SteveManchesterEngland is offline SteveManchesterEngland Post #11  January 1,2011, 10:36am
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What is so wrong about wanting to meet someone right away??? i've been on open communication with this woman for a few days and i am a single father of 2 year old twin boys who has his boys every other weekend and a two days out of the week....so after exchanging EH emails..i asked her if she wasn't busy tomorrow, if we can meet....the reason for this is because i have my boys this weekend (New Years weekend) and i asked her if we can meet on thursday, december 30th because i'll have my boys all weekend until tuesday...and didn't want to wait until January 7th (the weekend i won't have my boys) to finally meet. when i get a reply, she says, "what's the rush?" "you just want to make sure i'm not fat!!!" i was replied with "wow, that's harsh" after that, i haven't been getting any text messages after i gave her my cell number.... i thought that was funny and wanted to share.
Her reply suggests that she's trying to put you on the defensive. I could not take someone seriously who comes out with such a pathetic/childish "you just want to make sure I'm not fat" response.

Her response was idiotic and insulting.

You have asked to meet up, she has responded by saying your motive is to check her body size rather than be flattered about your interest.

If a girl asked to meet up and you replied "you just want to check I'm not fat". What do you think she would think of you? I suspect she'd just deleted your number and assume you're immature or fat or both.

My response would be, "don't be so rude, I have suggested we meet up, obviously I was wasting my time because a child responded with 'you just want to check I'm not fat'".

I wouldn't waste any more time on her unless you are desperate.

I am speaking from experience here - if you ask to meet up and you get silly responses.... give up. Don't waste effort on persuading someone it's a good idea to meet up. Chances are what they joke about is probably true.
 
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noexmarine wrote :
What is so wrong about wanting to meet someone right away??? i've been on open communication with this woman for a few days and i am a single father of 2 year old twin boys who has his boys every other weekend and a two days out of the week....so after exchanging EH emails..i asked her if she wasn't busy tomorrow, if we can meet....the reason for this is because i have my boys this weekend (New Years weekend) and i asked her if we can meet on thursday, december 30th because i'll have my boys all weekend until tuesday...and didn't want to wait until January 7th (the weekend i won't have my boys) to finally meet. when i get a reply, she says, "what's the rush?" "you just want to make sure i'm not fat!!!" i was replied with "wow, that's harsh" after that, i haven't been getting any text messages after i gave her my cell number.... i thought that was funny and wanted to share.
It could have been your delivery of the invitation that turned her off. How exactly did you ask her? I would think if you explained your scheduled and that you were excited to meet her she wouldn't have responded as she did.

Since you apparently have her phone number, it would have been better to ask her out in a conversation rather than via text. Especially when first getting to know someone, texts can come across rudely when we do not intend them to do so.

And yeah, instead of responding that she was "harsh," you should have assumed she was making a joke and responded back more kindly. I probably wouldn't respond back further to a guy who replied as you did, either.
 
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When I tried EH almost 3 yrs ago, I found out quickly that a good deal of ladies here seem to want to carry on a pen pal relationship for an extended time before meeting. I don't understand that. If you are who you represent yourself as being and you're interested, why wait? Have a coffee or a drink at a public place for 30 minutes. There is NO way you can decide about someone via texts and calls.

And, yes, I think it is only natural for men and women to be curious what their match looks like in person. And, yes, I have met several women who misrepresented their body types completely.
 
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When I first started the online dating thing I wanted to talk a lot before meeting. Then I found that you get a false sense of who someone is that way and wanted to meet quickly. Recently the same day I started talking to someone he wanted to meet that same night. He told me he didn't like talking a lot before hand because of the same reason I mentioned. I was a little put off but offered meeting two days after that. We just had our fourth date and I couldn't be happier.
 
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