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cp30 is offline cp30 Post #61  January 26,2011, 6:46pm

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Xable wrote :
Just feel like I have to defend myself here

I say I look younger than I am but... well... I always have tons of people assume I am younger than I really am. I never really thought much about it until I started noticing so many people under estimating my age.

Not too long ago I was hiking in a park I was not familiar with and stopped two ladies walking to ask directions. One of the ladies was a high school teacher and sworn up and down I was one of her students from the previous year. I haven't sent foot in a high school in over 10 years.

Another example is where I was visiting my mom's old small college town and we were in a little store looking around. The lady who worked their asked me what I was majoring in. When I asked her how old she that I was she guessed 20, a good ten years younger than I really am.

My mom is a high school teacher. Every once in a while I will go with her to help her with something. I get stopped by other teacher who don't know me all the time asking why I am wandering around and not in class. It got so bad I started asking my mom to give me a hall pass.
Not too weird at all. I think most women in early 30's can pass for 20's except in situations where they still have their style stuck in a previous decade or they have just let themselves go. I think we are brainwashed to think "30" is a big milestone, but you just don't age all that much between your late 20's and early 30's unless you are doing something wrong...

People didn't start wondering about my age until I was safely pass 32...though I can still pass for late 20's. I think at our age it has more to do with style and how you take care of yourself. If I'm dressed for work I think I look my age. If I had a bad day I think I look older :/
 
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Frogprince, I thing you are exactly right! It's amazing how difficult it is for a woman to date men their own age starting in the late 30"s. So many of the men want to date the hot 22 year old. Unfortunately, very few of the hot young girls are interested in dating older men unless they have an appropriately over sized bank account.

When i do go out, I only get hit on by guys at least 10 years younger. I guess I should just embrace the date the younger person theme!
I have to agree with you...when I was in my 20's and I thought "older men" (30's - 40's) were creepy when they hit on me. Now I am 38 and look much younger than my age (thanks to genes and taking good care of myself), I tend to attract younger men in "real life"!

But on eH, I have had no luck and I joined in May '10. The men who approach me on eH are much older and look older than their stated age...so I wonder, if they are lying about their age. I realize I should be patient
 
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I just joined EH a couple weeks ago and I'm totally agreeing with the OP. I'm in my early 40s and at first I got tons of matches...now it's slowed up; but the important point is the guys look like grandpas! Or yes, really fat or super cheesy! No, I'm not expecting Brad Pitt...although some hotties would be nice.

But like the OP said, I would like to see some profiles that I could remotely find myself attracted to! I've expanded my criteria...and I'm actually looking to meet men outside of where I live...so I'm not limiting myself here. But good heavens, it's like I'm jinxed by the EH matching machine. I thought I'd be opening up my mind by upping the age parameters; but now I think I'll have to go younger?? Not what I wanted to do; but this is a bummer.
 
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nick219 wrote :
So true! Maybe late 20's or on very rare occasion an exceptionally mature mid-20's, but never a 22-year-old. Not for this 30-something guy, anyway.
*Raises hand* ME! I am mature for my age Thats why most of my friends are in their late 20's and early 30's.
 
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FrogPrincess wrote :
I just joined EH a couple weeks ago and I'm totally agreeing with the OP. I'm in my early 40s and at first I got tons of matches...now it's slowed up; but the important point is the guys look like grandpas!

But like the OP said, I would like to see some profiles that I could remotely find myself attracted to! I've expanded my criteria...and I'm actually looking to meet men outside of where I live...so I'm not limiting myself here. But good heavens, it's like I'm jinxed by the EH matching machine. I thought I'd be opening up my mind by upping the age parameters; but now I think I'll have to go younger?? Not what I wanted to do; but this is a bummer.
I am right there with you. I am 39 (I keep saying that now, because in less than 5 months... well, you know...) and a lot of the guys I get as matches - even the ones who list their age as "44" - look A LOT older! I am a very young looking 39 - yeah, yeah, the guys here will say "all women think they look younger", but people literally think that I am 32 on a routine basis! It really is things like staying out of the sun and not smoking that help a great deal in that.

Anyway, on top of my actual age, which puts me in a certain dating age bracket, I have never been married, and do not have any kids. So, the 48-50 year olds are not very appealing to me. Nor me to them.
Usually, the requests for communication I get are from guys who look like they could be my grandfather, regardless of what their profile lists as their age. Um, no thanks!

I just want a guy close to my age (say, within a 7 year range) that doesn't look like he is 17 years older than me.
 
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Yes, there are!

I recently joined EH, too, and so far I have 60 new matches (I usually get 5 to 7 matches per day), 18 communicating matches, 94 archived matches, and 44 closed matches. So, 216 matches in about 3 weeks.

I live in the LA area, ad I am 31 years old. My age range is set from 31 to 44. Originally, I had it set to 39, but after talking with one match about being more open-minded in terms of age, I set it a little higher. I have to say, though, that none of the 40 and above matches have appealed to me. I won't set it lower because I don't think anyone younger than me is mature enough to handle me and my two young children and ex-husband. My ex is 33, and I don't think he's mature enough to handle me and the kids (that's why we divorced!).

Originally, my distance range was set to 120 miles, but I have now expanded it to all of CA. I like Northern CA as well, so it would not be a problem for me to move up there. I just got a match that I really like from central CA, and I hope he responds to my first questions!

So, to answer your question, of all the matches I have received, I would say that 90% of them are good-looking and physically fit or at least normal size (not too skinny, not overweight). If you agree with the common idea that the woman is usually more attractive than the man, then I would have to say that 25% of my matches are probably "out of my league" handsome (LOL, there's a few threads here about that!). But, I've never been one to fall for Prince-Charming-handsome. For me, it's always been cute, funny, and smart.

If my matches are being truthful about their occupations and hobbies, then I would also have to say that I'm impressed with the quality of men on EH. Most are professionals and have similar hobbies and interests, like traveling.

So, I guess my recommendation, from perusing the success stories section, is to expand your distance or age range. Or, it could just be that your 29 dimensions limit you to a smaller pool of matches? Good luck!
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
I am right there with you. I am 39 (I keep saying that now, because in less than 5 months... well, you know...) and a lot of the guys I get as matches - even the ones who list their age as "44" - look A LOT older!....
Some lie about their age/dob so may have a photo which looks out of sync.
 
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