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MichaelNES13 is offline MichaelNES13 Post #1  October 28,2010, 6:46am
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What do you lose by keeping it open?
 
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Closing is a foolish thing to do on EH since you lose that match permanently and it does not hurt you one bit to keep it open.

You have no idea why she is not responding - maybe not yet a paid member sitting on the fence. Maybe she has too many in her in-box and can't manage another until some get culled (yeah yeah everyone wants to feel special, but online you have to be real about that), maybe she is new to the online thing and only talks to one guy at a time and feels like she would be "cheating" if she started talking to you too, maybe.....insert a million other reasons here.......

The bottom line is, that when you leave them open you have nothing to lose and possibly might gain a date. You close them.....it's almost like shooting yourself in the foot.

Here is a tip - don't even look at matches who have not responded, only pay attention to those who are responding.
 
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MichaelNES13 wrote :
Got matched with a girl (full complete profile with 11 pictures) on Oct. 19th. I sent her my first set of questions that night. She has viewed my profile a couple times since then but never answered my questions.

I sent her a nudge yesterday before I went to the gym. When I got back I saw that she had viewed my profile once again. I woke up this morning and still no response to my questions. I'm thinking it's pretty safe to say that if she hasn't answered in almost a week and a half that she's not going to. What say you?
I don't close anyone, unless they we've had a date and we mutually agreed, it didn't work out..
She may have had a lot going on before...she could be on the edge of answering you back, so you've really nothing to lose by keeping her profile open.
 
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1. maybe she is interested but communicating with others and overwhelmed

2. maybe she's a flake

3. maybe she's trying to figure out the best way to get you to send her a check so she can get her crown jewels out of Nigeria.

4. maybe she's on vacation and has a hard time typing on her phone

5. maybe she's comparing you to her other 7 matches and having a hard time deciding who to communicate with.

I agree with DF, that you don't lose anything by keeping the match open, but i wouldn't get hung up on that particular girl.
 
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There is no penalty for keeping a match open, forever.

Since most (about 90%) of your matches are going to be non-paying members who can't respond it is highly likely that this particular match is in that category. While most non-paying members are also non-active there are some who are non-paying but are still active and wait for for a FCW in order to be able to communicate. If you close this match then when there is another FCW she certainly won't have the opportunity to respond to your questions. My method is to send First Questions to ALL matches that are even a little interesting to me. If they are paying members and respond, great. If not they just sit in my Communicating folder until the next FCW. The night before the FCW begins I will send a Nudge to all my non-responding matches. Those that still have not responded during the FCW will be closed after the FCW is over.

Don't confuse a FCE with a FCW. I do not participate in the FCEs.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
1. maybe she is interested but communicating with others and overwhelmed

2. maybe she's a flake

3. maybe she's trying to figure out the best way to get you to send her a check so she can get her crown jewels out of Nigeria.

4. maybe she's on vacation and has a hard time typing on her phone

5. maybe she's comparing you to her other 7 matches and having a hard time deciding who to communicate with.
Maybe e-harmony needs to change their process..

I remember a time when eH didn't send ya new matches until you acted on the ones you had your plate.. (wow just dated myself)
 
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Yeah it's definitely not hurting me to keep it open. I'm not gonna get hung up on this particular one. However it's the only one in the past week and a half that I've been matched with, haha.

I got lucky that she had a picture and a complete profile. We'll see if she decides to respond though. Thanks everyone.
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
Maybe e-harmony needs to change their process..

I remember a time when eH didn't send ya new matches until you acted on the ones you had your plate.. (wow just dated myself)
I guess you have been on eHarmony for a very long time. The only time I can remember that being the way that eHarmony working was if you were a non-paying member.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I guess you have been on eHarmony for a very long time. The only time I can remember that being the way that eHarmony working was if you were a non-paying member.
Yeah, I am not sure if eHarmony has ever done that...
I know Chemistry.com does (or had) did that...
 
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