gcf is offline gcf Post #1  October 23,2010, 8:43pm
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I saw the eHarmony commercial and after seeing it appear a few times convnce myself - hey maybe it's worthwhile, maybe it can help my search for a life partner a soulmate. So then fill in the questionairre and look forward to seeing if anyone is out there, if anyone is 'available' and also in a similar situation. Then I finally finish the questionairre and -whoa!
Great, then right at the end I get the response of:

We're very sorry, but our matching system cannot predict good matches for you. eHarmony's patented matching system was developed after extensive research into marital satisfaction. We use each person's responses to our Relationship Questionnaire to predict the pairings of individuals that are highly likely to result in satisfying long-term relationships, based on what we learned through our research.
Unfortunately, based on responses to our questionnaire, we occasionally find situations where our matching system cannot identify high quality compatible matches, and this has happened in your case. Please understand that it is a result of our matching process and in no way reflects on you as a person or your ability to be in a happy relationship.
We apologise and regret our inability to find good matches for you. The time you spent completing our questionnaire, however, has enabled us to provide you with a free Personality Profile.. This Personality Profile lets you learn more about yourself and should provide you with valuable insights.
We wish you all the best in your search for that special someone.





Now what!!!
 
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BabyYoda is offline BabyYoda Post #2  October 23,2010, 8:56pm
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Take the questionaire again and be a little more liberal with your answers. Otherwise, try another dating site.

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You can contact Customer Care and ask to retake the questionnaire. Typically you cannot do that, however.

I know they will allow you to retake the test in 6 months, definitely.
 
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Or, alternatively give it a day. Did you hit "Search for Matches" right out of the gate?

I've found that without fail every time I've hit that button I get the same response you got. However a day later a handful of matches show up automagically. If you haven't given it a day or so I wouldn't put much into that message eH isn't about instant gratification.
 
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Or, alternatively give it a day. Did you hit "Search for Matches" right out of the gate?

I've found that without fail every time I've hit that button I get the same response you got. However a day later a handful of matches show up automagically. If you haven't given it a day or so I wouldn't put much into that message eH isn't about instant gratification.
If I understand what the OP has said he (his profile) was rejected by eHarmony and he is not on the system at all. Not that they were not able to find a match that particular day.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
If I understand what the OP has said he (his profile) was rejected by eHarmony and he is not on the system at all. Not that they were not able to find a match that particular day.
This is exactly what he's saying. This is a quote from his original post:

"We're very sorry, but our matching system cannot predict good matches for you. eHarmony's patented matching system was developed after extensive research into marital satisfaction. We use each person's responses to our Relationship Questionnaire to predict the pairings of individuals that are highly likely to result in satisfying long-term relationships, based on what we learned through our research.
Unfortunately, based on responses to our questionnaire, we occasionally find situations where our matching system cannot identify high quality compatible matches, and this has happened in your case."

The only thing he can do is to contact eHarmony and ask to retake the quiz. If this is not possible, then he'll need to go to another dating site.
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Take it as a compliment. Would you be willing to post your free personality profile here so us non-unique commoners can gain some insight?
 
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There have been a couple of other people who have posted threads on this same problem. While this is rare I would like to know what someone could possibly answer to the Personality Profile Questionnaire that would make them un-matchable.

There are only two things that I can think of that would cause someone to be rejected by the eHarmony matching system.
1) They indicate something that is against the TOS such as not being single or under 18 years old.
2) There is a bug in the eHarmony system.

Maybe Kate or Renee would care to join in on this discussion and provide some insight into other reasons someone would be rejected by the eHarmony matching system.
 
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Take it as a compliment. Would you be willing to post your free personality profile here so us non-unique commoners can gain some insight?
Why would anyone take it as a compliment that they are SO unique that there is no one in the (supposedly) millions of people on eHarmony that they would be compatible with? I would take such a statement, from anyone, to be quite an insult.
 
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There aren't millions on EH. It's a reflection of EH, not the OP. And I've met one or two uber unique, charismatic, dynamic people in my life and have often wondered if they joined EH, who would they be matched with? They would be in a very small pond and I stand by my opinion.
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