Droid, I can make and receive calls and texts via my GV number instead of my cell number.
 
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Sparkles56 wrote :
Have her get a Google Voice number. Get one yourself. That way, neither of you will know your real number.
Loving the google voice idea! I saw your recommendations earlier, so I set up a GV # and a gmail account.
Ah, technology!
 
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acgoldis is offline acgoldis Post #6  February 13,2011, 4:36pm
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The problem is that I don't know how to contact her at this point, period. I don't have her phone number or email address, and I can't figure out how to talk to her on eHarmony in any way OTHER than Secure Call.
 
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This doesn't make a whole lot of sense.

Without seeing your screen, I can't really tell you what is going on,
but there should never be a time where those are your only 2 options.

Are you a paying member?

Or are you a non-paying member taking advantage of the Free GUIDED Communication Event?

Assuming you are a paying member, you should contact eHarmony support, as there is something wrong.

If you are a non-paying member, then it is possible those ARE your only 2 options unless you pay up.
(Which is odd that they would offer a Secure Call for a non-paying member, but hey, who knows...)
 
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ScottK wrote :
This doesn't make a whole lot of sense.

Without seeing your screen, I can't really tell you what is going on,
but there should never be a time where those are your only 2 options.

Are you a paying member?

Or are you a non-paying member taking advantage of the Free GUIDED Communication Event?

Assuming you are a paying member, you should contact eHarmony support, as there is something wrong.

If you are a non-paying member, then it is possible those ARE your only 2 options unless you pay up.
(Which is odd that they would offer a Secure Call for a non-paying member, but hey, who knows...)
I'm a paying member for Secure Call. The normal email option isn't letting me send another one because it claimed I sent a message back on the 10th or somewhere like that (but that message was an icebreaker or something so I can't send a new one -- it says "be patient"). I sent the icebreaker because I had nothing else available to send.
 
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acgoldis wrote :
I'm a paying member for Secure Call. The normal email option isn't letting me send another one because it claimed I sent a message back on the 10th or somewhere like that (but that message was an icebreaker or something so I can't send a new one -- it says "be patient"). I sent the icebreaker because I had nothing else available to send.
If you had nothing else to send then something is wrong or you've been closed...

call customer-care.

eH Contact Info, Acronyms and Workshop thread info posted here!

Without clicking on the matches profile...what does the big orange button say next to your matches name?
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