mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #11  January 23,2011, 7:36am
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I was an eH member until yesterday, but I never saw this feature.
 
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SteveManchesterEngland is offline SteveManchesterEngland Post #12  January 23,2011, 7:37am
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it's slalker-ish because I've had texts at 2am saying "it says you're on line" from one weird girl off match! and I hadn't even met her!


Also members who are multi-dating or attempting to line up more dates wouldn't want the last login information to reach girls who they are dating! It would prove they haven't stopped using the site!


despite this, I want to know a last login date especially for those profiles in my list who were matched more than a month ago and haven't responded - I wonder exactly how old their profiles are!
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I don't understand this talk about it being "stalkerish." I can only imagine it would boost membership as probably one of the most common reasons paying members choose to deactivate their accounts is not being able to tell which members are active.
Excitement over a new match can manifest itself in a user checking the site repeatedly to see if they've heard new news from a particular special someone. It can also manifest in checking the site to see if someone you've started dating is still using the site. (I'm not saying these are good things to do, but they aren't abnormal and they aren't necessarily bad. It's fun to be excited about someone new.)

There are definitely stalking concerns that the current model politely and intelligently avoids. Again, a positive for a site that purports to respect members' privacy.
 
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We aren't interested in another "boost" to membership if the trade -off is strangers monitoring your online activity. It was the one unique advantage eHarmony had to the other "broadcast my life and every key-stroke " sites. It's creepy for those who don't want inane interpretations such as ........"he logged in last night, does that mean he's cheating ?" A common theme on the boards (about other sites) and takes online dating to an even more ridiculous level of "you are what computer stats indicates". Not all of us want to be facebook-like casualties.
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Did everyone notice that now you can tell what day every member logged in? It's right next to the member's name when you click on their profile.
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I don't understand this talk about it being "stalkerish." I can only imagine it would boost membership as probably one of the most common reasons paying members choose to deactivate their accounts is not being able to tell which members are active.
 
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SteveManchesterEngland wrote :
it's slalker-ish because I've had texts at 2am saying "it says you're on line" from one weird girl off match! and I hadn't even met her!
And my reply text would've said" thank you for weeding yourself out of my dating pool..
 
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LoL I guess I don't completely get it. If users want to waste their time repeatedly checking my profile I say go ahead. The trade off for me is I can see whether or not I am wasting my time initiating communication with people who aren't actually active or haven't been on the site in months. That being said, understanding there are concerns I think it would be appropriate to make it an option. Or better yet just tell me if they are a paying member or not.
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We aren't interested in another "boost" to membership if the trade -off is strangers monitoring your online activity. It was the one unique advantage eHarmony had to the other "broadcast my life and every key-stroke " sites. It's creepy for those who don't want inane interpretations such as ........"he logged in last night, does that mean he's cheating ?" A common theme on the boards (about other sites) and takes online dating to an even more ridiculous level of "you are what computer stats indicates". Not all of us want to be facebook-like casualties.
""he logged in last night, does that mean he's cheating ?""

but surely anyone who is that way inclined isn't someone you'd want in your dating pool?
 
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Tri05 wrote :
LoL I guess I don't completely get it. If users want to waste their time repeatedly checking my profile I say go ahead. The trade off for me is I can see whether or not I am wasting my time initiating communication with people who aren't actually active or haven't been on the site in months. That being said, understanding there are concerns I think it would be appropriate to make it an option. Or better yet just tell me if they are a paying member or not.
Don't worry, there are just as many members who share this opinion and see the benefit.

If they made it an option- eH would be going backwards again. Like when people had the option to make their views anonymous..

If there was a last login feature..I hope you would need to click on the profile to see it, so they would show up in your who's me viewed me list. IMO people would be less likely to stalk - when the user knows they're doing it.
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This is what I would not want to waste my time on.
SteveManchesterEngland wrote :
it's slalker-ish because I've had texts at 2am saying "it says you're on line" from one weird girl off match! and I hadn't even met her!
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The trade off for me is I can see whether or not I am wasting my time initiating communication with people who aren't actually active or haven't been on the site in months.
Agree....... there should be a better way to determine dead / inactive / freeloader profiles , however, broadcasting my keystrokes is not a welcome change.

Also with some systems (auto log-in, so forth) it doesn't tell you much, particularly....... if they are interested in you or not,..........if there's no timely response, who cares if they logged in yesterday or a year ago or they are freeloaders / dead whatever...........it's not going anywhere in any of those cases. No answer.........delete......simple.
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
Don't worry, there are many just as many members who share this opinion and see the benefit.

If they made it an option- eH would be going backwards again. Like when people had the option to make their views anonymous..

If there was a last login feature..I hope you would need to click on the profile to see it, so they would show up in your who's me viewed me list. IMO people would be less likely to stalk - when the user knows they're doing it.
This is what it sounds like they're doing, based on OP's info. I think it's a great solution - you can see if someone is active, but if the objective is to snoop the snooper's visit will be visible. There may be issues with auto-logons (I know sometimes I'm "active" on here all day, just b/c I don't close my browser), but people who get bent out of shape because someone takes a couple days to respond need to chill. I was closed by people the week my grandpa died b/c the last thing on my mind was eH. We are so used to instant gratification that a pause takes on significance but a timely response does not equal an immediate response.

And this is a great response
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And my reply text would've said" thank you for weeding yourself out of my dating pool..
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