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Contentmentandjoy is offline Contentmentandjoy Post #1  November 1,2010, 7:10pm
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I would appreciate comments on my profile - I have not had any communications initiated from the 30+ matches I have received over the past couple of months.

I am a 50+ female and have posted pictures - close up, full length (3) showing activites etc. I am the only person in all of the pictures.

Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why? My sister and my grandparents have had the most impact in my life. My sister because she has been my rock in good times and bad, she provides me with honest and wise advise and is also there to give me support. My grandparents because they showed me the value of hard work, unconditional love and faith in God.

What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person? I am looking for someone who is easy going and is looking for a genuine relationship built on honesty, open communication, integrity and a strong faith in God. I also would like someone who enjoys life and gets pleasure from the simple things in life, like holding hands while taking a romatic walk along the beach or around the block.

Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you? A calm inner peace that comes with being content with who you are.

What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD? The reason I am quiet is because I am listening and interested in hearing what you have to say and because I am a little shy.

What are five things that you "can't live without?" (1) My daughters and sister (2) My faith in God and the plan he has for me. (3) Optimism about life and people (4) Blue skies, green trees, nature

Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it? Just about any mystery book, news magazines and books for bible study.

Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you? Life is all about attitude, if you approach life and people with an open and positive attitude and look for the best you will find it. I like to try new things,experience life, be outdoors and travel. I would like to share my next set of life experiences with someone special
 
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ruthanastasia is offline ruthanastasia Post #2  November 1,2010, 7:25pm
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Your profile is very generic. What you wrote in your profile could apply to almost any human being on the planet. You must get much more specific. ~ruth
 
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melman is offline melman Post #3  November 1,2010, 9:04pm
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You still didn't follow the instructions. Please post the complete profile. All the questions and answers.
 
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Hi contentmentandjoy, and welcome to EHA.

You did leave out the "passionate about" and "who I'm looking for" sections -- these are very important; you should include them here.

Your profile overall gives an impression of a serene, religious person. If that's accurate of you then that's a good start. But I agree with Ruth ... your profile does not get specific enough. Your matches may have read 10's, 100's or even 1000's of profiles by the time they see yours -- so you need to make yours unique to you, so that it stands out. Some comments below.

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I would appreciate comments on my profile - I have not had any communications initiated from the 30+ matches I have received over the past couple of months.

I am a 50+ female and have posted pictures - close up, full length (3) showing activites etc. I am the only person in all of the pictures.

Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why? My sister and my grandparents have had the most impact in my life. My sister because she has been my rock in good times and bad, she provides me with honest and wise advise and is also there to give me support. My grandparents because they showed me the value of hard work, unconditional love and faith in God. Pick one or the other (sister or grandparents) and then give some specific info. E.g. "My sister has been my rock in good and bad times -- when I had cancer 5 years ago she always had a sympathetic ear for me and kept my spirits up -- when I finally got my dream job I called her first to celebrate". This tells your match a couple things about you... it's unique to you.

What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person? I am looking for someone who is easy going and is looking for a genuine relationship built on honesty, open communication, integrity and a strong faith in God. I'd delete the following sentence ... it's too close to the cliche "I like candlelit dinners and walks on the beach". I think the first sentence by itself is fine.I also would like someone who enjoys life and gets pleasure from the simple things in life, like holding hands while taking a romatic walk along the beach or around the block.

Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you? A calm inner peace that comes with being content with who you are. This is a good answer.

What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD? The reason I am quiet is because I am listening and interested in hearing what you have to say and because I am a little shy. Talk about what you want them to notice (I am a great listener) not what they notice instead of that (I am quiet and shy). Give an example of how you're a good listener that's specific to you.

What are five things that you "can't live without?" (1) My daughters and sister (2) My faith in God and the plan he has for me. (3) Optimism about life and people (4) Blue skies, green trees, nature

Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it? Just about any mystery book, news magazines and books for bible study. Pick 1 book and say more about it: why you liked it.

Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you? Life is all about attitude, if you approach life and people with an open and positive attitude and look for the best you will find it. I like to try new things,experience life, be outdoors and travel. I would like to share my next set of life experiences with someone special
 
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Wiseman2 is offline Wiseman2 Post #5  November 2,2010, 2:15am
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I agree with these posts,

1) Fill out all sections and answer the question as it is asked.

2) Avoid themes and repetition. They sound one dimensional or obsessed. Count how often you used the same concept in various answers / sections

3)Think about all the things you are and enjoy, then begin to rewrite.

4)Keep in mind it is to attract a man , not lecture on the meaning of life or relationships

ruthanastasia wrote :
Your profile is very generic. What you wrote in your profile could apply to almost any human being on the planet.
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You did leave out the "passionate about" and "who I'm looking for" sections -- these are very important; you should include them here.
Your profile overall gives an impression of a serene, religious person. If that's accurate of you then that's a good start. But your profile does not get specific enough. you need to make yours unique to you, so that it stands out. Some comments below.
 
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Mythical is offline Mythical Post #6  November 2,2010, 7:09am
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You mention God and faith a lot. So much so, it seems that is your life. Men can't compete with God, so they move on.

If you want a Bible thumping, pray an hour every morning, go to church twice a week type of guy, then you're fine, but don't expect too many that will fit that category. If you just want someone who is spiritual and probably attends church, then mention faith/God once or twice at the most.
 
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sfnurse is offline sfnurse Post #7  November 2,2010, 7:21am
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I agree with all he folks above. If you like the outdoors, what do you like to do there? Are you involved in any church groups? What mystery books and magazines do you read? authors? Just give more details. I hope all of these answers help you. Good luck!
 
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Diana_P is offline Diana_P Post #8  November 2,2010, 3:39pm
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You have expressed yourself well and in a very honest manner. Everything is grammatically correct and there are no spelling errors.

I would suggest emphasizing your selling points. Imagine that you are trying to sell a house. You have to snare their interest before you can haggle over the price.

Question: What is the most important quality you are looking for in another person?

Answer: The most important quality I look for is the ability to appreciate life. I love holding hands and going for walks on the beach or just down the street. I want a man who can enjoy the beauty of simple things like a nice dinner and conversation at home and who wants to share that joy with me. I deeply appreciate life and it shows in my honesty, integrity, and my faith in God. I seek a man who can communicate his passion for life to me in both his actions and his words.

Question: What is the one thing that people don’t notice about you right away that you wish they would?

Answer: I think the one thing people may not notice immediately is that although I am often very quiet, I can be a very interesting conversationalist. The reason I am quiet is because I am a good listener and I want to hear what you have to say, but with a little coaxing I will share some fascinating stories with you.
 
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Contentmentandjoy is offline Contentmentandjoy Post #9  November 4,2010, 9:37am
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Thank you to everyone who posted replies. I have updated my profile using the suggestions you provided. Hopefully I will have better luck.
 
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Harryoss is offline Harryoss Post #10  November 4,2010, 9:48am
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Any chance we can see the new and updated version? It's great to know our suggestions helped you improve... It's even greater to see exactly how!
 
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