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Aqueries is offline Aqueries Post #1  October 24,2010, 10:40am
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Add my name to the long line of EH daters who instantly delete a profile
which lacks a picture.

Life is too short to play, "Hi, Sweetie please send a photo ( see: image of and hourglass and sand dribbling for days waiting for a response)

Common Courtesy ( and common knowledge) dictates you post a photo...unless, of course, you are hiding something
and in that case:
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #2  October 24,2010, 11:12am
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I dunno. I used to believe the same thing but I think I learned it's best to request a photo and just let the match sit for awhile and see if anything materializes. I had matches that just hadn't gotten around to posting a photo yet and did so after I requested it.

It doesn't hurt to leave the match open and in limbo until enough time has passed that you can reasonably figure out that they were just checking things out or are on for a FCW.

With the newly downgraded system, when you close someone out, they go into your archive file. Just let it sit there awhile out of the way. You never know - they may come around.
 
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I've seen people post photos several weeks after I get matched with them.
 
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Hi Aqueries,

Just from the many inquiries to Customer Care from eager new members trying to get their photos posted, I would say just request the photo, request communication (if you don’t see definite deal-breakers on their profile), or request the photo and archive. Then resume focusing on other matches.

A lot of times the match may just be having issues getting their photo posted (and some people just don’t keep photos of themselves around).

Another thing that I’ve seen help encourage matches to post photos is to write something in your profile that says you’re more likely to communicate if you see photos, because photos reveal a lot about someone.

Well, this is just my suggestion, but you have to try what you think is going to work best.

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Aqueries is offline Aqueries Post #5  October 25,2010, 9:22am
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tweet37 wrote :
I dunno. I used to believe the same thing but I think I learned it's best to request a photo and just let the match sit for awhile and see if anything materializes. I had matches that just hadn't gotten around to posting a photo yet and did so after I requested it.

It doesn't hurt to leave the match open and in limbo until enough time has passed that you can reasonably figure out that they were just checking things out or are on for a FCW.

With the newly downgraded system, when you close someone out, they go into your archive file. Just let it sit there awhile out of the way. You never know - they may come around.
Let it sit for awhile?
I don't think so - whereas, I realize this isn't speed dating - by any stretch of the imagination-
who wants to play hurry up and wait...and wait?
Life is too short.
"They may come around" point of view is either very optimistic
or very naive.
Best of luck
 
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MichaelNES13 is offline MichaelNES13 Post #6  October 25,2010, 9:46am
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tweet37 wrote :
I dunno. I used to believe the same thing but I think I learned it's best to request a photo and just let the match sit for awhile and see if anything materializes. I had matches that just hadn't gotten around to posting a photo yet and did so after I requested it.

It doesn't hurt to leave the match open and in limbo until enough time has passed that you can reasonably figure out that they were just checking things out or are on for a FCW.

With the newly downgraded system, when you close someone out, they go into your archive file. Just let it sit there awhile out of the way. You never know - they may come around.

If someone's profile is complete and they do not have a picture then I will request a photo. After an ample amount of time if they still do not post a photo then I will close them out. If they have no photo and an incomplete profile then I will close at the moment we're matched.
 
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ScottK is offline ScottK Post #7  October 25,2010, 10:21am
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Aqueries wrote :
Common Courtesy ( and common knowledge) dictates you post a photo...unless, of course, you are hiding something
and in that case:
delete.
Haha!
You are lucky you weren't around a couple years ago.

They USED to allow members to "Hide" their Photos until a certain Stage.
As a Match, you never knew what Stage they set it at.

So you would answer Stage 1 questions...
Is the Photo there now? NOPE.

So you would answer Stage 2 questions...
Is the Photo there now? NOPE.

So you would answer Stage 3 questions...
Is the Photo there now? NOPE.

Then you get to OC, and still don't see a Photo!
(Turns out they selected Match-by-Match basis, and would never share it with anyone)

LAME!
I am very very glad they got rid of that horrible option.


Anyway, as for your comment...
Nah, I always do a Photo Nudge and then give them a couple days.
If a Photo doesn't show up after a bit, then I Close them.

There is no harm is letting them sit for a bit. You don't have to initiate contact with them. Just send them a Photo Nudge.
 
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Aqueries wrote :
Let it sit for awhile?
I don't think so - whereas, I realize this isn't speed dating - by any stretch of the imagination-
who wants to play hurry up and wait...and wait?
Life is too short.
"They may come around" point of view is either very optimistic
or very naive.
Best of luck
No kidding. ‘No pic, no reply’ and close.

As for some ‘posting a picture a few weeks later,’ sure, I’ve seen people do that. And, it becomes very clear why they waited. Life has enough surprises, I don’t want them here.
 
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Besides tech issues (photo too small/big, computer ineptitude, broken scanners/cameras/etc), there is the approval issue on eH's side. If someone signs up on a long weekend, they may not have their photo approved until the Tuesday or Wednesday after the weekend is over.

Letting a match sit for a few days/weeks/months does nothing to your account. You can also just archive them and let them sit there until they get new photos approved/uploaded/taken.
 
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Aqueries is offline Aqueries Post #10  October 25,2010, 12:37pm
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MichaelNES13 wrote :
If someone's profile is complete and they do not have a picture then I will request a photo. After an ample amount of time if they still do not post a photo then I will close them out. If they have no photo and an incomplete profile then I will close at the moment we're matched.
Hence, the name: Quick Study- bravo.
 
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