Random Questions about eHarmony

I have a few random questions about eHarmony and this forum.

1. Is there a standard timeframe for responding to someone's message on any of the guided communication or open communication steps? For instance, if someone sends me a message and I respond within two hours do I seem desperate? If I wait two days, does it seem like I don't care to communicate?

2. Has anyone else noticed that most people in these forums that discuss their lack of success on eHarmony are really good at math? It's been a while but I actually remember someone posted that only 7% of his matches were real matches. And of those only 13% would make it all the way to open communication. Who pays that much attention to those details? Of course when I questioned him on this, he gave me some details and I had to correct his math...17 out of 204 matches is actually 7.76% and 2 out of 17 is 11.8%.

3. Are there any first round questions or Must Have/Can't Stands that are immediate deal breakers? I know everyone has their own turn ons and turn offs but I'm looking more for the common ones. I think the question about willingness to relocate are pretty much turn offs. It feels like asking someone to leave their home to be closer to you on the first date.

4. Finally, what's the funniest thing you've read on someone's profile?

2. Has anyone else noticed that most people in these forums that discuss their lack of success on eHarmony are really good at math? It's been a while but I actually remember someone posted that only 7% of his matches were real matches. And of those only 13% would make it all the way to open communication. Who pays that much attention to those details? Of course when I questioned him on this, he gave me some details and I had to correct his math...17 out of 204 matches is actually 7.76% and 2 out of 17 is 11.8%.
I have not actually done the math, but scientifically, I would have to say my results have been "crappy".

3. Are there any first round questions or Must Have/Can't Stands that are immediate deal breakers? I know everyone has their own turn ons and turn offs but I'm looking more for the common ones. I think the question about willingness to relocate are pretty much turn offs. It feels like asking someone to leave their home to be closer to you on the first date.
I don't know about deal breakers, but I had to question the guy who sent me the Round 1 question about how do I feel about traditional gender roles in a marriage/relationship? Why would you ask that, unless you expect a little woman to stay home and cook your meals and raise your kids?

4. Finally, what's the funniest thing you've read on someone's profile?
Again, that same guy above who said things like "Foo on eHarmony for telling me I can't choose my parents as the most influential people!"
Foo?? Then later, in OC, he asked me if I like to go to "the cinema". Not "the movies". Sorry, I had to close him.

1. Is there a standard timeframe for responding to someone's message on any of the guided communication or open communication steps? For instance, if someone sends me a message and I respond within two hours do I seem desperate? If I wait two days, does it seem like I don't care to communicate?

2. Has anyone else noticed that most people in these forums that discuss their lack of success on eHarmony are really good at math? It's been a while but I actually remember someone posted that only 7% of his matches were real matches. And of those only 13% would make it all the way to open communication. Who pays that much attention to those details? Of course when I questioned him on this, he gave me some details and I had to correct his math...17 out of 204 matches is actually 7.76% and 2 out of 17 is 11.8%.

3. Are there any first round questions or Must Have/Can't Stands that are immediate deal breakers? I know everyone has their own turn ons and turn offs but I'm looking more for the common ones. I think the question about willingness to relocate are pretty much turn offs. It feels like asking someone to leave their home to be closer to you on the first date.

4. Finally, what's the funniest thing you've read on someone's profile?

I have a few random questions about eHarmony and this forum.

1. Is there a standard timeframe for responding to someone's message on any of the guided communication or open communication steps? For instance, if someone sends me a message and I respond within two hours do I seem desperate? If I wait two days, does it seem like I don't care to communicate?

2. Has anyone else noticed that most people in these forums that discuss their lack of success on eHarmony are really good at math? It's been a while but I actually remember someone posted that only 7% of his matches were real matches. And of those only 13% would make it all the way to open communication. Who pays that much attention to those details? Of course when I questioned him on this, he gave me some details and I had to correct his math...17 out of 204 matches is actually 7.76% and 2 out of 17 is 11.8%.

3. Are there any first round questions or Must Have/Can't Stands that are immediate deal breakers? I know everyone has their own turn ons and turn offs but I'm looking more for the common ones. I think the question about willingness to relocate are pretty much turn offs. It feels like asking someone to leave their home to be closer to you on the first date.

4. Finally, what's the funniest thing you've read on someone's profile?

I have a few random questions about eHarmony and this forum.

1. Is there a standard timeframe for responding to someone's message on any of the guided communication or open communication steps? For instance, if someone sends me a message and I respond within two hours do I seem desperate? If I wait two days, does it seem like I don't care to communicate?
I consider that matches that don't / can't respond to a communication within a 24 hour period are not all that serious about dating or find a relationship. I have often gone through Guided Communication in a day or two.

2. Has anyone else noticed that most people in these forums that discuss their lack of success on eHarmony are really good at math? It's been a while but I actually remember someone posted that only 7% of his matches were real matches. And of those only 13% would make it all the way to open communication. Who pays that much attention to those details? Of course when I questioned him on this, he gave me some details and I had to correct his math...17 out of 204 matches is actually 7.76% and 2 out of 17 is 11.8%.
The (regular) eHarmony Advice posters have been shown to not be representative of the general population. You are likely to find that the type of people that are attracted to posting on a regular basis may also be the type that are mathematically inclined. I do my math in my head and make estimates instead of getting my calculator and calculating the percent of matches that are dead to the nth decimal place.

3. Are there any first round questions or Must Have/Can't Stands that are immediate deal breakers? I know everyone has their own turn ons and turn offs but I'm looking more for the common ones. I think the question about willingness to relocate are pretty much turn offs. It feels like asking someone to leave their home to be closer to you on the first date.
Not for me.

4. Finally, what's the funniest thing you've read on someone's profile?

I have a few random questions about eHarmony and this forum.

1. Is there a standard timeframe for responding to someone's message on any of the guided communication or open communication steps? For instance, if someone sends me a message and I respond within two hours do I seem desperate? If I wait two days, does it seem like I don't care to communicate?

It depends, there is no right answer. I try to respond as soon as I can, but I realize every has different response times. I don't judge by response time, if my match does then they are not right for me.


2. Has anyone else noticed that most people in these forums that discuss their lack of success on eHarmony are really good at math? It's been a while but I actually remember someone posted that only 7% of his matches were real matches. And of those only 13% would make it all the way to open communication. Who pays that much attention to those details? Of course when I questioned him on this, he gave me some details and I had to correct his math...17 out of 204 matches is actually 7.76% and 2 out of 17 is 11.8%.

264 Matches
Communicating(ed) 81 (includes 3 messaged by)
GC responses 9 (2 messaged by)
OC responses 6 (1 messaged by) (1 i ended, 2 stopped responding)
Met 2 (1 messaged by)

So my math
9/81 - 11.1% communication response rate (yours is 11.8%)
not sure how you determined "real" matches.
2/81 - 2.5% "meet rate"

All that really matters to me is meeting people.
In 2 months, I have met 2 people.


3. Are there any first round questions or Must Have/Can't Stands that are immediate deal breakers? I know everyone has their own turn ons and turn offs but I'm looking more for the common ones. I think the question about willingness to relocate are pretty much turn offs. It feels like asking someone to leave their home to be closer to you on the first date.

I think you answered your own question. Everyone has their own, though I will never close a match based on "must have and can't stands" without clarifying first. I have had it on both sides that explaining what was meant proved that I misunderstood what they meant.

My worst story on this. A match put in "Gambling" as a "can't stand". I messaged them in open communication and addressed it right away. I had told them that gambling was a part of my life, but I am not an obsessive gambler. I explained I play cards frequently (nickel, quarter, dime) and I host poker tourneys for charity and frequently do gentleman’s bets for pride.

The match responded with a tirade against gamblers, that was quite honestly rude. Though it showed how much she “couldn’t stand” it. The worst part about it is that she still suggested that we could be a match, if I don't gamble. This part made me feel like she didn't even read my e-mail, and I closed the match.

4. Finally, what's the funniest thing you've read on someone's profile?