Pets in the Profile = Crazy and Undateable?


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SkinsGiants_fan is offline SkinsGiants_fan Post #1  January 2,2011, 7:50pm
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I have a 5 1/2 year old pet rabbit who is super cute. I love him to pieces. However, he is nowhere near my profile - no mentions, no photo. Why? Because I'm afraid of being labeled a Crazy Rabbit Lady, that's why! As I understand it, Crazy Rabbit Lady ranks even lower than Crazy Cat Lady.

Is this right or wrong? Should one disclose pet information or not? Are some pets more acceptable than others - for instance, can one mention dogs, but not cats or rabbits?

(For the record, I am no less sane than the average person, and probably more sane!)
 
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I would put in your profile. Honestly I really don't see an issue here. A rabbit is an acceptable pet. Now if you said you love snakes, then we have a problem..
 
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Yes! Absolutely a problem! You crazy rabbit lady!



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No, it is not. Just don't make EVERY photo of you and your pet. Or every section of your profile something about your pet.
 
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SkinsGiants_fan wrote :
I have a 5 1/2 year old pet rabbit who is super cute. I love him to pieces. However, he is nowhere near my profile - no mentions, no photo. Why? Because I'm afraid of being labeled a Crazy Rabbit Lady, that's why! As I understand it, Crazy Rabbit Lady ranks even lower than Crazy Cat Lady.

Is this right or wrong? Should one disclose pet information or not? Are some pets more acceptable than others - for instance, can one mention dogs, but not cats or rabbits?

(For the record, I am no less sane than the average person, and probably more sane!)
Everything in balance. If you had one picture of you, and several others of your pet, I would have a problem with it, especially if your answer to "What are you most passionate about?" is just two words, "My pet" (I have seen profiles like that!)

I think by erring on the side of caution, you did right in not including your pet, but I think it would be ok to mention it. Some guys have a problem with ANY pet picture in a ladies profile, but that's not fair because some guys include their toys in their profiles, be it vehicles or what have you.

My hobbie is antiques, vintage decor and vintage art, and I have many choice pieces in my place, but I don't post pictures of them. I do mention it in my profile. If a lady wants to see them, she's welcome to come see them.
 
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SkinsGiants_fan wrote :
I have a 5 1/2 year old pet rabbit who is super cute. I love him to pieces. However, he is nowhere near my profile - no mentions, no photo. Why? Because I'm afraid of being labeled a Crazy Rabbit Lady, that's why! As I understand it, Crazy Rabbit Lady ranks even lower than Crazy Cat Lady.

Is this right or wrong? Should one disclose pet information or not? Are some pets more acceptable than others - for instance, can one mention dogs, but not cats or rabbits?

(For the record, I am no less sane than the average person, and probably more sane!)
Personally, I think pets should not be in a person's profile or at least be minimally shown in a profile. The purpose of having pictures is to show yourself and let the focus be on yourself. Not everyone is interested in seeing what your pet looks like.

As for crazy, well....

For me, I think that someone who treats humans worse than pets may have some mental stability issues. Same goes with those who think pets and humans are equal. But, simply owning a pet and loving said pet doesn't make someone crazy. I consider that to be quite normal. So, if you want to show a picture of your pet rabbit, then cool. Just don't have one picture of yourself, then 12 pictures of your rabbit. lol

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My profile states that I have two dogs. I do not post photos of them.

They're a big part of my life and if someone has allergies or dislikes house pets then our exploring a relationship would be pointless. If someone's desire to date me was based on my dog's looks, our exploring a relationship would be even more pointless.
 
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i mention my cat, but i don't post pictures. i should, considering i have more pictures of her than of me. anyhoo...

i think it's fine. you want someone to care about what you care about, and that's your bunny. the right guy won't think you are crazy for loving and caring for a pet.
 
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I decided to mention my cats in my profile only so I could head off matches with cat allergies, or those who can't stand pet hair. But then I figured out some men must not read the profiles and decided to include one picture of me and a cat.

I also asked the GC question about how matches felt about pets quite often if I couldn't tell by his profile whether he had pets or not.

(Good news is the guy I found on EH gets along great with my cats, even though he's never been around cats before. And they like him too which is a good sign in my book.)
 
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I got a match the other day who had several photos of his dog. ONLY photos of his dog. None at all of him. Close match.

It's all in the balance.
 
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