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LoveSong is offline LoveSong Post #1  November 1,2010, 10:13pm
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For me it is three things:
They are extremely common, extremely annoying and get closed extremely quickly.

1. When a guy posts a picture with a baby (niece/nephew). Can you get any more phony? Do you think I will suddenly believe you are good with kids because you posed in a picture with some baby?

2. When they say "I'm just a fun loving, good guy." (or something along those generic lines).
Like seriously? You think I will suddenly believe this because you typed that? Another "show don't tell" comment.
Instead put something personal about yourself or leave this area blank if you are that bland that you have nothing insightful to put down.

3. When they type very basic words incorrectly.
I'm not much of a spelling buff, but if you don't care enough to look up the simple word for the sake of your profile, then I don't care to get to know you further. Even if you didn't finish high school, there is no excuse for certain words.

Edit: 4th. If they mention they love being with their friends more than 3 times in their profile. Then add it again some more times in the initial communication messages.
We all love our friends, but if you feel the need to post that several times you are obviously seeking approval. Also love it their pictures are alone, but they add underneath out with friends (in addition to the several mentions in profile). I don't care about how many friends you have.
Just be yourself. Is that too much to ask?
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Tracyannk28 is offline Tracyannk28 Post #2  November 2,2010, 5:04am
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Any generic/cliche comment turns me off immediately:

1) I live life to the fullest!!!
2) I'm down to earth
3) Life's too short!

I also don't understand why a man would post a picture of himself on his profile with him looking angry ...
 
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Men that post photos of just their animals. If you post a photo of you and your dog/cat/whatever, it's okay. Multiple photos of men and their pets, or single photos of their pet will get them an eye roll, then closed.

Yes I do love animals, have Yorkie mutt (my Yorkie died a few months ago, after a long battle with diabetes).
 
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Tracyannk28 wrote :

I also don't understand why a man would post a picture of himself on his profile with him looking angry ...
Ugh....the angry look definitely seems to be the latest trend in online dating. More and more profiles have that. There is nothing more unappealing than looking at a photo where the guy looks like he is about to kill someone. It's about as repulsive as it can get. Actually makes me wish for the bathroom mirror cell phone pic - it's easier to tolerate by comparison.
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LoveSong wrote :
For me it is three things:
They are extremely common, extremely annoying and get closed extremely quickly.

1. When a guy posts a picture with a baby (niece/nephew). Can you get any more phony? Do you think I will suddenly believe you are good with kids because you posed in a picture with some baby?
Combine that with a profile that talks about how his nieces and nephews are just his absolute reason for living and how he loves long walks on the beach and it's hard not to throw up a little.
 
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Ugh....the angry look definitely seems to be the latest trend in online dating. More and more profiles have that. There is nothing more unappealing than looking at a photo where the guy looks like he is about to kill someone. It's about as repulsive as it can get. Actually makes me wish for the bathroom mirror cell phone pic - it's easier to tolerate by comparison.
Makes you wonder why men don't like to smile and look happy? Why would we want to meet someone who looks like he was on "To Catch A Predator"???
 
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Tracyannk28 wrote :
Makes you wonder why men don't like to smile and look happy? Why would we want to meet someone who looks like he was on "To Catch A Predator"???
I don't know....maybe it's that whole myth and delusion that women like jerks so if he looks like he'll beat her up.....he thinks it will bring in the dates........ irony being that they run away even faster and flock to the few guys who look pleasant and sane and approachable. I really hope this little trend dies out fast.

I actually ended up closing a match over that recently. He seemed like a decent guy, but his angry pic....quite frankly I just could not stomach it. Having to look at that while responding to his e-mails was just too unpleasant.
 
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This is silly, but it's funny.... all the people who answer the 'the most important thing you are looking for in a partner' box with 'There's not just one thing' or 'There are serveral things'. But the questions implies THE most important thing. Not a laundry list. ANSWER THE QUESTION!!! LOL
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One word answers. I don't care what his picture looks like if he can't be bothered to fill out the profile with a little bit of detail. It doesn't have to be an essay - just let us girls know something about you.

I agree with the angry look. Ugh!! I think most of us have seen enough anger - we don't go out looking for angry guys to share time with. What if women started doing this? Showing ourselves as angry or angry with a beer in our hand - how would men like that? "Great - she's an angry possibly psychotic alcoholic. Where do I sign up?"
 
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In no particular order:

-Chopping of pics at the shoulder where it's obvious there was a guys hand around yours..(ladies: uh...the hairy hand/arm is the dead giveaway...)

-Weird pics that I'm supposed to somehow, "get"...
one match had her only photo..one of her in a pose..flashing gang signs...(this woman was about 50 years old, I kid you not.)

-Incomplete profiles

-One word answers...
what I'm looking for in a person: honesty(um, ok. ...yeah, I'm looking for "lies"..)

-Negative vibes....
seen recently on a profile.."I don't like controlling behavior....I don't want to be controlled"..
okie doke...
yeeee-ah...check your baggage at the gate, please..

-The ever popular, "my kids are my life!!" profile...
I have a child also, but when I see this mentioned over and over, repeatedly, even under "the most influential person" section... I'm thinking: gee, how will they have time to fit me in?
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