Sparkles56 is offline Sparkles56 Post #1  October 18,2010, 8:30pm
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So a few weeks ago there was a woman to whom I sent the first 5 questions. No response. No biggie. That list is fairly long at this point.

And I noticed 4 days ago she again checked out my profile. So I checked hers.

2 days ago, same thing. This time I also sent her a Wink.

Yesterday, same thing. And I note in the past 26 minutes that is currently "Tuesday" she checked me out yet again. I responded in kind each time.

I just sent her a short email. It'll be interesting to see how she responds!
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chimerical is offline chimerical Post #2  October 18,2010, 8:56pm
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Good luck! But repeatedly checking out your profile can mean lots of things, so don't get your hopes up too high...

Fingers crossed for ya!
 
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Sparkles, she might be interested but not a member, and trying to decide if it's worth it to join just to be able to communicate with you!

Or, she might be a member, and be on the fence about whether or not you're interesting enough "on paper" to communicate with. ...which is a silly game! It's worth it to communicate with just about everyone, at least through the first few phases of communication. You never can tell from a profile how someone will answer the questions, what their MH/CSs will be, how they will communicate in OC. Time enough to close them later, might as well communicate now! That's my motto.
 
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I agree with Pam!

Keep us updated.
 
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Interestingly enough she isn't someone who made me go 'wow' so I'm not really 'invested' in her (for lack of a better term?). But I am entertained by the interaction. I really fully expect that she'll close me - I'd think someone who is waffling so much would be turned off by jumping right to email (see my other thread) but if someone keeps pinging my profile like that I'm not about to sit around and do nothing.
 
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She is likely an non-paid member sitting on the fence of whether to join or not. Without pics and other limited use of the site, one Bob looks much like another Bob, unless you open the profile and look.

This is also where I think EH is extremely stupid in their marketing - people buy with their eyes. A match that is contacting them and they find attractive will easily push them over to pay out, while a potential unpleasant surprise will keep people on the fence longer.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
This is also where I think EH is extremely stupid in their marketing - people buy with their eyes...
But really, we'd all be naieve if we didn't realize it's just a profit-maximizing game. It'd be nice to know, in my list of matches, who is a paid subscriber and who isn't... so I could know not to spend time on those who aren't paid. But then their system would break down, because the paid members wouldn't spend time on non-paid members, and the non-paid members would have no impetus to pay.

I continue to be a paid member only because the perceived value I derive from the site slightly outweighs the annoyance I have at being a pawn in this game. If I provide value to eH by a) being a paid member and therefore b) directly or indirectly drawing additional paid members then I ought to be compensated somehow. Even if it's trivial like a free month or something.

Just sayin'.
 
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Embed your phone number in your profile and see if she calls.
 
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Embed your phone number in your profile and see if she calls.
That is so dangerous I like it! And since I have a Google Voice number I don't have to worry about people phone-stalking me. Now how to do that without calling attention to the fact that's a major TOS violation...
 
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Sparkles56 wrote :
That is so dangerous I like it! And since I have a Google Voice number I don't have to worry about people phone-stalking me. Now how to do that without calling attention to the fact that's a major TOS violation...

Well I came across a profile today of a non paying member who put his email up and you had to "decipher" it.

could try something like:

If there was only a way 4 me 2 give my cell 9 num 246 without getting caught. 456 that would great if you could see it 87 in my msg and 31 give me a call.


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