Personality Profile: is it grossly incorrect?


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Sparkles56 is offline Sparkles56 Post #1  October 24,2010, 2:15pm
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Hello Everybody,

So those of us who are active on eH trust that the algorithms behind the "29 dimensions of compatibility" are accurate in converting our profile answers to how we actually are. But what if bits of our personality profile are grossly incorrect? Do the "dimensions of compatibility" that are driven by that erroneous part of the personality profile then return matches that are not ideal for us?

My profile indicates that, on the Emotional aspect, I am "Very Reactive", and then it goes on to describe in some detail what that means:

"Emotions are such an essential part of your everyday life. You may cry at intense movies or when watching a sad story on the evening news. You get angry, at others or at yourself, and you do not stifle it. Emotions drive your personality and your relationships - you simply are what you feel.... You experience both the highs and the lows more profoundly than most."

I just read that and went, 'huh?' That doesn't describe me in the least bit - it's flat out wrong. I understand that it's difficult for most people to accurately critique these kinds of reports about themselves, but I can provide specific examples (many specific examples) that demonstrate the inaccuracy of this part of the profile. And those examples aren't outliers, either - they illustrate how I act normally.

So what are your thoughts? Has anyone else taken a look at their profile and thought that it didn't reflect them in the least bit?

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Sparkles, I am described as "Very Responsive," also, and I also do not find the description to accurately describe me. I, too, could site many examples. Hmmm.

I am also described as handling anger in this fashion:

"Try not to acknowledge it. Even if you acknowledge it, try not to show it. Even if you show it, try not to say it."

This is not accurate, either, as I have had several people tell me they like the way I bring issues to the forefront and express anger and don't let it boil underneath the surface.
 
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Sparkles56 wrote :
"You may cry at intense movies or when watching a sad story on the evening news. You get angry, at others or at yourself, and you do not stifle it. Emotions drive your personality and your relationships - you simply are what you feel.... You experience both the highs and the lows more profoundly than most."
You wild-and-crazy-guy you!

Sparkles56 wrote :
Has anyone else taken a look at their profile and thought that it didn't reflect them in the least bit?
Actually I have the opposite problem; mine is very accurate, but I still get matched with space-aliens, which is why I'm starting to think that I'm the space-alien.

My presumption has been that if your profile doesn't match you then your "matches" won't match you either... but maybe my presumption is in error? Sure would like to know how others compare to their profiles, and to their matches.
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Yes, it is grossly inaccurate!
Extraversion


RESERVED



Words that describe you:
  • Thoughtful
  • Modest
  • Reflective
  • Private
  • Introverted
  • Careful
  • Restrained
  • Meditative
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*facepalm*

Does eH really think they're going to get me to go away by sending me a response that is obviously a load of patooey?

Basically it boiled down to this. "Well, for most people it's accurate, but if you think it's inaccurate, then you need to look inside yourself to see if it really is accurate and you don't know it... or maybe ignore the fact that this part is inaccurate but concentrate on all the parts that are accurate!"

Come on people. I expect this out of a cheapo site like match.com. Not eH.
 
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I feel content w/ mine and I feel it's accurate.

Question: Is it an EH ploy that we don't 'just' automatically make it available? I don't get why so many don't 'automatically' provide it.
 
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pamcam wrote :
I feel content w/ mine and I feel it's accurate.

Question: Is it an EH ploy that we don't 'just' automatically make it available? I don't get why so many don't 'automatically' provide it.
I don't make mine available because of the glaring inaccuracies. I would hate to mislead someone into thinking I am 'reserved, modest and restrained'...LOL
 
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Mine is pretty accurate, having taken it over again. The first time around they had me as "always taking care of others" now it's "consistently takes care of others," the description of which is more along the lines of "compassionate" than "rug." I'm "responsive" now instead of "very responsive" which is closer to the truth. I can be pretty sensitive, but it makes me sound like my emotions are all over the place which is less true...I'm a pretty optimistic person and don't have many extremes.

I did make it public, because it's pretty close...and if people want to be nice to me to avoid hurting my very sensitive, emotive self that's fine with me. It's funny when they realize I'm actually pretty tough.
 
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Dropdeadredtx wrote :
I don't make mine available because of the glaring inaccuracies. I would hate to mislead someone into thinking I am 'reserved, modest and restrained'...LOL
When I read your previous post in this thread where you listed characteristics, it stopped me dead in my tracks. Then I remembered the thread title and YOU. I needed a good laugh today; thank you.
 
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Mine's fairly accurate. I thought it makes me seem a bit more emotional and risk-taking than I am, but then I talked it over with my kids (who know me well!) and we all decided that yes, my feelings can get hurt when I'm misunderstood, and I get misty-eyed at sad movies, so maybe I am emotional....and I moved cross-country with two little kids (almost 5 and almost 9) to a job in a new place where I knew nobody -- so maybe I am a risk-taker.

I've got mine available to everyone. I wish more of my matches would turn theirs on!
 
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