EH_user is offline EH_user Post #1  January 9,2011, 3:46pm
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I'm amazed at the number of males who post profile pictures of themselves with and/or drinking beer. What is with this? Just today I received a match who has his main picture of him alone with a cup of beer and then his only other photo is him and a friend drinking beer with the caption (and I quote) "Me and my buddy getting drunk" Umm, is this supposed to be attractive???? Because I find it to be rather a turn off. If I wanted to meet people that were only interested in drinking, I would go to a bar. Aren't these supposed to be higher quality matches? If the main event in your life is drinking, are you really a great potential match?
 
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People like to post pictures of themselves happy and having fun, and alcohol is frequently involved in 'fun' outings. The simple answer is to close those matches you feel aren't right for you, and respond to those who are.
 
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I'm amazed at the number of males who post profile pictures of themselves with and/or drinking beer. What is with this? Just today I received a match who has his main picture of him alone with a cup of beer and then his only other photo is him and a friend drinking beer with the caption (and I quote) "Me and my buddy getting drunk" Umm, is this supposed to be attractive???? Because I find it to be rather a turn off. If I wanted to meet people that were only interested in drinking, I would go to a bar. Aren't these supposed to be higher quality matches? If the main event in your life is drinking, are you really a great potential match?
Well some people like to go out and have a good time. They are letting you know that. Nothing wrong with that. As for the quality of the match perhaps they don't think you are a higher quality match because you aren't interested in drinking.

Stop being so judgemental. They are being honest. You don't like it so just go the next match.
 
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I'm amazed at the number of males who post profile pictures of themselves with and/or drinking beer. What is with this? Just today I received a match who has his main picture of him alone with a cup of beer and then his only other photo is him and a friend drinking beer with the caption (and I quote) "Me and my buddy getting drunk" Umm, is this supposed to be attractive???? Because I find it to be rather a turn off. If I wanted to meet people that were only interested in drinking, I would go to a bar. Aren't these supposed to be higher quality matches? If the main event in your life is drinking, are you really a great potential match?
On the other hand, us guys get a never-ending parade of women who post photos of themselves at the bars getting hammered on mixed drinks and/or wine.

In either case, it makes you wonder what the guys or gals are thinking...

Do they really want the first image of them to be a booze photo where I have to wonder if I am going to be working around dates with them and their meetings at AA?
 
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You should check your settings. Log into EH and click on the 'My Settings' button and the Personal Preferences. Adjust the drinking setting. Click save. Otherwise, close them out.

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I'm amazed at the number of males who post profile pictures of themselves with and/or drinking beer. What is with this? Just today I received a match who has his main picture of him alone with a cup of beer and then his only other photo is him and a friend drinking beer with the caption (and I quote) "Me and my buddy getting drunk" Umm, is this supposed to be attractive???? Because I find it to be rather a turn off. If I wanted to meet people that were only interested in drinking, I would go to a bar. Aren't these supposed to be higher quality matches? If the main event in your life is drinking, are you really a great potential match?
 
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EH_user wrote :
Aren't these supposed to be higher quality matches?
Whoever told you eH has higher quality matches is mistaken.. anybody over 18 with a credit card can join..
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If the main event in your life is drinking, are you really a great potential match?
Not defending his choice of pics in anyway, but this is a common mistake of many new to e-dating- poor photo choices.. Also I believe that men don't have many photos of themselves in the first place..

Just close'em...
 
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Because I find it to be rather a turn off. If I wanted to meet people that were only interested in drinking, I would go to a bar. Aren't these supposed to be higher quality matches? If the main event in your life is drinking, are you really a great potential match?
For you, probably not.

Some of the other folks who responded to your post call you judgmental. I don't think you are.

As a guy, even if your favorite thing is drinking beer - and I usually have 1 a night - there are ways to show yourself that don't reek of "party animal". I'll leave the value judgments up to each individual eH subscriber. I will, however, note that even though I love my beer, I described in my profile how I'll be "laughing with my friends as I savor the complex flavor of a smooth pinot noir".

And, for those guys who don't know how to "not reek of party animal" - EH_User, you have your answer as to whether or not you want to talk to those guys.
 
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Sparkles56 wrote :
For you, probably not.

Some of the other folks who responded to your post call you judgmental. I don't think you are.

As a guy, even if your favorite thing is drinking beer - and I usually have 1 a night - there are ways to show yourself that don't reek of "party animal". I'll leave the value judgments up to each individual eH subscriber. I will, however, note that even though I love my beer, I described in my profile how I'll be "laughing with my friends as I savor the complex flavor of a smooth pinot noir".

And, for those guys who don't know how to "not reek of party animal" - EH_User, you have your answer as to whether or not you want to talk to those guys.
She is being judgemental. She is refering to them as not high quality matches. They are not high quality for her. That doesn't make them not high quality matches.

I find people who go to church all the time not the people I want to be matched with. But I wouldn't call them not high quality matches. It is condescending. I could say why don't they just meet their matches at church.
 
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Just because they have pictures with alcohol in them does not mean that is a major focus in their life. Often camera's come out when you are with friends you do not see very often. And often those times include adult beverages.

For me, that is when people are most likely to take a picture of me. I spend much more time at work, coaching my kids sport teams, playing games with them, cooking dinner and even mowing the yard, then I do out drinking with friends, but nobody takes pictures of me then.

Now, after saying that, I will say I think it is a bad choice to make that your main profile picture, but there is a drink in my hand in some of my pictures.

If you don't drink, then consider it a favor. But, don't make the mistake of thinking that if they have a beer in their hand, that drinking is a major focus in their life.
 
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EH_user is offline EH_user Post #10  January 9,2011, 4:18pm
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frogprince wrote :
You don't like it so just go the next match.
If only I could! Mr. "me and my buddy getting drunk" was the first match I've received in 3 weeks!!!
 
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