Move to Open Communication...But No Communication?


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blrdancer is offline blrdancer Post #1  November 2,2010, 12:59pm
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I've been on eHa quite a while and have always used the guided communication process.

I recently had a match, who after the 1st round of questions, sent me a request to move directly to e-mail communication. I didn't see any reason why not -- was interested to see what he had to say -- so accepted it.

But when I read his e-mail, basically all it says is hi and that he hopes to hear from me. No other details, questions, etc. So not only has he skipped over the guided communication, but he has stuck the ball directly in my court to initiate any conversation.

Maybe it's just me, but I find this a little annoying. I don't necessarily mind initiating conversation, but he hasn't given me a whole lot to go on (his profile isn't exactly detailed.) My thought is that if you're going to push for e-mail, then at least get the ball rolling - throw out a question or something. Am I wrong?
 
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You are not wrong. I get very annoyed at OCs like this. I refuse to accept direct to OC anymore because almost all have been the lame "hey, what's up? Get back to me some time." carp!

I once sent back a scathing retort about expecting more than just a standard carpy line like that.

I would be more welcoming of an OC if it contained a question or two or something of substance (contact info outside of eH because their subscription is going to expire, etc).

Are you going to continue communicating with him?
 
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OC him back and simply say tell me about yourself and see how he responds.
 
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Getting_There is offline Getting_There Post #4  November 3,2010, 7:28am
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In your shoes I would invest as much time in your initial email to him that he invested in the one he sent. Just say hi back and that you hope to hear back from him. Then see if he takes it anywhere else.
 
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