toprocket is offline toprocket Post #1  January 1,2011, 9:35am
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Girls, do you like it if a guy just skips to email or go through the communication process?

Guys, do you have a better response rate from skipping to email or going through the communication process?
 
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Another example of why eH should bring back a matches preference of GC or OC on profiles.

One of the main reasons people like eH is the guided communication process. As silly as some of the questions are, they do allow you to learn a bit more about a match before jumping into OC.


I use GC only because of the non-paying member issue. Nothing is worse than crafting an unique email only to discover the match is dead-inactive or cannot respond..

If you are sending emails right out of the gate, at least make them unique.. most e-mails are canned or one-liners.. hey baby or want to chat.
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
Another example of why eH should bring back a matches preference of GC or OC on profiles.
Agreed. I don't understand why they've decided that giving us useful information is such a bad thing.

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One of the main reasons people like eH is the guided communication process. As silly as some of the questions are, they do allow you to learn a bit more about a match before jumping into email.


I use GC only because of the non-paying member issue. Nothing is worse than crafting an unique email only to discover the match is dead-inactive or cannot respond..
Agree on both of these counts too. Personally, I prefer GC
 
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Girls, do you like it if a guy just skips to email or go through the communication process?

Guys, do you have a better response rate from skipping to email or going through the communication process?
I like the Guided Communication process. In days of old it displayed your match's communication preference on their profile. Rarely did I ever have a match that said she preferred to skip GC and go directly to e-mail.
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
Another example of why eH should bring back a matches preference of GC or OC on profiles.

One of the main reasons people like eH is the guided communication process. As silly as some of the questions are, they do allow you to learn a bit more about a match before jumping into OC.


I use GC only because of the non-paying member issue. Nothing is worse than crafting an unique email only to discover the match is dead-inactive or cannot respond..
If you are sending emails right out of the gate, at least make them unique.. most e-mails are canned or one-liners.. hey baby or what to chat.
Agree with all this.

This is particularly true during a Free non-Communication Event.
 
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I just jumped from opened ended to email this am, will let you know how that goes. It was not a one-liner but figured I had an opening liner it being New Years and all.
 
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As a woman I prefer GC. That is why I use eH. Yes, it has the e-mail option but I rarely find the men who send me e-mails "worth it". Or, rather, that their e-mails are worth it.

I've been hit with so many one liners and "how are you" e-mails that I won't accept any more direct to OC requests. It is a waste of my time.
 
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At this point, I'm getting kind of tired of GC. Most of the time it's a waste.
I would not have said this a couple months ago, but now I prefer to skip to email. You can always include a few MH/CS or anything else from the GC process in the email if it's a real concern.
 
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I still find most of the canned questions in GC very strange. A lot of these are questions I wouldn't even bring up in the first couple of dates, like "how many children is ideal?". And the rest just seem like fluff: "What is your idea of romantic time?". Is this "The Dating Game", circa 1977?
 
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I still find most of the canned questions in GC very strange. A lot of these are questions I wouldn't even bring up in the first couple of dates, like "how many children is ideal?". And the rest just seem like fluff: "What is your idea of romantic time?". Is this "The Dating Game", circa 1977?
LOL!
 
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