kpuc is offline kpuc Post #1  October 24,2010, 7:12pm
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well I have made it to the 4th stage of communication with a match that I am very interested in. we have exchanged a few emails back and forth, but the problem is there doesn't seem to be much interest on his part. I can quite figure it out...in the emails he doesn't volunteer much info about himself and doesn't ask anything about me...just basically answers my questions (which are not much...1 or 2 at the most). the emails are nice and polite, but there is not much substance to them. so I am at a loss as to what to think about it...not sure if he is interested(???)
any ideas or thoughts on this one??
 
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Sounds to me like he just isn't interested; if he was, I'd think he'd show more enthusiasm than that.
 
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I would not jump to any conclusions. Some people have a hard time communicating via e-mails. I would suggest exchanging phone numbers and actually talking to each other. It will give you a much more accurate idea of what he is like, whether there is enough there to proceed to meeting, etc. Remember that dating and relationships happen only in real life.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
I would not jump to any conclusions. Some people have a hard time communicating via e-mails. I would suggest exchanging phone numbers and actually talking to each other. It will give you a much more accurate idea of what he is like, whether there is enough there to proceed to meeting, etc. Remember that dating and relationships happen only in real life.
This......,

You have gotten this far, unless there is a major red-flag, I would proceed to get to a first meet..
 
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You really should call! Don't put a lot of weight on emails.
 
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I have the same problem! I made it to OC but the guy replies to my questions very briefly (one line) and doesn't ask me any questions. Hmmm, not much to begin a potential relationship with. Round 3 answers were the same.
Another match did pretty much the same only added "I'm not sure about you yet, what else can you tell me about yourself?" I elected to close him as I'm not interested in one way conversations.
Like others have said, if you're interested to meet him in IRL then why not? Good luck.
 
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