young_at_50plus is offline young_at_50plus Post #31  January 1,2011, 7:08am
young_at_50pl…'s Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Jan 2011

Posts: 1

See profile

ScottK wrote :
Boy, I would hate to be you walking down the street!

What if someone saw your face?
What if they looked at your finger, and noticed no ring?
What if they put two and two together, and guessed you weren't married?

Oh! The Horror!!!

I am very glad that eH got rid of the option of hiding your Photos.

As a prospective Match, I don't really care if you feel that you deserve special treatment because you are "in a public job", unless in real life you walk around with a ski mask over your head as well.

I have my Photo posted, and I expect you to have the same.

The only way I would find hiding Photos acceptable, is if anyone hiding their Photos would not be allowed to see any Photos of ANY of their Matches until they stopped hiding their Photos.

EDIT: Wow, the OP is a guy. My opinion still stands. Stop playing games, and just show your Photo dude.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I so agree...seems to me that if someone doesn't have their photo posted-they may be just "stepping out" on their significant other or possibly that they don't want their spouse finding out that they are looking for someone/something else. A photo is an honest gesture of the poster & who they are..not hidden by the mask of anonymity.
 
  Reply With Quote
CarolinaGyrl is offline CarolinaGyrl Post #32  January 1,2011, 7:44am
CarolinaGyrl's Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Jan 2011

Posts: 15

See profile

I think you guys are being pretty harsh with the OP. I don't make my e-harmony photos available to everyone because I have a very public job that would make that move silly. However, I usually provide them pretty quickly once I get to know someone. If that means some matches automatically close me, so be it.

When I get matches with hidden photos, I use it as an opportunity to take my time and get to know them for the person they are on the inside. Because of my situation, I don't jump to the false conclusion that they must be married or trying to hide some equally awful fact about themselves.

I have also seen co-workers take the quiz in an effort to try to determine if someone was on e-harmony, so they could label them a loser. I thought that was pretty lame, but it just proves the OP's point. Some people are just very mean and very bored...a terrible combination.
 
  Reply With Quote
MicMan is offline MicMan Post #33  January 1,2011, 9:52am
MicMan's Avatar

is living life to 83% of its normal capacity.

Board Leader - Sports

Joined: Feb 2009

Posts: 2,965

See profile

I have a very public job and I have no issue with my photos being out there. If someone does say something, so be it. It isn't like I'm so sort of social pariah because I'm using eHarmony.
 
  Reply With Quote
aquamom is offline aquamom Post #34  January 1,2011, 10:46am
aquamom's Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Jan 2011

Posts: 1

See profile

I work in a mental health facility in a community where everyone seems to know where I live,what I drive,where my kids go to school,and I even have patients approaching me at the grocery to discuss changing their prescriptions. I struggle to have good boundaries with my patients. It's not about others knowing you are single and looking, but about personal info. you don't choose to share with the whole world.EH offers more privacy than most online dating sites.
Last edited by aquamom; January 1,2011 at 10:55am. Reason: My point is, there are legitimate reasons for others wanting to reveal personal info at their own discretion.
 
  Reply With Quote
LoveSong is offline LoveSong Post #35  January 1,2011, 12:06pm
LoveSong's Avatar

Pacesetter

Joined: Sep 2009

Posts: 293

See profile

Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Also on eHarmony you have to pay your money to see photos. Even on Free non-Communication Events.
Yeah, that's why "I" personally have no problem with posting pics.
That's one of the main reasons I like eharmony so much. It's the only dating site I will use.
 
  Reply With Quote
tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #36  January 1,2011, 1:01pm
tweet37's Avatar

has all the tools and can........satisfy

Power Poster

Joined: Sep 2008

New Jersey

Posts: 7,608

See profile

If you're so worried about your photos being seen, what stops you from simply deleting them? Guaranteed, you'll get fewer responses (and more closures), but does the new system stop matching if you don't have any photos?
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply


« Does she like me or not??? | Using eHarmony | private advice »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
What to do with Photos of Ex? Lovely_Leo Relationships 21 September 23,2010 6:56pm
Profile Photos, First Dates and Feminine Attire Leinad Dating 174 May 10,2010 9:24am
Private Relationships. Leafsg Dating 49 May 3,2010 6:36am
All photos gone! Eharmony get your act together NYCpigeon Using eHarmony 5 December 28,2009 10:06am
How many photos to post? Sassafras54 Using eHarmony 12 October 18,2009 7:05pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“ Where's the other boot?” –  Breezy1

Join the “She stared at my feet. Is this normal?” discussion

“Exit interviews are highly recommended in many dating books and in other life strategy books. They are very effective. I think he would answer honestly to the some point. I know that is horrible and ... ” –  biking_girl

Join the “Exit interview after unsuccessful date” discussion

“And I'd also add that while a successful stable job down the road and a solid income is helpful in attracting a woman, it's no guarantee that finding love will be easy for you. I know plenty of men ... ” –  boschimsp

Join the “Should I ever date in college?” discussion

“I think if someone says they can't meet you for weeks, they are lukewarm interested. Even if he were truly busy with a project, he'd be able to drop you an email or a text here and there. I took ... ” –  Carole1520

Join the “Did he poof?” discussion

“ Yes, illegal aliens aren't treated as illegals. lol OP, trust your gut. A few months ago, I met a guy on match, who said his membership was expiring, and gave me his IM so we could chat. I ... ” –  Carole1520

Join the “Match from another country...is he a "fraud"?” discussion

“Stop humping my leg.” –  Breezy1

Join the “Comment to win a FREE month of eHarmony!” discussion

“I thought this thread was about exercise. Positive OP though...nice to see.” –  Breezy1

Join the “It's a matter of fit” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 7:26pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0