Guys, are you pretty good at seeing what's really there?


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BlueEyedLizzie is offline BlueEyedLizzie Post #1  October 16,2010, 7:54am
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Or when you look at pictures do you see what you want to see?

If the picture is honest, a full body shot and recent within the last couple of weeks are you pretty good at seeing what it actually is rather than what you want it to be?
 
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Lizzie not sure I completely understand the question, maybe you can tell us a bit more on your thoughts.. but I''ll give it a shot..


My insticts have been pretty good all along, everytime my matches pictures have be so-so, once I've meet them I've been blown away, so I guess sometimes I am pretty good at seeing what it really there.. not sure though

The problem I have with a lot of womens profile pics (yes I know.. some men have poor photos too) is most of the time the photos are just unattractive and I don't mean physical attraction, just photos that show them in a negative light.. keep the FB and myspace pics away from your profile.

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Count the pics. Try to discover the date they were taken. The more pics they post, and the more recently they've been taken, the more sincere they are at seeking a date and companionship -male or female.
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I'll admit to ... shall we say, hoping for the best once meeting - and being, inevitably, dissapointed.

I have, however, seen fuzzy, low-resolution photos of a woman in a sweater, and found her great in person.
 
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I have met women who did not look like the photos at all. In one case, the woman looked a lot better so it can go either way.

I have seen plenty of photos where people are just giving a side view or looking in another direction. I wonder why they post these kinds of photos. I also see pics where people do not give their best ... by this I mean the looks on their faces. I understand that people can have serious shots where they do not smile, but some are just bizarre ... almost like the candids where the person has no idea someone is about to take a pic!

As for the date of the photos, I have no problem with pics that are five to ten years old. If she looks the same, that's cool

As for myself, I have favorites that are a few years old, but I always add recent ones every six months or sooner and I always make sure to date my jpegs in the caption area.
 
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BlueEyedLizzie wrote :
Or when you look at pictures do you see what you want to see?

If the picture is honest, a full body shot and recent within the last couple of weeks are you pretty good at seeing what it actually is rather than what you want it to be?
Wow! That's asking a lot. My pictures are up to two years old. (I did have older pics but then I read here that those were not a good idea.)

For me to get a good picture in natural lighting, someone else has to take it. For that, I need to arrange with a friend or family member to take it. Generally I don't carry a camera with me, and when I do I don't think about getting a picture of myself. So, those that I have are few and far between.

I'm happy to see pictures that are up to a few years old. It is enough to give me a good sense of the person's appearance. Regardless of the age of the picture, I think it's important to provide dates for readers of the profile.

As for your original question, I am generally looking to see if the person looks cheerful and friendly. Everything else is extra.
 
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Wow! That's asking a lot. My pictures are up to two years old. (I did have older pics but then I read here that those were not a good idea.)

For me to get a good picture in natural lighting, someone else has to take it. For that, I need to arrange with a friend or family member to take it. Generally I don't carry a camera with me, and when I do I don't think about getting a picture of myself. So, those that I have are few and far between.

This is something to think about, because people tend to think "deceipt" when they see an out-of-date photo.

Digital technology keeps evolving, as well, and newer equipment tends to result in better looking pictures.

In my view, unless you look exactly like the photo (same hair and weight), I think it's worth the effort.

You could always take your camera to work and ask a co-worker to take some. Many cameras have a timer, too.
 
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I don't presume to know whats "really there" when I look at matches actually. Generally the thing I go by personally is what they wrote. Short profiles with little detail or a couple cliches, I generally overlook. Usually the more complicated ones get more interest from me, though it depends what their likes, dislikes, and interests are of course.

You cannot look at a picture and truly assume you know whats "there." I presume you mean somehow looking deep into the person by way of the picture, but a photo is just an image formed by capturing light, albeit thats a simplified description. I mean, if its a beautiful or stunning picture of a woman, there are probably moments where I imagine a lot more about her than may really be there. I have to regularly remind myself, she may be pretty, but that doesn't really tell me about her qualities.

Take this next stuff as you wish, but for me, I tend to think I'm pretty good at observing and getting to know people. Sometimes when they don't know it. I'm quiet especially around larger groups, but I listen to people and really when you listen enough, its surprising how deep you might see just by one particular sentence, of course if the emotions they used also line up. I've apparently scared women even a little with my apparent skill at knowing whats between the lines sometimes. Friends who weren't really their friends or people who slickly try to come in between friends. On a good day, I can aptly spot them.

Believe it or not, I've had women say I was too good or intimidating for my smarts...anyways I cannot speak for other guys, but meeting a girl in person, it is truly challenging but a little inviting to me, if she is a silent type as well. Though if they are stammered quiet by nerves it gets unnerving for me. I can talk reasonably well and keep a conversation going easily especially one on one.

Regardless of whether I "see" or not, I can be a realist, so even with my imagination, I try my best to avoid putting someone on a pedestal before I know them. It is probably my realism however that also leaves my inboxes very silent!!
 
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No, I mean purely physical. I guess I should explain...I have a date tonight with this guy I'm really interested in. I just can't figure out why he's interested in me. He's military, ultra healthy...and I could stand to lose 30 pounds. So as much as I don't want to walk in there with negative thoughts I seriously have to wonder if he a. didn't look at the pictures (which are in natural light, up to date and not deceptively posed) or b. he misviewed the pictures. lol.

So anyway, this is mainly jitters talking but all the same.
 
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BlueEyedLizzie wrote :
Or when you look at pictures do you see what you want to see?

If the picture is honest, a full body shot and recent within the last couple of weeks are you pretty good at seeing what it actually is rather than what you want it to be?
I’ve never had an experience when I was disappointed with their physical looks after meeting them in person. In fact I’ve always been quite pleasantly surprised.

I just wish I could meet someone that accurately paints a mental picture of themselves. I guess that’s a little harder to do.
 
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