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tj21 is offline tj21 Post #1  December 4,2010, 6:10pm
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I don't know how many of you have run into this. I had a few people interested in my profile and they asked me for a pic and then immediately closed the match. It's very frustrating. I have been described a cute. I do look younger than my age. I have a lot to offer in a relationship, but have been kicked to the curb very quickly before even talking or meeting. I'm almost ready to cancel my membership. Any advice?
 
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I suggest making your pictures public so that people can see what you look like before they start communicating. This will eliminate your feeling of rejection because if they don't like your picture, they won't communicate in the first place.

Make sure you have close-up and full body shots that are fairly current.

Are you also initiating communication?
 
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Definitely include whole body shots.
 
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tj21 wrote :
I had a few people interested in my profile and they asked me for a pic and then immediately closed the match. It's very frustrating....... Any advice?
Why don't you have your photos posted in your profile? You need to do this. Yes, your personality is important but if the physical attraction isn't there the relationship will never take off.

This goes both ways. You surely don't meet guys without ever seeing a photo do you?

You asked for advice. My advice is post your photos in your profile, don't make the guys ask for them.
 
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I agree with all the posters that you should have pictures on your profile page. Include current shots of yourself, and if you don't have any then have a friend or family member take some photos of you.

Everyone has a certain look they go for and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I know in life some men will find me attractive, and with others I'm not their type. That's okay, I just need to be my future significant other's type.
 
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Physical attraction is what prompts me to even read profiles in the first place. Pictures are always examined first. Physical attraction comes first. That's the way it is.
 
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VB_Girl wrote :
I suggest making your pictures public so that people can see what you look like before they start communicating. This will eliminate your feeling of rejection because if they don't like your picture, they won't communicate in the first place.

Make sure you have close-up and full body shots that are fairly current.

Are you also initiating communication?
This is exactly right - if you have full and accurate photos and are closed in advance of communication, then this is a match who would have closed you upon receiving photos, anyway!
 
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tj21 wrote :
I don't know how many of you have run into this. I had a few people interested in my profile and they asked me for a pic and then immediately closed the match. It's very frustrating. I have been described a cute. I do look younger than my age. I have a lot to offer in a relationship, but have been kicked to the curb very quickly before even talking or meeting. I'm almost ready to cancel my membership. Any advice?
Hi TJ,

It can be a little intimidating posting your photo especially if you think you have some definite areas that need improvement. The good news is that you might actually be overreacting to how severe those areas are. Some guys actually like a gal who is really tall (like me) or who is pretzel thin or a few pounds overweight. Whatever your quirk is there is someone out there who might think it is cute. So post your pictures with PRIDE and let your matches know that you are comfortable in your own skin.

Can a profile photo be the cause of someone immediately closing on you? Of course it can, but for me the most important ingredient in a successful profile photo is a SMILE! Sometimes I just wish I could reach through my computer screen and tell the person, “You know you’d be so much more attractive if you’d just SMILE!”

Good luck!
 
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I had the same issue, I mentioned it in another post. I thought I had posted my pictures for everyone to see, and started communicating with three guys. Once I got to Open Communication though, one guy told me I didn't have pictures posted. I apologized, and figured out the error, but unfortunately I never heard from any of those three again. However, once I did post my pictures for all to see, someone did contact me, and we just went on our 3rd date. So yes, my advice to you is to post your pictures, no matter what you think, and you will have many more people contacting you, and won't be closed out by people when they see your pictures for the first time.
 
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“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”.

I do not like any of my pictures . However I only need to be right for one. The girl I am dating now doesn’t like her photos either. Guess what? It is the very things she hates about herself that I love .

I have all my photos and my personality open to all matches. I want them to know as much about me as possible. If they don’t desire my company I want to know it early. Life is too short to be wasted.

Post and share with all is my opinion. Good luck in your search.


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