A Profile Review v2, Please (Male, 43)

While it seemed my profile was improved after my first review a month ago, the results indicate otherwise. I've since made a few tweaks to it, but nothing has changed. In short, I'm getting nowhere at all.

I started online dating almost six months ago and have been on eHarmony for two months. I was on Match for three months and have been on OKStupid for almost four months. I started on POF a few weeks ago. I've kept my profile as close to my EH profile as the format permits on the other sites. So far, I've talked to one woman on the phone twice who then vanished. I'm saying this just to show that I'm not having a short spell of bad luck.

It's not that communication is stalling at some point - it never starts. From all the above, I've only had two-way communication of any sort at all with four women. I know there are a lot of 'dead' profiles on all the sites, but even allowing for 90% dead, I'm still doing poorly.

I'm at a loss as to why I'm being ignored/blocked/closed from the outset. I thank you in advance for any help you can provide.




The one thing I am most passionate about:

"Life does not suffer from a lack of wonders, only from a lack OF wonder." I am most passionate about exploring these wonders - trivial or profound. I'm always looking for a challenge, be it rollerblading, clock and watch repair, violin making, home improvement or removing stuff I buy from 'security packaging' without using a chain saw.

I'd lose the quote and state that you have a passion for challenging yourself to learn new things like rollerblading and the rest of the items you have listed.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:

In a word, kindness. She should also be openly affectionate, honest, at least a little bit outgoing, bright and creative with a fondness of learning and experiencing new things. A touch of playful naughtiness is more than welcome.

I always took "openly affectionate" to mean you were looking for sex right away rather than take the time to get to know if we are compatible. I'd lose the last sentence, you can share that information later.



The most influential person in my life has been:

He was the son of my mother's friend and became the older brother that I never had. We met when I was seventeen and spent much time together until he moved away three years later. He always listened when I needed to talk and had much good advice to offer. Mostly by example, he helped me to see how to become a good, honest, responsible and caring person.

This is good.


The three things which I am most thankful for:

* Having had a loving, caring and not too dysfunctional family to raise and start me on my way.
* Having basically good health in all categories allowing me to provide for myself and make at least a small contribution to society.
* For endless curiosity and creativity.

I would leave out the bolded part, that would be a red flag to me.


Three of my best life-skills are:

* Sharing my beliefs through teaching, participation, and example
* Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
* Being a good friend and companion

These are fine.

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

While at first I am sometimes hidden beneath a cloak of formality and shyness, beneath it you will find someone who is charming, passionate, often silly and occasionally quite goofy.

Standard answer, you will not stand out with this one.


The things I can't live without are:

* Hope
*Someone to hold
* Laughter
* Something to read or a project to work on
* A caffeinated beverage

The first 3 seem pretty generic, I'd add something to make them more personal or replace them with something you really can't live without.


The first thing people notice about me:

That I am quiet and rather shy. They soon notice I am storehouse of useful and useless information - I am a natural and gifted teacher, but am lacking the annoying know-it-all attitude and any sign of pretentiousness.

I'd revise it to something like Once you get past my shy exterior, you'll soon notice that I am a storehouse of useful and useless information - the perfect trivia partner! The reset of the paragraph sounds .. well, pretentious!



Some additional information I want you to know:

I'm basically a hopeless romantic and genuinely love to hold hands and cuddle. I've been told that I'm as affectionate as a puppy - I can be quite content alone at times, but when I'm with someone, I want to be truly with them. While I do not formally practice my faith, I do have a strong spiritual belief. I'm not a big sports fan, but may watch baseball a few times a year. I ask for directions and always put the seat down. While my brain may be wired for logic, I have the soul of a subdued comedian and a heart of mush. I'm very friendly, open minded and easy to get along with.

This is TMI, maybe limit it to the bolded part.

My interests
I typically spend my leisure time:

Shopping for antiques and collectibles (and restoring them), flea markets, tag sales etc. Inline skating (I used to speed skate competitively). Any of dozens of hobbies and crafts. Visiting museums, exhibits, fairs, historic sites, parks and out of the way places. Trying new foods. Spending time with you (as soon as I find you) doing any of the above, many other things or sometimes nothing at all.

"out of the way places" seems kind of creepy. Did you mean "places that are off the beaten path"? I'd definitely lose that last sentence as it makes you seem desperate.


The last book I read and enjoyed:

I read a lot of stuff you probably don't such as text books, books on science and physics, science fiction, computer manuals and 'how to' books. I have also read many of the classics and more popular titles. The last book I read was on memory improvement. I don't recall the title.

This doesn't answer the question. It doesn't have to be something on the NY Times best seller list, just something you have read and enjoyed. It also seems a little snobby like you are better than me.


My friends describe me as:

* Creative
* Modest
* Caring
* Intelligent