EH_user is offline EH_user Post #1  October 23,2010, 7:19pm
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I am rather suspicious of the whole matching process and exactly how that goes down. Any insights would be greatly appreciated. Here's the scenario: some days I get one match, some days two, most days none. Some times I will click the button that says "Find new matches" to do an automatic search. Occasionally (hardly ever) it will bring up a new match, but most of the time it tells me there are no new matches at this time. But sometimes a few hours later or the next day, I'll get a match, so are we to assume that that match is a brand new person that has just completed the process because afterall there were no matches 7 hours earlier when I clicked the search button!! And if they are brand new, there should be a greater chance that they are a subscribing member, right? But yet it seems many are not. And if they really are searching and matching you as soon as possible, then why do you suddenly get tons of matches when your subscription is about to run out? Am I to think that all of those just joined? Obviously they were holding out on me, right? Any insights would be great.
 
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EH_user wrote :
Any insights would be great.
Seems you already know the score, answered your own questions, etc. SO, in that case, welcome to the eH-Outcast's Twilight-Zone. Insight? Here's what works for me: Medication.

 
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LikeCo6aka said.. you pretty much answered your own question,with brand new matches, but will add that- the find new matches button isn't there to send you matches every time you click it.. eH has your matches waiting in a cue and sends you a daily allotment. The number they send you will vary depending on the size of your dating pool

I averaged 7 per day..99% of the time a new search resulted in nada. Sometimes when I changed my settings would I receive a new set of matches on the same day.

Considering you only receive one or two matches daily could be a small dating pool or your settings are too strict/tight

The questionnaire is a large part on how you're matched. eHarmony matching occurs in stages

1.Compatibility criteria.. (the questionnaire/29 dimenensions) http://www.eharmony.com/why
http://www.eharmony.com/why/science

2. Match setting criteria: as well as the level of importance (slide ruler) your set for them.. (ie: age, education geography, kids etc)

There are also flexible matches.(noted on profiles) This occurs when eH doesn't have any exact matches for you. Flexible matches are compatible on the 29 dimensions, but are just outside your match settings criteria
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
eHarmony does scan your profile looking for certain key words and adjusts your matching to prefer people with similar words in their profile. As an example if you have mentioned God, faith, church, etc. several times in your profile then you are likely to get matched to people who have a strong religious faith.
Aaah... so THAT's why I've been matched with so many pious ladies... and biker-babes! Gives me an idea though... What's eH's policy on keyword-spamming in your profile?
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
The questionnaire is a large part on how you're matched... http://www.eharmony.com/why
FWIW, there's something interesting here:
http://www.eharmony.com/why/dimensions

According to that page, APPARENTLY most of my "matches" haven't been matches! A couple have been close, what I consider close enough to be called a "match," but it seems the proverbial 99% have TRULY been space-aliens, relative to me. (But maybe I'm the space-alien? ) OH MAN, this isn't good... Sigh.
 
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As the others have said the matching is done based on the 29 Dimensions of Compatibility. The 29 Dimensions of Compatibility comes from how you answered the questions in the Personality Profile Questionnaire. All of your matches will meet the requirements of the 29 Dimensions of Compatibility, even Flexible matches. Your compatible matches are filtered based on how you have set your Settings and the Importance that you have set for those settings. What you have written in your profile plays only a very small part in the matching process.

When you first join eHarmony there is a large pool of existing people to be matched with so you will initially receive a number of matches each day. As that pool gets exhausted then the number of matches per day may go down and you would only be getting matches as they join. eHarmony limits the number of matches they send you each day so that you can take the time to review each one and determine if you want to communicate with that person.

There are many factors that affect how many matches are available to you. A major one is where you live. If you live in a small town or rural area there are going to fewer potential matches than if you live in a large city. Your age can similarly affect your potential match pool.

Patience is very much a virtue with online dating. Just send First Questions to all your matches that you don't find deal breakers in their profile. Then repeat the next day.
 
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Hi EH_User,

In regard to the search for matches feature – getting new matches doesn’t necessarily mean the match just signed up. It may mean that they changed their settings, or even that they retook the Relationship Questionnaire, or that they turned their matching feature back on after being off for a while, etc.

Actually, you may want to revisit your own My Settings page – a lot of times you can open up possibilities for more matches by adjusting some settings.

For creative ideas on opening your settings, check out these articles:

eHarmony Religion Settings: The How-To Manual
eHarmony and the Art of Match Settings: Personal Preferences
eHarmony and the Art of Match Settings: Distance

All the best,

~Kate
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