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minusthedrifter is offline minusthedrifter Post #1  October 23,2010, 8:32pm
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Hiya! Another newbie floating around wanting to make sure my profile is about as good as I can make it. I think I've done a pretty good job, but I've seen a few people mention a few things before and they may apply to my profile but I'm on the fence about if it does or not. So if you will spare a moment to give a newbie a hand it'd be much appreciated.



The one thing I am most passionate about:

I absolutely love to hike, camp and do anything outdoor related. Traveling also ties into that and is another passion of mine. Time off might be hard to come by but if I'm not out on a trip some where I've my head in the clouds thinking of where I would like to go and see next. On the flip side I also love video games!


The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:

One of the easiest questions to ask, yet hardest to truly answer... I want what everybody wants a best friend and companion. Somebody who enjoys spending time outdoors but also doesn't mind just hanging out at home. Maybe most important is that I want someone who can hold her own in a conversation.


The most influential person in my life has been:

My two nieces without question. They are the best thing that has every happened to me and they mean more to me than they might ever know. They've taught me a lot about both myself and what family and love means. The other greatest influence on me has been my best friend since kindergarten. Through thick and thin he and I have always been, and always will be, best friends.


The three things which I am most thankful for:

* My nieces and nephew
* Family
* Lasting childhood friendship


The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

No matter how cool or laid back I might seem there is a whirlwind of thoughts and feelings running about my head. I just never show it.


The things I can't live without are:

* Family
* Friends
* Computer
* Music
* Outdoorsy...ness?


The first thing people notice about me:

People tend to notice that I'm quite quiet at first... however after I've warmed up to somebody, or a group of people they often find that I'm a good conversationalist about a great many topics and I'm over all a pretty nice guy


Some additional information I want you to know:

It may take a while and a bit of work for me to open up but once I've let you in you've got me for good. Also, my job for the airlines provides me with the ability to travel at the drop of a hat, so "distance" for me might be a little farther than your average Joe.


I typically spend my leisure time:

My work schedule is unfortunately a second shift, severely limiting what I can do when I get down time so playing a video games, reading a book and surfing the internet for new interesting facts is how I spend quite a bit of it. Of course when I get "normal people time" I love to do "normal people things!"


The last book I read and enjoyed:

I've been reading a lot of physics books lately so anything by Michio Kaku is a good read. Currently reading Hawkings new book "The Grand Design." Predictably Irrational by Dan Ariely, while not physics, was an excellent read on the human psyche and why we do what we do sometimes. In fiction the last thing I read and liked was the Eve Online Books and Chronicles... yeah.. a video game :P


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So thoughts? My concerns, I've heard some say things about travel Nazis and outdoor freaks being a red-flag auto close. I'm neither really but I do love and enjoy it and make a point to do it every few months or at least once or twice a year minimum. Also, family, did I mention them too much?

As for the bit about being able to travel at the drop of a hat that I recently added as a catch all for my long distance matches. I can't be sure but I'll wager I've been closed, or at least ignored a few times by those I've been matched with on the other side of the country simply because of distance. I'd asked previously on another thread and they mentioned adding something minor like that doesn't come off as gloating about my traveling abilities but shows I'm able to manage a LDR easier than average Joe.
 
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It's a very good profile. Well written and interesting and gives a lot for your matches to respond to.

The two sections I thought were a little weak were (1) the "people first notice about me":

People tend to notice that I'm quite quiet at first... however after I've warmed up to somebody, or a group of people they often find that I'm a good conversationalist about a great many topics and I'm over all a pretty nice guy

This seems to be on about 85% of profiles: "I'm quiet/shy/reserved but after I get to know you I'm fun/warm". I guess this is a true statement about most people! But it's so common on profiles, my eyes glaze over when I see it, so it's a waste of your space. Instead, use the space to tell more about yourself.

(2) Your list of leisure activities needs work. Matches look for things you already have in common that you could do together when you're beginning to get to know each other, but you have listed things that are all solitary activities. Fine things to do, but they may give matches the impression that you don't like doing things as a couple. Also, EH uses keywords from profiles as part of its matching algorithm. So pick a few things you like to do that can be done as a couple and then say something about them.
 
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minusthedrifter wrote :
The one thing I am most passionate about:

I absolutely love to hike, camp and do anything outdoor related. Traveling also ties into that and is another passion of mine. Time off might be hard to come by but if I'm not out on a trip some where I've my head in the clouds thinking of where I would like to go and see next. On the flip side I also love video games! I love outdoors, travel and even video games, but even to me, this reads like that guy who is going to be so absorbed in doing his own thing, that he'll never be available for the relationship. Try to reword this a little bit.


The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:

One of the easiest questions to ask, yet hardest to truly answer... I want what everybody wants a best friend and companion. Somebody who enjoys spending time outdoors but also doesn't mind just hanging out at home. Maybe most important is that I want someone who can hold her own in a conversation.


The most influential person in my life has been:

My two nieces without question. They are the best thing that has every happened to me and they mean more to me than they might ever know. They've taught me a lot about both myself and what family and love means. The other greatest influence on me has been my best friend since kindergarten. Through thick and thin he and I have always been, and always will be, best friends.


The three things which I am most thankful for:

* My nieces and nephew Redundant
* Family
* Lasting childhood friendship Redundant


The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

No matter how cool or laid back I might seem there is a whirlwind of thoughts and feelings running about my head. I just never show it.


The things I can't live without are:

* Family Redundant
* Friends Redundant
* Computer
* Music
* Outdoorsy...ness? Redundant


The first thing people notice about me:

People tend to notice that I'm quite quiet at first... however after I've warmed up to somebody, or a group of people they often find that I'm a good conversationalist about a great many topics and I'm over all a pretty nice guy You and every other match EH ever sends. It's actually a negative quality and not something you should be advertising. Also, I'll automatically close any self proclaimed nice guy. A genuinely nice person will not walk around saying they are nice.


Some additional information I want you to know:

It may take a while and a bit of work for me to open up but once I've let you in you've got me for good. Also, my job for the airlines provides me with the ability to travel at the drop of a hat, so "distance" for me might be a little farther than your average Joe. If you did not get closed earlier, now definitely so. Nobody wants to go on a date with a project and nobody wants to work on their date.


I typically spend my leisure time:

My work schedule is unfortunately a second shift, severely limiting what I can do when I get down time so playing a video games, reading a book and surfing the internet for new interesting facts is how I spend quite a bit of it. Of course when I get "normal people time" I love to do "normal people things!" This is a bit of a negative TMI - you are telling your matches that you are unavailable and that's all they are going to focus on. Tell people what you like to do, what you do, what's your idea of "normal people things" - what does that mean even? Expand and don't make your matches guess in this case - easier to close you out than to bother asking.


The last book I read and enjoyed:

I've been reading a lot of physics books lately so anything by Michio Kaku is a good read. Currently reading Hawkings new book "The Grand Design." Predictably Irrational by Dan Ariely, while not physics, was an excellent read on the human psyche and why we do what we do sometimes. In fiction the last thing I read and liked was the Eve Online Books and Chronicles... yeah.. a video game :P
My comments above with the usual disclaimer that I'm only commenting on how something may be misread or misinterpreted on your profile and not on you as a person.

Remember that a profile is for showing your good qualities and creating enough interest in yourself for people to want to talk to you and meet you in real life.
 
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Humm so my leisure activities definitly need to be tweaked. Those do actually come off as all I ever do or have time for is solo activities. Which in reality, I guess, is pretty accurate but that's not the vibe I'm looking for.

Also tweaking of the passions and removing of the word nice, got'ca. Wasn't sure about adding "nice" in the first place. Kind of sad that saying you're a decent human is a negative in most people eyes but whatever. I've also noticed a lot of profiles, including mine, have that same basic paragraph so finding a way to mix it up is a good idea. As Sassafras said though its also true of most people.

As for removing the "additional information" I can see where you're coming from and understand it, but the most I can do is edit work out really. That is after all a core part of who I am and I wouldn't want anyone to be under the impression I'm like average Joe and Jane when it comes to falling for somebody. In fact my last relationship ended exactly because of that, and my best relationship was because she stuck with me through everything and in return I was fully commited to her. So perhaps a reword is in order, but if one closes me because of it then fine, we wouldn't have made it anyways with that sort of attitude of "I shouldn't/needn't work for love."

Redundancies, also check. Was wonder about that anyways.

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Perhaps under "Additional Information," you could say something like, "I like to take my time getting to know someone, learning about her, stirring around ideas, and sharing adventures."
 
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you're adorable. how old are you?
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
you're adorable. how old are you?
I agree, Scarlet!
 
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i saw him first. *pushes Moi out of the way
 
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wrote :
scarlet13 wrote :
you're adorable. how old are you?
CestMoi wrote :
I agree, Scarlet!
Ladies, ladies Thanks!! And I'm just a young buck of 24 years... but age ain't nutthin but a numba!
 
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Ladies, ladies Thanks!! And I'm just a young buck of 24 years... but age ain't nutthin but a numba!
that's a good number.

you should consider dating older women. just saying.
 
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