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Special-K is offline Special-K Post #1  October 26,2010, 6:14pm
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Family Life (I must have a partner who is committed to marriage, home & family), does it mean that he is really interested in a relationship or is it boy-speak for I’ll tell you what I think you want to hear so I can get ?
 
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Plenty of people want to marry, and have children.

I would not look for a negative in such a thing.
 
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As with all the Must Haves, you can't really draw much of a conclusion, because no one hardly reads them, and everyone has their own interpretations ....

That said, I have "Family Life" as a Must Have, and it never even occurred to me to put it because I thought it would be what "women wanted to hear." Maybe I'm just of a generation in which many women don't necessarily want to have a "traditional family life"? I don't assume women value committment to marriage, home, and family, and believe that a woman who doesn't (while entitled to her right to live her life in the way she personally pleases) would not be very good match with me.

(Theoretically, the 29 dimensions should have already dealt with this, but I don't believe that.)
 
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Good Lord. If guys are being like that on eH, should I just stop now? Really... why is it that all the males nowadays are mere boys instead of men?

Or is that just your view?
 
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i am also going to say plenty of men want to settle down. Depending on age also - if a 20 year old is saying this well it might be something different - if a older man is saying this he might be ready to start or RE start his life.
 
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Some men are Men. Do we always have to assume the worst? I'd take people at there word until they give me reason to not to.
 
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Fair enough and thank you... perhaps I've been reading the negativity on these boards too long...
 
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I have it on my list because having kids and close family ties is very important to me...is that really so hard to believe?
 
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Wow... now we have to be careful that our selection of MH/CSs are believable? Like others have said... I picked that because it IS a MH for me. I don't think your assumtions are correct that ALL women want this (and therefore a guy would pick it for this reason) and I know your assumtion that ALL guys don't want this is wrong.

BTW... I don't have 10 MH/CSs but eH wouldn't let me pick less than their minimum amount. So some of my MH/CSs are "kind of nice to have" and "would prefer she didn't".
 
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I have Family Life as one of my Must Haves. Having a solid home and family is important to me, it is the type of environment that I was raised in and what I am comfortable with. Obviously if this is not something that you want and your match does or vice versa then clearly you would not be compatible. And as always, the MHCS are very much subject to interpretation and the only way to determine what is meant by any of them is to discuss any of them that are of a concern once you have gotten to Open Communication.
 
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