Nate879 is offline Nate879 Post #1  February 13,2011, 2:51am
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Hi everyone,

I need some help with coming up with an answer for this question: "Tonight you can do anything you want, no penalties, no reprisals, and the cost is unimportant. What are you going to do?" I'm more of a reserved, quiet person and I think she is too (she had Staying In as a Must Have) and I'm having trouble coming up with an answer for this question. I'm not asking you to tell me what to write, I just need some help brainstorming.

She is the first match to communicate with me and I really don't want to mess this up by giving a bad answer. On a related note, if we've gotten this far and had many things match up (the majority of our Must Haves/Can't stands and of our answers to the 1st questions were the same) how much do I have to worry about answering these questions? I'm going to have well-thought, honest answers of course.

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TrekRyder10 is offline TrekRyder10 Post #2  February 13,2011, 4:12am
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Nate879 wrote :
I really don't want to mess this up by giving a bad answer.
You're already messing it up by trying to come up with an answer you think she wants to hear.

This is not a dealbreaker question- so if someone is going to be so judgemental on a goofy question like this, and would close you out because of your answer.. then trust me- you dodged a bullet..

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how much do I have to worry about answering these questions?
On the worry meter.. ZERO!
Many of the Q's and the MH/CS are subjective. This board is evidence that not everyone views them the same way..

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I'm going to have well-thought, honest answers of course.
Is there really a well-thought honest answer for a hypothetical question? IMO a goofy question deserves a goofy answer..buts that just me.

- Tonight I would have Disneyland shut down the park to the public, so my family,friends and I don't have to wait in long lines.

- For one night only.. I want to be a back-up singer/dancer for Justin Bieber

Don't take the question(s) so seriously, there is no "perfect" answer. Yes..I know my answers are a bit off the wall.

Look at it this way.. what would you answer be if she asked you this Q face to face.. Would you say "let me get back to you with a well-thought out honest answer" or would you just roll with it?


Good luck..
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Wiseman2 is offline Wiseman2 Post #3  February 13,2011, 5:45am
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What would your honest answer be regardless of her homebody must have?..........Try putting that........it's a fun hypothetical question anyway..........Good Luck........
Nate879 wrote :
"Tonight you can do anything you want, no penalties, no reprisals, and the cost is unimportant. What are you going to do?" I'm going to have well-thought, honest answers of course.
 
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mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #4  February 13,2011, 6:54am
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Agree with the others. This is not a "serious, make-a-difference" kind of question.
This is where you can show some levity, be a little outrageous - within reason. Like, if I asked this question, and the guy replied "I would break into BestBuy and steal all of the stereo and computer equipment and sell them out of the back of my van..." I would wonder about his ethics. Think funny, not criminal.

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TrekRyder10 wrote :
You're already messing it up by trying to come up with an answer you think she wants to hear.
This is spot on - one of the biggest mistakes in profiles and in responses is when someone presents themselves as the person they think their match is looking for, rather than being genuine. When I see people coming on the boards ranting about how their dates are nothing like their profiles, or there was no connection and they can't believe they were matched with this person, I wonder how much of themselves they were putting out there, and how much they were giving their matches the answers they thought they were looking for?

Answer instinctively and honestly, and let her make the decisions based on the real you! Good luck out there!
 
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I only got this question once and had a feeling the person asking it was on the inhibited side. Since I usually do what I want (I'm a reasonable person as well as an adult), I just answered along those lines. Someone who feels that the things they want to do need to be under conditions of not being found out/penalized are either more reckless than I am or are more socially restricted than I am.

Answer honestly - if there is something you would like to do without it ever being known, share.
 
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It can be any random thing you think would be fun.

1.Fill in for David Letterman.
2.Play center field for the Yankees.
3.Visit the box factory.
 
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pogono is offline pogono Post #8  February 13,2011, 4:57pm
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The same thing I try to do every night, try to take over the world!

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I actually love this question.

I sometimes answer it "I would hop in my car and just drive to the other side of the country. Unfortunately, it will take more than a night, but i'm willing to extend it."
 
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I'm trying to imagine how in my life that would be different from any other night?
 
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