ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #1  November 3,2010, 11:31am
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When you used these off-color or smart-arse responses...what happened??? Did the person close you? Did you close them? Did you two even meet?
 
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #2  November 3,2010, 11:48am
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Well....I don't ask anti-social questions that would inspire a snarky response, so I've never seen one. However if I did get one, I'd be amused. I find that too often my matches are way too serious about how they answer even the simplest of questions.

As for sending the snarky responses - I've never been closed for it that I can remember. If anything, it seems to increase the guy's interest by quite a bit. However, there is some irony in this, that a baggagy question actually lowers my interest in him - I would not care if he closed me out for it.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
However, there is some irony in this, that a baggagy question actually lowers my interest in him - I would not care if he closed me out for it.
I agree with this.
The other night...I got the "do you like being alone?" question...
Really, how is someone supposed to answer this question?
(I have never sent that question...because it's ridiculous to even ask it.)
If they say, "I don't mind it"..it could appear as though they are a loner, and not able to be in a relationship..
if they answer.."it's fine, but I prefer being around others most of the time".. they may be viewed as someone who is too clingy, high maintenance...
and what's even more ridiculous is one of the first canned answers is, "yes, I like being alone"...or words to that effect..
what??
why EH would put that answer in there in the first place is absurd.

Some of these questions are stupid...beyond the pale stupid.
 
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I can't stand the 3 wishes/dream for the future type questions. Those are such personal things to share and I just don't feel intimate enough to do so with someone I know likes wine over beer and has "Passionate" as a MH. I don't get snarky with those, but being asked it does kill my interest...I read it as having very different boundaries and expectations. This has been confirmed in later communication.

I do give a smart (butt?) answer to the 'If I had a bad day, what would you do for me?' question. It's so presumptuous. I usu. say something along the lines of "I don't know you, so I'd probably tell you to suck it up and stop whining to strangers." No one's closed me for it, but we never get very far. I assume b/c he thinks I'm antisocial for answering that way and I for thinking he's socially inept enough to ask it in the first place.
 
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If I send a snarky, off color response I expect to get closed. That is kinda the message I'm sending when I respond with snark.

If I send something the other person finds is too personal, baggage filled, etc, and they respond with snark, we are probably a good match. I have my reasons for asking each question and do not appreciate non-responsive answers.

So, either way, we're both dodging a bullet.
 
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TheThinker wrote :
I agree with this.
The other night...I got the "do you like being alone?" question...
Really, how is someone supposed to answer this question?
(I have never sent that question...because it's ridiculous to even ask it.)
If they say, "I don't mind it"..it could appear as though they are a loner, and not able to be in a relationship..
if they answer.."it's fine, but I prefer being around others most of the time".. they may be viewed as someone who is too clingy, high maintenance...
and what's even more ridiculous is one of the first canned answers is, "yes, I like being alone"...or words to that effect..
what??
why EH would put that answer in there in the first place is absurd.

Some of these questions are stupid...beyond the pale stupid.
I love this question. If you can't be alone with yourself who else would want to...
 
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DancingFool wrote :
As for sending the snarky responses...it seems to increase the guy's interest by quite a bit.
Some guys "get" the snarky humor and some guys love being abused, so yeah, sometimes it'll increase their interest, but sometimes it won't; not because they "didn't get it" or hate being abused, but because the digital world is emotion-less.

(Remember, there are only 10 kinds of people in this world; those who understand binary, and those who don't.)

Unfortunately (or perhaps fortunately) the GC system doesn't support Smilies, and the ubiquitous :-) is... well, let's not go there, so the communications-breakdown may end up being over an unfortunate misunderstanding which likely isn't what anyone enjoys.

PS- Try this one:

Q: Do you like being alone?
A: Only when I have gas. ()
 
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