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Aqueries is offline Aqueries Post #1  October 19,2010, 7:42am
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Hurry Up... and... Wait
... much to my chagrin, I am learning what the term ‘glacially slow’ means. A glacier moves one tiny fraction of a millimeter of an inch every several thousand days – just like eHarmony. Okay, so my exact glacier mass measurements are fiction — but the fact that eHarmony is slow is pure fact.
I was not prepared to wait, for a very long time...as we lob questions at one another: I like - you like- my can't stand - your can't stand...


Am I the only very impatient person here?!
 
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A lot of people share your feelings but there really isn't anything you can do about it.
 
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Dropdeadredtx is offline Dropdeadredtx Post #3  October 19,2010, 7:53am
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Maybe EH is not the site for you? There are many other dating sites that do not have a specified, enforced process, you just send emails. Have you tried Match. OKCupid, POF, etc?
 
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I know what you mean, but I have to say eHarmony's guided communication somehow works for me, whereas the others don't.

I've been on match.com and okcupid.com as long as I've been on eharmony and I've had no results from them at all. I've tried changing up my profile, writing long emails, writing short emails, asking lots of questions, asking just a few questions. I've tried it all... and I get no response from people on match.com or okcupid.com.

I'm guessing that it's just a style thing... what works for one person doesn't work for another. Maybe it's an age thing. I'm 45 and I heard okcupid is where all the 20-somethings go. (I'm not searching that young).

So, even though it moves slowly, it does move. To me, it's faster and less time consuming than the others. Your mileage may vary.
 
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I know what you mean, but I have to say eHarmony's guided communication somehow works for me, whereas the others don't.

I've been on match.com and okcupid.com as long as I've been on eharmony and I've had no results from them at all. I've tried changing up my profile, writing long emails, writing short emails, asking lots of questions, asking just a few questions. I've tried it all... and I get no response from people on match.com or okcupid.com.

I'm guessing that it's just a style thing... what works for one person doesn't work for another. Maybe it's an age thing. I'm 45 and I heard okcupid is where all the 20-somethings go. (I'm not searching that young).

So, even though it moves slowly, it does move. To me, it's faster and less time consuming than the others. Your mileage may vary.
LOL - I am 49, and EH has been a huge waste of time and money. I haven't had but one date that went to a second date, ever. So age - not so much!
 
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Aqueries wrote :
Hurry Up... and... Wait
Okay, so my exact glacier mass measurements are fiction — but the fact that eHarmony is slow is pure fact.
eHarmony has given me a new-found appreciation for just how amazingly fast grass can grow, and paint dry.
 
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Aqueries wrote :
Hurry Up... and... Wait
... much to my chagrin, I am learning what the term ‘glacially slow’ means. A glacier moves one tiny fraction of a millimeter of an inch every several thousand days – just like eHarmony. Okay, so my exact glacier mass measurements are fiction — but the fact that eHarmony is slow is pure fact.
I was not prepared to wait, for a very long time...as we lob questions at one another: I like - you like- my can't stand - your can't stand...


Am I the only very impatient person here?!
My two cents:

I'm 33. That's not really old, but it isn't exactly wet behind the ears either. I've been married once so I don't have much patience for the whole dating thing, ugh! But, I really don't mind that the eH process takes time because I'm more concerned about finding something that is going to last than I am about not sleeping alone tonight.

The eH process is worth the wait because I want someone who is really into me and not someone who turns into another "memory."

Just my two cents.....
 
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Aqueries is offline Aqueries Post #8  October 25,2010, 9:39am
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Dropdeadredtx wrote :
Maybe EH is not the site for you? There are many other dating sites that do not have a specified, enforced process, you just send emails. Have you tried Match. OKCupid, POF, etc?
Good question - I have learned to avoid OKC and POF like the plague...zoosk is for kids and your tango is too new.
Perhaps I expected more- always the optimist...

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