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I currently have 11 photos on my page and I wonder if that could be a turn off to my matches. I say this to mean, could I come off as vain or narcissistic? I read an article not long ago in the advice section that said you should show photos that truly reflect your personality and who you are so I tried to accomplish that with the ones I posted. Also I wondered if a picture in a swim suit is too much? It's not a bikini and I'm sitting with shorts on as well so I figured it wouldn't be too bad since it really is one of my favorite pics.I should say though that I am a bustier woman though and it's not easy to hide that. Any thoughts? Should I cut down on the number?
 
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I look at a match's photos to check if I might be attracted to her in person.

(Meaning, I can not establish attraction from photos, but I can establish the lack of it.)

I find your post interesting, since I can not recall seeing more photos as a negative.

I will say, that more photos give a match a reason for having a quesrion to ask you - it might keep a converation going, which otherwise may have failed.

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Regarding the swinsuit photo, the more clarity around a compatible physique, the more likely I am to write.
 
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I think posting 11 is too much.

Remember if you have group pics the viewer doesnt know which one you are.

What you should have is a facial photo and a body photo that is recent.

Posting pics of your travels or pets is a turn off to some. Swimsuit photo also turns off men.

I understand showing pictures of what you enjoy doing ....dont post a pic of some activity or place you went to only once in your life. If you show pictures of you skiing..then that says you are a regular skier...not one that may ski only once in 5 years.
 
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I think 11 is fine, and the swimsuit one sounds like it wouldn't be "too much." More photos has never said "vain" to me. It just says the match is trying to show themselves in a variety of settings. You may want to make sure you've got them labelled so people know which ones are more recent, if they span a few years.

ETA: Although, as ami1uwant points out, make sure you're not being deceptive with them (that is, be aware of the message you're sending). A bunch of shots where you're just drinking? Could make you look like a partier. A bunch of shots in the mountains? You look like an outdoors type. Make sure what you're saying to your matches is accurate.

It wouldn't hurt to lose one or two pics if they aren't really adding to your message, either.
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chimerical wrote :
I think 11 is fine, and the swimsuit one sounds like it wouldn't be "too much." More photos has never said "vain" to me. It just says the match is trying to show themselves in a variety of settings. You may want to make sure you've got them labelled so people know which ones are more recent, if they span a few years.

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ladyvirtue wrote :
Also I wondered if a picture in a swim suit is too much? It's not a bikini and I'm sitting with shorts on as well so I figured it wouldn't be too bad since it really is one of my favorite pics.I should say though that I am a bustier woman though and it's not easy to hide that. Any thoughts?
I think you should post some pics in your photo album here so we can see.
 
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Do the photos tell a story about who you are, or are they all "Vogue...strike a pose"? If they tell a story about who you are, the more the merrier. The only time there can be too many photos is if every one is in a cocktail dress, or leaning over to show cleavage.
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Ladyvirtue...the number of pics doesn't tell me good or bad, although I do notice a tendency with the matches I'm more likely attracted to have four or more pictures up. But, just hearing you have 11 photos up doesn't tell me if it's what I'm looking for. If they are 11 head shots (believe me, I've seen that)....clloooooose. I had one match last week which had a portfolio of more than a half dozen. Mostly full body, and she knew she had something to show. One a bikini shot (very tasteful and fun), then full body poses in casual, formal, and 'hang around' clothes. Shot well, side full body and so on.

I'll agree, the photos should show your personality. I too can't stand those photos shot somewhere in a World vacation they've only been to once, or like some extreme sport. But, to be frank, the prime reason I look at the photo is to determine physical attraction. The 'bust' line you said wouldn't phase me as much, I'm more driven by general body type, plenty of 'well endowed women' are a bit on the heavy side for me.

Based on what you said in your OP, candidly it sounds like you 'have it,' going on and you want to communicate that to your matches. As they say, 'You go girl,' and I'd keep in the swimsuit picture in the profile too.
 
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More pictures is always better to me, as long as the pictures are differentiated in some way. 11 head shots...that'd be a bit overboard. However, if some shots are just you, others are with friends, others from travelling or showing you doing a hobby...that helps me get a better sense of your personality and interests, something I find valuable.
 
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