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I just got a match named "[Name of a sports team]fan" - obviously that is not the guy's real name, so it raises my eyebrows. Is there an innocent reason for not using one's real name, or is this maybe a married man or something equally shady?
 
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I get a lot of women like this (15%?)

I just assume they are concerned about their employer knowing, so I don't care.

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To check for married, I perfer to get into their house as soon as possible.
 
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Hey, wanna change your name to Eagles fan?
 
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I've gotten some matches where they only list one letter of their first name.

If your first name is spelled uniquely you need to either only supply the first letter of your name, or supply part of it. It is far too easy to find out your real identity given a uniquely spelled first name and city.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Hey, wanna change your name to Eagles fan?
Haha, no thanks. Eight bad (ok, horrendous) minutes of a fourth quarter aren't going to get me to disown the G-men!
 
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Some people don't realize that eH doesn't operate like match or some of those other services which encourage a "user name" rather than just using their real first name. Some have legit reasons for not using their first. I would just ask for it either in an answer to one of the questions or in OC. Unless they refuse to give you their name then, you don't need to worry.
 
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People have posted here saying they got googled and somebody showed up at their house or workplace -- Oh Noooo! And one advice to that problem is to use a nickname.

I wouldn't worry about it unless, as Andie says, down the road they still won't give their name. I wouldn't meet in person with someone whose name I didn't know.
 
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I've had a few like that, they don't really bother me as long as they tell me when you get to OC.

I did have a match that put on his profile- if we ever meet, you better not tell people that I met you through eharmony- you will have to make up a story or something... while I'm not going to put a bumper sticker on my car or start wearing eharmony t-shirts- I'm not ashamed to be here, for me it's a better alternative then meeting someone at a bar
 
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SkinsGiants_fan wrote :
I just got a match named "[Name of a sports team]fan" - obviously that is not the guy's real name, so it raises my eyebrows. Is there an innocent reason for not using one's real name, or is this maybe a married man or something equally shady?
Wait, are you a Skins fan or a Giants fan? The two seem incompatible. Unless you're a San Francisco Giants fan.

I've seen some made up names. I've seen a lot of single letter names (assuming they are their first initial). I've seen a handful of full names, which I'm guessing is an attempt to give out contact info so they can get matches without paying.

Never understood the fake names. If they have a particularly unique and identifiable first name, use a nickname. My profile uses a nickname rather than my official first name.
 
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Sassafras54 wrote :
I wouldn't meet in person with someone whose name I didn't know.

Sure you would.

If I made up a name, you would have no way of knowing it wasn't my real name, thus you would meet without knowing my name.
 
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