Is it too eager of me to respond to matches right when they come in?


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I continue to find it amazing there people ask questions like this, but I know it is because most people think they should play games.

If some guy is going to not even get to meeting you because you answered something too fast online then that is awesome that you would learn the guy is a nut case very early on.
Playing games and giving / recognizing clues about who someone is aren't really the same thing.
 
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Playing games and giving / recognizing clues about who someone is aren't really the same thing.
Acting unnaturally is not giving off clues to who you really are. Possibly playing games is the wrong words here though.

We should all look to put our best foot forward, and we should look for clues about the other person from how they act. But, really..... if you don't just live and act naturally, you are much more likely to miss out on the right person, and not weed out the wrong person.
 
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DeltaKing wrote :
I disagree with most of the above. An instantaneous response once would be understandable and even welcome. Twice in close time proximity would start to raise unspoken questions about whether you have a life away from the computer. Proceed with caution.
Because nobody with a life spends more than 5 minutes on a computer? Because it is impossible to multitask when on a computer and they must just be sitting there reloading over and over waiting for a response?

The first couple of stages that next to no time investment and I wouldn't judge anyone or proceed with caution if someone had the audacity to get back to me in a prompt manner.

Timely communication is a welcome thing. People that play idiotic mind games to give the illusion that they are very busy and therefore very interesting and valuable can go right back to junior high as far as I'm concerned.
 
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DeltaKing wrote :
I disagree with most of the above. An instantaneous response once would be understandable and even welcome. Twice in close time proximity would start to raise unspoken questions about whether you have a life away from the computer. Proceed with caution.

Nowadays it is very easy to have access to internet from everywhere. Most of my friends & I have either a BB or Iphone or some other gadget that keeps us logged on at all times.

This does not mean in any way that we do not have a life !?!?

I answer all communication stages as soon as I receive them. I'm too busy to play games and do not have time to waste with any of these mind games.

I prefer if my matches respond asap also.
 
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Takeaway for the original poster: Some people see instant responses as overeager, some people do not.
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
No.. it's not too eager.

I've never lost interest in a match that replied in a timely manner..
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Related question: Can a match reply on a Friday or Saturday evening, or would that betray their lack of weekend plans/social life?
 
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Strlite85 wrote :
I'm wondering if maybe I should wait a day or so to respond, rather than eagerly checking my matches when I get them and responding right away.

What are your thoughts?

TIA!

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Nothing wrong with responding right away.
 
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