beebee111 is offline beebee111 Post #1  October 19,2010, 3:08pm
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Do you flirt with your matches during OC? We are all here seeking a romantic connection, but we don't want to set up unrealistic expectations right?
I have this match right now that I think is adorable and I hinted in my last e-mail at meeting. The thing is I can't help but flirt with him . . . . should I pull back and moderate my interest level until we meet? I know there's no right answer here but I would like to hear your experiences.
 
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ISearch4Love is offline ISearch4Love Post #2  October 19,2010, 3:25pm
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Texts and emails can easily be misinterpreted! I'd be careful what you say simply because it might not seem the same to the reader as it does to you!
 
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Shucks. I forgot about the communication barriers over e-mail. Now, I'm worried . . . Thank God it wasn't anything sexual in nature - just my quirky sense of humour. He may not even get that I was flirting . . .
 
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I don't mind mildly flirting... Nothing too intense. I think it is nice to be able to sense attraction so it's actually a plus for me when a match flirts or banters a bit. I try to move from email to meeting fairly quickly though so I'm not too worried about setting up expectations.

The match of mine that has flirted/teased a bit has me more interested than those who have kept it all very platonic both in OC and in dating.
 
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I always sway to 'if it feels right, do it' You really have to be yourself, but of course, make sure it doesn't come across wrong etc
 
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I say keep it on the light and airy side. I believe that my own quirky sense of humor has turned off some potential matches. I have had to tone it down a little and "play it safe", a place I really don't want to be.

Don't want to scare them off too soon....
 
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Ack, so hard to say. Flirting with someone before meeting them, very tricky. I've had guys where it was just perfect, and then I've had guys where I may have led them to expect more than I was up for delivering. So... Sorry, guess I have no good advice on this. Just do what feels right for you? It's all trial and error!
 
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What did you write? It totally depends.
 
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beebee111 is offline beebee111 Post #9  October 20,2010, 11:44am
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Ah. Doesn't matter. We're still e-mailing back and forth - one long e-mail each a day. We seem to get each other pretty well, and have a lot in common. However, you never know whether that will translate into chemistry in real life.
The problem with e-mailing for a while is you get a picture in your head of the person that may not resemble reality. If he doesn't bring it up next e-mail, I will. Any suggestions?
 
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My only advice is to get to that first meeting. You may be flirting with someone that you end up not being attracted to or like chimmy said, not able to deliver those expectations.

Are you close to a first meet? Or is that what you meant about bringing "it" up in your next email.
 
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