red_shoes is offline red_shoes Post #1  January 13,2011, 8:18am
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I was on eharmony awhile ago, but it is a little different since last time I used it. I see there is a post on archiving/closing, but I'm not looking for the reasons people use those as much as how to close someone you haven't started communicating with.

For instance: I look at a profile, and let's just say I don't want to send them the first step of communication. I don't know, maybe the person is someone I already know. However, if I don't click "send message," the only other option I see is the "archive" link.

So I have a few archived matches, that I guess will just linger there. But then twice I've looked in my archive folder to see "Close Match" buttons for people that I hadn't even viewed yet. Does that mean they have a "close" button or do all the people who have been archived, know that the match wants to close them?

To summarize:
I'm just a little confused on how to close a match when the communication process hasn't been started, and isn't going to be.

I also want to know if the people I have in my archive folder technically know that I have them in there.

Any info on the matter would be helpful.
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it means they viewed you and you weren't their type so they clicked on archive and then Close.
 
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If you want to close them on your end first, it's now a 2 step process. First you have to archive them. Then, you have to go back into the archive folder, find the person and close them...is that what you were asking??
 
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red_shoes wrote :
I've looked in my archive folder to see "Close Match" buttons for people that I hadn't even viewed yet. Does that mean they have a "close" button or do all the people who have been archived, know that the match wants to close them?

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There is a setting you can choose to "automatically archive matches who have closed me". That's probably your current setting. I like this, since then I don't waste time with matches that have already closed me.
 
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red_shoes wrote :
To summarize:
I'm just a little confused on how to close a match when the communication process hasn't been started, and isn't going to be.
It's a two step process. First you have to archive a match. Once you've done that, you can go back to that match and you'll find the option to close the match.


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I also want to know if the people I have in my archive folder technically know that I have them in there.
No, there is no way to know if you've been archived.
 
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Perfect everyone. Now I understand. I just hadn't ever re-opened profiles in my archive folder to realize that I now had a close button. Thanks!
 
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I really find the two-step thing to be a bother. If I decide I'm not interested in a new match, I used to close it immediately. Now I just archive it, which means they can still contact me, and then I have to close it. Why the extra step?

Another change I don't like, which was made at the same time, if I remember correctly: Remember when you could give a reason for closing the match, and then the other person could send a final message from a pre-selected list? I miss that! On a couple of occasions women who had closed the match on me reopened it after seeing my "final" response. One of them I ended up dating for 5 or 6 months! I also found it helpful feedback to know why matches were closing on me.

So basically they added an unnecessary step in one place and removed a helpful step in another place! Why?
 
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The other thing they removed (also at the same time, I believe) that I really liked was the rating feature. You could rate matches on how much you liked their profile and how attractive you thought they were. It might have been my imagination, but I really thought my matches got better over time in response to my ratings. I wish they'd bring it back.
 
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nick219 wrote :
The other thing they removed (also at the same time, I believe) that I really liked was the rating feature. You could rate matches on how much you liked their profile and how attractive you thought they were. It might have been my imagination, but I really thought my matches got better over time in response to my ratings. I wish they'd bring it back.
Well I am glad I can't see anyone's rating of my looks. That could be devastating if you got a bunch of 2 and 3 scores.
 
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Well I am glad I can't see anyone's rating of my looks. That could be devastating if you got a bunch of 2 and 3 scores.
Haha. You couldn't see people's ratings (yours or others'). That would be awful! It was more along the lines of eHarmony asking you what you thought of each specific match, and then (at least theoretically) incorporating that feedback to provide matches in the future.
 
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