curlycutie is offline curlycutie Post #11  February 11,2011, 7:59pm
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Thanks for all the advice and stuff you guys!! One point I would like to make: HE requested ME to be his fb friend. And I have been resisting stalking him through that, and I guess he hasn't been stalking me either. But I can definitely see how that's detrimental. And yeah, it's been about 2 days and nothing. So....I'm fairly certain I'm not gonna be annoying and desperate and message him again saying dude I'm still alive where the hell are you. If he wants to talk to me, fine. If he doesn't, fine. I don't have a lot of active possibilities right now. Most guys don't respond to my requests, even though I send at least one a day This guy is the only one I've been talking to so far.

And Thinker, now that I think about it, I do agree with you that if he had been as interested as I am, he would have done something by now. I tend to be a one man girl, even when I'm just talking to someone, and I know that's not how this works. It's difficult to wrap my head around that. I'll keep trying though.
 
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curlycutie wrote :
Most guys don't respond to my requests, even though I send at least one a day This guy is the only one I've been talking to so far.
Chin up, home slice; I know that situation (and by that I mean most WOMEN don't respond to my requests). It ain't gonna happen overnight.
 
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Welcome to the boards..........it's awhole new world in online dating.
As others have mentioned as well there are a few things to keep in mind:
Being invited to facebook-friend.... is the kiss of death.....never a good sign..when the "friend me on facebook" comes.......it's over. Never invite or accept a facebook friend request from anyone you have an interest in dating.

Sitting around waiting to be asked for your contact info or a meeting doesn't work either.

The best approach is: ......".What's your phone / email?.....here's my phone / email........look forward to hearing from you and meeting you".
Memorize this line and write it to every match you are interested in.

In summary:
1) Never facebook. Dating and "friending " do not mix..
2 ) Have disposable contact info ........email / phone number........exclusively for online dating
3) Ask for /give out contact info as soon as possible.
4) Suggest meeting also, as soon as possible.
Good luck.........

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I've gotten to OC with a guy who is
I initiated the GC by the way. So we're exchanging emails multiple times a day and stuff, and things are going swimmingly. He even made me his Facebook friend!
I've been waiting for him to ask me for my number or mention meeting, I should do something about that. How do you girls initiate a FTF anyway?
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HE requested ME to be his fb friend. I have been resisting stalking him through that,
Most guys don't respond to my requests, even though I send at least one a day so far.
And Thinker, now that I think about it, I do agree with you that if he had been as interested as I am, he would have done something by now.
 
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