ScottK is offline ScottK Post #11  November 5,2010, 8:59am
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Now that I quoted the TOS and FAQ for the OP, let me give my personal opinion...

I am also dead set against having married/separated members on eHarmony.
I want to know that any Match that I have matched with, is free and unencumbered in terms of starting a new relationship.

Granted, with most divorced members, there are usually issues when with ex's, kids, alimony, child support, etc.
So "free and unencumbered" is a relative word of course.
But at least in the legal aspect of things, they are...


Now, do I suspect there *ARE* married women and men on eHarmony, going against the TOS?
Of course.

Just as in real life, there is no way for you or eHarmony to really know for sure...
But at least with eHarmony, you can report said Match, and they will get kicked off the system, so that at least you are able to warn the next Match the person would have gotten.
 
 
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Just wanting to get some feedback/opinions on the percentage of men on Eharmony that are actually married (and I don't mean in the divorce process, I mean married with no intention of divorce).

I have definitely experienced this on other dating sites. The signs appear to be obvious. Calls/texts mainly only during work hours. Not answering cell in the evening. Occassional super quick phone conversations from the car on the way "somewhere." Discussions about getting together, but it never materializes.

Don't get me wrong, I'm no idiot, but I would hate to accuse a man on Eharmony of being married if he's not, but when these types of things happen what's a girl to think?

Ideas?
When you complete your profile for eHarmony, you are asked right at the beginning if you are single, divorced, separated, married, or widowed. eHarmony won't let anyone join if they are married; as far as I know eHarmony won't let anyone join if they are separated.

That being said, it's easy enough lying about something like this. You can check off the divorced or single or widowed box as easily as you check off the married or separated box. If someone checks of divorced, single, or widowed, it can mean just that - they are divorced, single, or widowed. On the other hand, some people will check these boxes off even though they are still married. There's not much that eHarmony can do about these people - how do you prove that someone is married when they say that they are single or divorced?

The only thing that you can do when you receive a match is to read the profile carefully and ask a lot of personal questions when you get to OC. If you don't like the answers you get, you can close the match and move on.
 
 
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There is the same number of women who do it too.

This just isnt only done by men.
 
 
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I was matched with a man recently who is a little older,tall, has an amazing body and has a top notch job. Almost right after I replied to his icebreaker I got the first set of questions. It seemed he was very attentive and punctuate. We finish all the questions and answers in 2 days. Then I got an eharmony email to disclose more information about him and mentioned that he would like to meet for coffee. I agreed and asked him to set a time and pick a place. For my own safety I checked him out on the web while I was waiting for his reply and shockingly I believe he is still married and lives with his wife. And I never get a word back from him of course.

sck wrote :
Just wanting to get some feedback/opinions on the percentage of men on Eharmony that are actually married (and I don't mean in the divorce process, I mean married with no intention of divorce).

I have definitely experienced this on other dating sites. The signs appear to be obvious. Calls/texts mainly only during work hours. Not answering cell in the evening. Occassional super quick phone conversations from the car on the way "somewhere." Discussions about getting together, but it never materializes.

Don't get me wrong, I'm no idiot, but I would hate to accuse a man on Eharmony of being married if he's not, but when these types of things happen what's a girl to think?

Ideas?
 
 
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