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Ok. So I'm new here and to dating sites in general. Since signing up I have received some matches that I am interested in. A few of them I sent icebreakers to and others I've used the guided communication. I haven't received responses to any of them.

My question is: Are icebreakers and guided communication (5 questions) a good way to start or do females prefer that i send them an email? Which option is best or is there a best?
 
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Most of your matches are active on the site, or not paying.

Personally, I would never send an "icebreaker." This implies non-paying. Send the questions.

I would not mind at all to get an e-mail from a women, but I personally use the questions myself.
 
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Hi NewandconfusedinTX,

Welcome to the boards. Good question. I used EHarmony for the first time tonight in a long time. I haven't used it since the new changes. Anyway, I sent the first questions. Yes.....I initiated. Lol. Anyway, he answered my questions and sent his own. I then answered his questions. I was tempted to go directly to email, but decided I wanted to learn a little more. But, everyone is different. Go with what you want. You can simply ask if she is comfortable with it or would prefer to stick to guided communication.

I have a question for anyone that may know. It used to be that when you answered the questions, you would also send your MH/CS. However, it didn't allow me to do so. It just said "waiting for his response." So, since I answered the questions, what is the next step? Does he now get the opportunity to send his MH/CS or does he need to wait for me to send mine.

Sorry, OP, I don't want to take away from you question. Just thought I would use this opportunity to ask.
 
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I'd go with the questions as well. NEVER the ice breakers!
 
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NewandconfusedinTX wrote :
Ok. So I'm new here and to dating sites in general. Since signing up I have received some matches that I am interested in. A few of them I sent icebreakers to and others I've used the guided communication. I haven't received responses to any of them.

My question is: Are icebreakers and guided communication (5 questions) a good way to start or do females prefer that i send them an email? Which option is best or is there a best?

I believe that there is no best option. I think you can gain positive or negative results with either approach. Some people prefer GC and others my prefer email. From my experience, most women prefer GC over email because it gives them a synopsis of who a person is before going to OC.

Lastly, I don't send ice breakers. I think most women prefer the guy to contact them first and an ice breaker isn't going to get them to respond. Better off sending your GC questions or an email. Get better results IMO.

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