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dfletch1971 Post #1 January 6,2011, 1:21am

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Hello,
This is my second time signing up to eH. So far, the same results. However, the other choice is less than savory (POF).
Here is the deal breaker ( I am thinking) I am a plus sized female, not elephant large, just heavier. I make no excuses, only accept myself as I am. I tried a site dedicated to plus size people, however the only ones that communicated seemed to be interested in only a physical relationship.

I would appreciate any feedback. I do know I need to get a few more photos up. I receive many matches. Some I have closed, others closed me, most are stuck in limbo (non paids most likely).

Thanks for the view/ opinions.
Diana
[IMG]file:///tmp/moz-screenshot-1.png[/IMG]
Profile as follows:
[IMG]file:///tmp/moz-screenshot.png[/IMG]Most Influential Person:
This may sound funny but I have to say, Jimmy Buffett. His music reminds me to slow down, not just observe but join the human race, and not let the storms of life overtake me.

Quality looking for:
I would have to say understanding. That is one thing that I have always hoped for, someone that understands and loves me. I am not sure that they go together, but I hope I can find it.

People notice about me:
My laugh. I would like to think that people have liked my laugh.

Wish they would notice:
My experiences. I am the sum of all those experiences.

5 things:
books, my son, food, sunlight, laughter

last book:
Bonecrack by Dick Francis. One of my favorite authors. He has talent for developing believable, likable characters.

additional information:
I am quirky, eclectic, and spontaneous. I like to talk, sometimes more than I should. You should like to talk, too. No sourpusses please.
And just how many times can a person say "I" in one profile

passionate about:
I am passionate about my family, cribbage and horses.

leisure time:
I like to ride horses, read a variety of books, and scrapbook. I enjoy spending time with family, camping and spending time on the lake.

3 things thankful for:
healthy, happy son
sacrifices others have made for my families freedoms
strawberries

dfletch1971 Post #2 January 6,2011, 11:41pm

is contemplating the whole thing.

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Okay, I give up. I can't even get a response here on the boards

Seriously, I read some of the posts here and have added an addendum about my weight.
Any imput would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks

boomer_gal Post #3 January 7,2011, 12:23am

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Profile as follows:

Most Influential Person:
This may sound funny but I have to say, Jimmy Buffett. His music reminds me to slow down, not just observe but join the human race, and not let the storms of life overtake me. I like this answer a lot. It is unusual.

Quality looking for:
I have always hoped for understanding, someone that understands and loves me. I am not sure that they go together, but I hope I can find it. This is OK, but it says more about you than about the other person, I think.

People notice about me:
My laugh, people have always liked my laugh. The initial phrasing is too passive.

Wish they would notice:
My experiences. I am the sum of all those experiences. This doesn't work. People cannot notice your experiences. Your experiences live in your memory.

5 things:
books, my son, food, sunlight, laughter

last book:
Bonecrack by Dick Francis. One of my favorite authors. He has talent for developing believable, likable characters. Anything else about this specific book?

additional information:
I am quirky, eclectic, and spontaneous. I like to talk, sometimes more than I should. You should like to talk, too. No sourpusses please.
And just how many times can a person say "I" in one profile

I like the first part a lot, but think you should lose the sourpuss part - nobody thinks of themselves as a sourpuss. And I'm not sure where you're going with that last sentence.

passionate about:
I am passionate about my family, cribbage and horses. Specific & different enough to catch your attention.

leisure time:
I like to ride horses, read a variety of books, and scrapbook. I enjoy spending time with family, camping and spending time on the lake.

3 things thankful for:
healthy, happy son
sacrifices others have made for my family's freedoms
strawberries this is kind of whimsical & sweet (I like strawberries a lot too)

Wiseman2 Post #4 January 7,2011, 4:49am

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Answer each section /question as asked with a variety of aspects about yourself / your lifestyle that showcases who you are. Avoid vague phrases...........they are open to misinterpretation..........be specific with examples........also, avoid any tone of defensiveness or negativity "no sourpusses" etc......... ....Good Luck........

dfletch1971 wrote :

I receive many matches. Some I have closed, others closed me, most are stuck in limbo (non paids most likely).

Thanks for the view/ opinions.
Diana
[IMG]file:///tmp/moz-screenshot-1.png[/IMG]
Profile as follows:
[IMG]file:///tmp/moz-screenshot.png[/IMG]Most Influential Person:
This may sound funny but I have to say, Jimmy Buffett. His music reminds me to slow down, not just observe but join the human race, and not let the storms of life overtake me.

Quality looking for:
I would have to say understanding. That is one thing that I have always hoped for, someone that understands and loves me. I am not sure that they go together, but I hope I can find it.

Leave this out makes you sound as if you think you are unlovable / hard to understand.

People notice about me:
My laugh. I would like to think that people have liked my laugh.

Wish they would notice:
My experiences. I am the sum of all those experiences.

?????????who knows what they are........how, exactly, does someone "notice" your experiences? Elaborate on an asset that is beneath the surface, that is what ir askes here.

5 things:
books, my son, food, sunlight, laughter

..........Try to be a little more descriptive this is blah and too obvious, thus says nothing

last book:
Bonecrack by Dick Francis. One of my favorite authors. He has talent for developing believable, likable characters.

additional information:
I am quirky, eclectic, and spontaneous. I like to talk, sometimes more than I should. You should like to talk, too. No sourpusses please.
And just how many times can a person say "I" in one profile

Please reword this whole thing.........here's the impression from reading this:..........nonstop motor mouth who wants Mr. Happy-entertainer........as far as "quirky ,eclectic"............hmmm. attractive? ..we don't know, do we?...could be.........lives with 1000 cats?.............weird junk crammed all over the house?.......be specific so as not to let these words sound like euphemisms for "weird"

passionate about:
I am passionate about my family, cribbage and horses.

leisure time:
I like to ride horses, read a variety of books, and scrapbook. I enjoy spending time with family, camping and spending time on the lake.

3 things thankful for:
healthy, happy son
sacrifices others have made for my families freedoms??????????
strawberries

Baker1122 Post #5 January 7,2011, 6:14am

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I think you should not take this so seriously. I know it's easier said than done, I've been in this boat a long time and it's taken me awhile to get to this point. I think the whole online thing is just an awkward(?) way of meeting someone. Before online dating we saw or met someone, became attracted to who they were, then developed a relationship (or not). Online, many people, including myself, look at the photo and THEN decide if you want to read on and make contact (to men who just never respond). Before online we never had the opportunity to know a person's background before we met them. We just have to realize that we're not for everyone and everyone's not for us (Thank you Dr. Phil). I myself have been frustrated because I know I am a quality woman and would be a great match for SOMEONE. I did have a very good friend of mine (who happens to do some writing for a living) look at my profile to be sure that I was at least accurately representing myself. He assured me I was, so at least I knew it wasn't my profile. I've not had much of any luck at all on EH and POF just seemed to be a meat market - therefore I'm finding other things to occupy my time

Best of Luck!

DancingFool Post #6 January 7,2011, 6:58am

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dfletch1971 wrote :

Most Influential Person:
This may sound funny but I have to say, Jimmy Buffett. His music reminds me to slow down, not just observe but join the human race, and not let the storms of life overtake me. Neat - good answer and different from the usual.

Quality looking for:
I would have to say understanding. That is one thing that I have always hoped for, someone that understands and loves me. I am not sure that they go together, but I hope I can find it. Definitely take out the last sentence because it makes you sound depressed and defeatist. Not sure your explanation of understanding really works either. It can read as possibly selfish, possibly that you are a difficult person. I would rethink this section a bit.

People notice about me:
My laugh. I would like to think that people have liked my laugh. Good answer but...tweak your tone in the follow up sentence. As written it sounds like you are unsure - be sure. What about your laugh - tell your audience something about yourself - for instance "My laugh because I laugh easily and find many things amusing"....or some such.... show some confidence, show some color of who you are.

Wish they would notice:
My experiences. I am the sum of all those experiences. This is a complete non-answer. What about your experiences??? Your audience does not have a clue about you. To a stranger, this does not make any sense and tells nothing. Show something of yourself. It can be something concrete or an opportunity to show your sense of humor. For instance "I wish people would notice how well I can juggle watermelons"

5 things:
books, my son, food, sunlight, laughter

last book:
Bonecrack by Dick Francis. One of my favorite authors. He has talent for developing believable, likable characters.

additional information:
I am quirky, eclectic, and spontaneous. I like to talk, sometimes more than I should. You should like to talk, too. No sourpusses please.
And just how many times can a person say "I" in one profile

This is really negative. Do not tell a complete stranger reading your profile about what they "should be". It can read a bit offensive. Absolutely take out negative references to people like "sourpusses" - it's a bit ironic for you tell negative people to stay away, when you are being negative yourself. Instead talk more about yourself - quirky how, eclectic how - give a brief example.

passionate about:
I am passionate about my family, cribbage and horses. This is the very first thing someone reads and it's pretty much blank. Pick one - horses or cribbage and talk a little about it. How did you get involved, why is that your passion? Leave the family stuff out - you love your family, but it's not a passion and most people love their family so it's a cliche answer.

leisure time:
I like to ride horses, read a variety of books, and scrapbook. I enjoy spending time with family, camping and spending time on the lake. Try to add a little more here. Look at it from a man's perspective - what else do you do that maybe would be more date friendly or male company friendly? Right now, you ride, you read and do stuff with family - not exactly easy to fit into or connect with for a guy.

3 things thankful for:
healthy, happy son
sacrifices others have made for my families freedoms
strawberries

My comments above in blue. Please take them with a large grain of salt since I'm not your intended audience. Also, please realize that I'm only commenting on how someone may interpret what you've written and not on you as a person.

Overall, your profile is bland. It's virtually impossible to get a sense of who you are from it. You need to open up a bit more in it. Give someone reading it a hook, a reason to say "wow, this lady is interesting or funny or whatever....I'd like to get to know her better." That's really your goal when you are writing a profile.

choiceweb0pen0 Post #7 January 7,2011, 7:59am

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dfletch1971 wrote :

Profile as follows:
[IMG]file:///tmp/moz-screenshot.png[/IMG]Most Influential Person:
This may sound funny but I have to say, Jimmy Buffett. His music reminds me to slow down, not just observe but join the human race, and not let the storms of life overtake me.

I would consider taking out the “This may sound funny but I have to say...“ It makes you sound less confident and even though I don't like Jimmy Buffet, I would at least like your great life lesson his music offers for you ( and maybe the rest of us too).

Quality looking for:
I would have to say understanding. That is one thing that I have always hoped for, someone that understands and loves me. I am not sure that they go together, but I hope I can find it.

Consider taking away the last sentence. I think most people would agree that the two do go together.

People notice about me:
My laugh. I would like to think that people have liked my laugh. Maybe just stick with the first sentence. The last sentence makes it sound like you're not so sure.

Wish they would notice:
My experiences. I am the sum of all those experiences.

Could you maybe list or talk about them a little more? A stranger wouldn't know what you mean by just saying ”my experiences“

5 things:
books, my son, food, sunlight, laughter

last book:
Bonecrack by Dick Francis. One of my favorite authors. He has talent for developing believable, likable characters.

additional information:
I am quirky, eclectic, and spontaneous. I like to talk, sometimes more than I should. You should like to talk, too. No sourpusses please.
And just how many times can a person say "I" in one profile

passionate about:
I am passionate about my family, cribbage and horses.

Why cribbage and horses? This would be a great place to talk about yourself more.

leisure time:
I like to ride horses, read a variety of books, and scrapbook. I enjoy spending time with family, camping and spending time on the lake.

3 things thankful for:
healthy, happy son
sacrifices others have made for my families freedoms
strawberries

This is a quick review, but personally I like to see more writing in a profile because most profiles are so short and generic that I get little to no sense of the person. I would though be confident in your writing, take out those padding words/phrases like “I seem to think that maybe” and so on.

Hope that helps and good luck.

Dropdeadredtx Post #8 January 7,2011, 8:15am

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dfletch1971 wrote :

Hello,
This is my second time signing up to eH. So far, the same results. However, the other choice is less than savory (POF).
Here is the deal breaker ( I am thinking) I am a plus sized female, not elephant large, just heavier. I make no excuses, only accept myself as I am. I tried a site dedicated to plus size people, however the only ones that communicated seemed to be interested in only a physical relationship.

I would appreciate any feedback. I do know I need to get a few more photos up. I receive many matches. Some I have closed, others closed me, most are stuck in limbo (non paids most likely).

Thanks for the view/ opinions.
Diana
[IMG]file:///tmp/moz-screenshot-1.png[/IMG]
Profile as follows:
[IMG]file:///tmp/moz-screenshot.png[/IMG]Most Influential Person:
This may sound funny but I have to say, Jimmy Buffett. His music reminds me to slow down, not just observe but join the human race, and not let the storms of life overtake me.

Quality looking for:
I would have to say understanding. Don't use "I would have to say" again. It makes you seem wisy washy or approval seeking. That is one thing that I have always hoped for, someone that understands and loves me. I am not sure that they go together, but I hope I can find it. I would scrap the last sentence, it sounds self-pitying.

People notice about me:
My laugh. I would like to think that people have liked my laugh.
Once again with the 'i would'. Be definitive - I have a great laugh! When I laugh everyone has to join in.
Wish they would notice:
My experiences. I am the sum of all those experiences.
Something concrete - 'expereinces' are not anything that can be noticed about anyone.

5 things:
books, my son, food, sunlight, laughter Expand on each of these with a sentence as to WHY.

last book:
Bonecrack by Dick Francis. One of my favorite authors. He has talent for developing believable, likable characters. This is okay but really short.

additional information:
I am quirky, eclectic, and spontaneous. I like to talk, sometimes more than I should. You should like to talk, too. No sourpusses please. No sourpusses should go - any sign of baggage and negativity is a sure close.
And just how many times can a person say "I" in one profile

passionate about:
I am passionate about my family, cribbage and horses. Pick one thing and expand on it.

leisure time:
I like to ride horses, read a variety of books, and scrapbook. I enjoy spending time with family, camping and spending time on the lake. This isn't bad; where do you camp? Details make it come to life.

3 things thankful for:
healthy, happy son
sacrifices others have made for my families freedoms
strawberries
These are ho-hum but not bad - just watch your punctuation and capitalization.

My comments are in red.

dmi Post #9 January 7,2011, 9:59am

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My first impression is that there wasn't a lot of thought and effort put into it. Feels like a profile that someone slapped together while they were drunk one night or something.

I mean I can read the whole thing without even scrolling down the page.

wrote :

I am passionate about my family, cribbage and horses.

Drop the family part, it seems like every other profile says that. Why are you passionate about cribbage and horses. This section is absolutely critical because it is the first thing people see. You give a 1 sentence response and they might not look at any of the rest.

TheThinker Post #10 January 7,2011, 10:33am

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dfletch1971 wrote :

Thanks for the view/ opinions.
Diana
Most Influential Person:
This may sound funny but I have to say, Jimmy Buffett. His music reminds me to slow down, not just observe but join the human race, and not let the storms of life overtake me.
don't do this...unless he's a friend, IMO. You need to personalize this with someone you really know.
I'd put JB in your leisure time activities, things you like to do..anywhere but here..when I read stuff like this I think "eh..celebrity worship..."
Quality looking for:
I would have to say understanding. That is one thing that I have always hoped for, someone that understands and loves me. I am not sure that they go together, but I hope I can find it.

People notice about me:
My laugh. I would like to think that people have liked my laugh.
a bit wishy washy, but OK...

Wish they would notice:
My experiences. I am the sum of all those experiences.
That's not something people can notice about you, first thing...essentially you're saying they should notice your entire life..that can't be done.

5 things:
books, my son, food, sunlight, laughter

last book:
_______by Dick Francis. One of my favorite authors. He has talent for developing believable, likable characters.

additional information:
I am quirky, eclectic, and spontaneous. I like to talk, sometimes more than I should. You should like to talk, too. No sourpusses please.
And just how many times can a person say "I" in one profile

good..I like this.

passionate about:
I am passionate about my family, cribbage and horses.
You have to explain why here...don't simply put down a list!
Tell me about the horses, or riding..this is your chance!

leisure time:
I like to ride horses, read a variety of books, and scrapbook. I enjoy spending time with family, camping and spending time on the lake.

3 things thankful for:
healthy, happy son
sacrifices others have made for my families freedoms
strawberries

My comments in blue.
Overall I like it..just expand on some of the answers more.

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