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Sparkles56 is offline Sparkles56 Post #1  October 19,2010, 6:47pm
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One of my matches didn't have a picture, so I sent her a photo nudge. In response, the next day, she sent me 5 questions... so I sent 5 questions back. Got her answers and sent my must haves. This isn't really someone whose profile made me go 'wow' but I'm entertained by the process so I continue on.

It's obvious she's paid because we're communicating. So I wonder why she hasn't posted a picture.

Does anyone have 'warning flags' that this could indicate?

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I recently sent 5 questions to someone because she had musical background and that interested me. She did not have a photo posted, but implied she wasn't very overweight either. Really the musical angle was the only think drew my attention. Since then she has posted photos, expanded her profile. She is a very attractive woman with a history in the Peace Corps and education. Whether there is chemistry is not, she is someone I would like to meet. I just need to get back home so I can call her and see if I can set up a meeting.

So, yes, there are positive outcomes for sending questions to people without photos..just as there are negative outcomes. All I can say is you make sure she is interesting before doing it. The "drive-bys" that don't write anything other than "living life to the fullest" and "I'm looking for honesty", I would say don't bother. Monitor the profile to see if they edit it in a few days, but most don't and I close them out.
 
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Of course this could be a "warning flag" that she's unattractive and/or overweight. I mean, that's an obvious possibility. The other possibilities are: She's new, and hasn't gotten around to picking & posting a photo yet. She doesn't have access to a digital camera, or doesn't know how to upload a pic. She's very attractive and doesn't want men messaging her just for her appearance. She thinks she's unattractive or overweight, but really is not. She thinks she's cute, but she thinks all the pictures she happens to be in look ugly. (Don't laugh, this last one's kinda me! I never have my picture taken while wearing my favorite outfits, makeup, etc; people always somehow take them when I'm wearing something blah, or am in bad lighting, or whatever. It doesn't stop me from posting pics on my dating sites, but it could stop some people.)

Anyway, so there are some possible things it could indicate.

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Her pictures could be waiting approval and she took the initiative to keep communication going in the meantime.

I've communiated with 2 people without photos. Neither one turned out to be incredibly handsome, but one hung around for about a year.
 
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I work in a very public position, and more than once have had men on other open communication sites message me saying "Hey! Don't you work for ****?" - and I live in a city of 4.5 million people! I took my photos off of OKC for awhile because it made me uncomfortable to be recognized from my job on a dating website.
But I got over it. Maybe your pictureless profile has a similar issue.
 
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At this point, I would recommend sending a photo request via icebreaker and let that sit for a few days. Then when the 7 days lapses for a nudge, if she still hasn't posted a photo, send another nudge. No photo=no communicado.

ETA: You asked about warning flags - the only photoless match that I went on to meet looked like Miss Piggy. I'll never do that again.
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I don't have any real issue with profiles without pics. I have talked to them and met them in the past and would do so again. Typical reason is work related.

People get so hung up on the no pics thing, but really....how many times you've met a match only to find out that their pics are old or they don't look much like their pics in real life. At the end of the day, nothing risked, nothing gained.
 
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Sparkles56 wrote :
Hiya!

One of my matches didn't have a picture, so I sent her a photo nudge. In response, the next day, she sent me 5 questions... so I sent 5 questions back. Got her answers and sent my must haves. This isn't really someone whose profile made me go 'wow' but I'm entertained by the process so I continue on.

It's obvious she's paid because we're communicating. So I wonder why she hasn't posted a picture.

Does anyone have 'warning flags' that this could indicate?

-Sp
Could be anything really..
I was interested in someone's profile recently, although it wasn't complete and didn't have any photo..so, I sent the icebreaker: "You seem interesting...why haven't you completed your about me?" question or the one that sounds like that...

I didn't hear from her for a few days, although I knew she kept viewing my profile..(as I did, hers)
well, a few days ago she sent me an EH email saying; "I've completed my profile"..and we started emailing a bit..
short story is we met last night for drinks...it went really well, and we agreed to go out this weekend..
And..she's really cute, too.
 
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Sparkles56 wrote :
Does anyone have 'warning flags' that this could indicate?

Overweight and cheating are the common downsides.

Too poor to buy a camera can be a problem - especially if the profile sounds illiterate.

Doesn't want to be recognized, or much better than average appearance are other (far less common) reasons.

Personally, I meet without photos. I have been pleasently suprised just enough that I expect to continue to do this.
 
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I received an EH match this week with no photo, whose profile said something to the effect of 'There's more to people than the silly pictures people put on these sites. Isn't it what's inside that counts?'
I could be completely judgemental, but this statement along with a lack of photos was a bit of a red flag.
 
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