As an athiest, did I choose the wrong site for dating?


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TheHumansAreDead is offline TheHumansAreDead Post #1  December 28,2010, 5:37pm
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I haven't been on for too long but it seems my matches are very far and few in between, and the ones I do usually get are christian even though I put religious preferences as high and did not check christian.

I guess I should've probably done more research before joining the site, but so far it seems to be mainly a christian dating site. Am I wrong in this conclusion? Have I just been unlucky so far? Or are the people on this site mainly christian?

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I think you are basically right.
 
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About 75% of the US population self-identifies as Christian. If you wish to exclude Christians from your potential dating pool, you likely would have better luck on a site where you can specifically exclude them from your search.
 
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I identified myself as "Spiritual but not religious" and accepted matches who are "Not spiritual nor religious" as well as "spiritual but not religious" and I get about 15-30 per week. If it's a slow week and I have matching turned on, then I will start to get the flex-matches who self-identify as Christians.

Location may matter. If you're in the heart of the Bible belt you'll probably have worse luck...
 
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I identified myself as "Spiritual but not religious" and accepted matches who are "Not spiritual nor religious" as well as "spiritual but not religious" and I get about 15-30 per week. If it's a slow week and I have matching turned on, then I will start to get the flex-matches who self-identify as Christians.

Location may matter. If you're in the heart of the Bible belt you'll probably have worse luck...
Hmm 15-30 per week would be plenty enough for me, currently I'm getting like.. well none so far that weren't christian but then again it's only been a few days.
i live in WA which is typically liberal and not super religious so I'm not thinking it's location. Could just be luck I guess, that's encouraging to hear you're getting 15-30 per week, I think perhaps I may just need to wait longer?
 
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Most of the guys I have met on eH identified as "Christian" but with the exception of two, none of them attended church or engaged in any kind of religious activity/community. I have not set preferences about religion on my profile (so I also get several profiles of other faiths).

I have found that eH's population tends to be more politically conservative than the average US population, which has led to many interesting conversations!

If you have not paid yet and a conservative-leaning crowd is an issue for you, then I would reconsider. However, I would still give it a try for the sake of diversity! Or, how about if you convince one of them of voting differently next time? It could be your civic duty
 
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Most of the guys I have met on eH identified as "Christian" but with the exception of two, none of them attended church or engaged in any kind of religious activity/community. I have not set preferences about religion on my profile (so I also get several profiles of other faiths).

I have found that eH's population tends to be more politically conservative than the average US population, which has led to many interesting conversations!

If you have not paid yet and a conservative-leaning crowd is an issue for you, then I would reconsider. However, I would still give it a try for the sake of diversity! Or, how about if you convince one of them of voting differently next time? It could be your civic duty
Good point I actually said to eliminate very conservatives from my matches as well and after reading this it seems that could be limiting me as well. Yeah unfortunately I already paid but only bought the 3 months. Well I guess I'll see how it goes, I'll try to stay as optimistic as possible lol.

That's funny what you said about most of the guys being christian but most not really attending church. It'd be nice if they had 2 different "christian" options if you know what I'm saying
 
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TheHumansAreDead wrote :
i live in WA which is typically liberal and not super religious so I'm not thinking it's location...
...and I live in an area of Ohio that is typically very conservative! Is there anything else you can adjust? In my case it was smoking. Since I like a cigar every now and then, I set my smoking frequency to several times per year. When my matches dried up, I reset my smoking frequency to never, but noted in my profile that I like to smoke cigars. I started getting a lot more matches after that.
 
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You would be better off with a different site. I don't think I'm allowed to say the particular site but just do a google search for atheist dating and you'll find it.
 
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Maybe this is location and the other areas of compatibility at work. I get 40-50 matches per week and I'm Spiritual, but not religious and almost all of my matches are Spiritual, but not religious, very rarely anything else. I recall only two 'Bible thumpers' who were very religious in a month's worth of matches. I'm also new to the site.
 
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