RebornInFire is offline RebornInFire Post #1  October 26,2010, 11:44am
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Bottom of the 9th. 2 outs. Tie game. Man on third. The man at the plate hits a chopper to the third baseman. He fields the ball cleanly and fires to first, but the runner is fast. It's close. The whole stadium stares at the first base ump...who promptly runs into the dugout in grief. Asked by reporters after the game, the indignant ump protests "I can't call him out! That would be mean!"

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Honestly, suppose you get to the first phone call. Maybe something came up that was a dealbreaker. Maybe he/she was just too weird. Maybe there was no chemistry. Maybe he/she wasn't what you expected. How many will actually close the match--or just ignore his phone calls/texts until he/she gets the message you aren't interested anymore? Personally, I'd rather be called "out" right away. I don't think the first phone call went well (I don't think she was enamored with my traveling job), and I have a strong suspicion she's blowing me off, but I absolutely detest the fact that I have to continue to call or text a few times after "just to make sure" because I still am interested in her.
 
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Harryoss is offline Harryoss Post #2  October 26,2010, 12:31pm
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It's a widely accepted fact that women generally lack the balls to come out and say exactly what's on their mind (when blowing you off, that is), so I wouldn't sweat it if I were you. Take the hints and move on.

Plus, to be fair, I worded the above statement that way intentionally, because then we can all just blame biology and move on.

Worth noting, that I realize this also applies to some men... I stick by my statement... because that's what I think of said men.
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Harryoss wrote :
It's a widely accepted fact that women generally lack the balls to come out and say exactly what's on their mind (when blowing you off, that is), so I wouldn't sweat it if I were you. Take the hints and move on.

Plus, to be fair, I worded the above statement that way intentionally, because then we can all just blame biology and move on.

Worth noting, that I realize this also applies to some men... I stick by my statement... because that's what I think of said men.
Widely accepted fact where? I for one, have never poofed. I've been straight up and honest about why I didn't accept a first date or second date. And applies to only some men? That's a laugh.

Blame biology... *rolls eyes

@RebornInFire - sorry the girl is flaking on you. Not all women are like and it has nothing to do with biology. If she can't even give you the courtesy of explaining... then she's not worth the worry. Stop texting and move on. There will be one out there who WILL reciprocate. You just have to hang in there.
 
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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #4  October 26,2010, 1:03pm
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RebornInFire wrote :
I don't think the first phone call went well (I don't think she was enamored with my traveling job), and I have a strong suspicion she's blowing me off, but I absolutely detest the fact that I have to continue to call or text a few times after "just to make sure" because I still am interested in her.
so...don't do it.
*shrugs*
if you think it didn't go well for her, it's not your mission in life to try and convince her otherwise, IMO.
More fish out there, bro.
 
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M_M is offline M_M Post #5  October 26,2010, 7:32pm
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I agree with Thinker. YOu don;t have to continue to call. One call at the most two is enough. She could call back if she wanted to. And yes there are more fish out there
 
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I don't get your problem.....if you contact the person twice and they don't respond, you simply forget about them and move on. Any more contact than that from you makes you that clingy clueless guy who just won't go away, so stop it.
 
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