Is it too eager of me to respond to matches right when they come in?


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Strlite85 is offline Strlite85 Post #1  January 1,2011, 12:37pm
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I'm wondering if maybe I should wait a day or so to respond, rather than eagerly checking my matches when I get them and responding right away.

What are your thoughts?

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No.. it's not too eager.

I've never lost interest in a match that replied in a timely manner..
 
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Strlite85 wrote :
I'm wondering if maybe I should wait a day or so to respond, rather than eagerly checking my matches when I get them and responding right away.

What are your thoughts?

TIA!

Ashlee
Only if you're a game playing person.

I'd see your photo and be flattered about your interest and want to meet and want to snap you up before someone else does.

Perhaps other men find more value in you because you are slow to respond, perhaps because for some there is more value in something we can't have or have difficulty in aquiring? I've never seen that result in a positive outcome for me anyway!

I've just sent 3 or 4 messages to girls who are taking days to respond to G.C. the messages all read "if I don't get a response by tomorrow then I'm clicking on Close". Slow response for me is time wasting and read at face value, lack of interest which needs closure unless the other party corrects it.
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Yes..........ditto:
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No.. it's not too eager. I've never lost interest in a match that replied in a timely manner..
 
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Instanteous response is good, when opportunity allows, since it shows a match is active.

Being qqquick also establishes mmmomentum, and momentum creates excitement, and excitment is better than sitting around waiting.
 
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I know where your coming from, but it's more of a mind set
then gamesmanship with male competition.

Why are you on EH? Make a little plan on your goals in dating and use commonsense. If something does not feel right trust your inner voice.

Part of the fun is getting excited when someone responds to you, it's ok to respond when you feel comfortable sooner or later. It's also ok to use other dating sites as well.

Have Fun.

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TrekRyder10 wrote :
No.. it's not too eager.

I've never lost interest in a match that replied in a timely manner..
Good question! I have thought about this question myself. And, I am glad that the consensus answer is "it's not too eager".
 
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Strlite85 wrote :
I'm wondering if maybe I should wait a day or so to respond, rather than eagerly checking my matches when I get them and responding right away.

What are your thoughts?

TIA!

Ashlee
Greeting someone online is equivalent to greeting someone in real life. If you would have no objections to smiling at a guy and telling him "Hello" or "Good morning" or "My name is ___________", then you should have no objections doing so online.

You are not asking him for his phone number or to go out on a date or to marry you; in sending him the initial five questions, you are greeting him. You are communicating "something (hopefully more than one thing) in your profile caught my interest".
 
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I disagree with most of the above. An instantaneous response once would be understandable and even welcome. Twice in close time proximity would start to raise unspoken questions about whether you have a life away from the computer. Proceed with caution.
 
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I continue to find it amazing there people ask questions like this, but I know it is because most people think they should play games.

If some guy is going to not even get to meeting you because you answered something too fast online then that is awesome that you would learn the guy is a nut case very early on.
 
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