Special-K is offline Special-K Post #1  October 17,2010, 4:20am
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I received a communication (straight to OC) from one of my matches on Friday. I responded yesterday and we exchanged a couple of messages back and forth throughout the day. He's a Navy officer stationed in Belgium, and will be moving back to my area next month.

The last message was from him, saying he hit the lottery w/ me (I'm not sure why he's already drawing that conclusion, as we've never met) and I don't seem crazy (are there a bunch of crazy people on eH?)... and he provided me w/ his e-mail address. I intended to respond this morning and when I went back in to do so, he had already closed me...

What's up w/ that?
 
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pamcam is offline pamcam Post #2  October 17,2010, 4:40am
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Perhaps it's as simple as his belief that you'll be moving to personal email, which I also prefer. For instance, I can't get on EH at my work b/c of the filters. It's also a pain for me to get on EH on my phone. So now the question is are you comfortable moving to personal email w/ him at this time?
 
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Perhaps it's as simple as his belief that you'll be moving to personal email, which I also prefer. For instance, I can't get on EH at my work b/c of the filters. It's also a pain for me to get on EH on my phone. So now the question is are you comfortable moving to personal email w/ him at this time?
I didn't take down his e-mail address (went back in this AM to get it) and had not provided him w/ mine. Now I have no way of getting it, as he closed me...
 
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This happened to me in the beginning of June. Since he got my email address immediately, things progresses quickly. The emails moved quickly with him professing intense interest, making mention of living "part time" out of the country. Wanted my phone number, which I was reluctant to provide.
I noticed too many red flags., but I proceeded cautiously,..then got a mysterious email with his "List".
Trust me it was a doozy...asking if I had piercings, tattoos, favorite position, very explicit. He also made a major fau pax by stating he though about my voice all the time...I have never spoken with him by phone.
I retuned with an email stating that since we had never yet me, I did not have expectations that he was corresponding with only me, however his comment about my voice led me to believe I was not the lady he should be persuring. The answer I received from him after all these 2 page glowing emails full of information and professions of what he wanted in the future. with me was surprising. The response email to mine ...was very short.. Two letters: OK
He was busted. Either a Nigerian piece of work or player.

So be CAREFUL If it sounds suspicious, it probably is.
 
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Special-K wrote :
I didn't take down his e-mail address (went back in this AM to get it) and had not provided him w/ mine. Now I have no way of getting it, as he closed me...
You can still see the communication history of a closed match..

-Go to his profile
-Click on mailbox -this will show you the timestamp of the close
-Above in the blue box that list the stages
-click on Stage 4- eH mail

As long as a profile hasn't been removed..all of the stages are viewable.
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LuvsGoldens wrote :
Well this...


then got a mysterious email with his "List".
Trust me it was a doozy...asking if I had piercings, tattoos, favorite position, very explicit. He also made a major fau pax by stating he though about my voice all the time...I have never spoken with him by phone.

answers that...

are there a bunch of crazy people on eH?
Thanks for sharing your experience. At this rate, I'm joining the monastery... and I'm not Catholic...
 
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Well, this is an unfortunate story. It is a lesson about hitting "close match" too soon though. Jumping straight to OC is to me a flag of caution. You seem to have a great talent for attracting guys in far away places. Hope you can find the next one nice and close by.
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
You can still see the communication history of a closed match..

-Go to his profile
-Click on mailbox -this will show you the timestamp of the close
-Above in the blue box that list the stages
-click on Stage 4- eH mail

As long as a profile hasn't been removed..all of the stages are viewable.
Thank you! I can get as far as step 3, but can't get into eH mail.
 
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lol! That is strange.

I dunno...I think people who are over-eager will be the same people that are over-reactive so I am always wary of anyone gushing too soon.

I think it is strange that someone would close you while you are still communicating even if it is because they gave you an email address. Weird to me.
 
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Well, this is an unfortunate story. It is a lesson about hitting "close match" too soon though. Jumping straight to OC is to me a flag of caution. You seem to have a great talent for attracting guys in far away places. Hope you can find the next one nice and close by.
This one is using a city in my area on his profile... didn't find out about the Belgium thing until we started communicating.

I seem to get very few local matches...
 
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