sfnurse is offline sfnurse Post #1  October 15,2010, 9:45pm
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Not to MEET women... but as a woman, I am hoping that there are plenty of women here who have had contact with wonderful men and that have actually met face-to-face. Truthfully, I am not seeing this place as a place for me.

I do have two dates this weekend with men that I have met on another site, but not one man that I have communicated with on eHarmony has continued on with me past the third stage. oh - I have e-mailed and nudged but they don't respond.

I would be interested to hear other women's experiences here and at other sites.
 
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Diana_P is offline Diana_P Post #2  October 15,2010, 9:58pm
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I just got threw reading the eHA article about having too many, "No Way's." I was interested in the comment on how every match in your inbox is compatible for a long term relationship with you based on proven criteria. It went on to say that even though you may not find them physically attractive in the conventional sense that you should still initiate communication with them because there will be other elements in the match you will find very attractive.

In my experience, most of the people I have gone out with were much better looking in person than they were in their profile photos. I'm not sure if it was just a bad photograph or if they were deliberately trying to play down their looks to discourage superficial people.

You may want to re-evaluate your criteria for selection and be a little more open minded to what is in your inbox.
 
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ISearch4Love is offline ISearch4Love Post #3  October 16,2010, 5:32am
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It's my understanding that there are a lot more women on this site than men. That will make it harder for them to find someone but not impossibly.
 
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socalgal55 is offline socalgal55 Post #4  October 16,2010, 7:41am
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sfnurse wrote :
Not to MEET women... but as a woman, I am hoping that there are plenty of women here who have had contact with wonderful men and that have actually met face-to-face. Truthfully, I am not seeing this place as a place for me.

I do have two dates this weekend with men that I have met on another site, but not one man that I have communicated with on eHarmony has continued on with me past the third stage. oh - I have e-mailed and nudged but they don't respond.

I would be interested to hear other women's experiences here and at other sites.
I've been on EH since 7-11-10 and have had 2 dates, the first was incompatible and the 2nd was incompatible as well. The 2nd one looked much better in person. Am slated to go on a date with a 3rd guy, we'll see. The quality of men in my age range 54-61 seem to be much more to my liking on EH.

EH definitely takes time as once you go through all your compatible matches you then have to wait for new people to sign up or change you settings a bit. What I've been doing that is working out well for me is I look at the profile of my new matches and if there are no glaring incompatibilities I archive them. Once they view me I send out questions. By doing it this way I know who is active and who isn't. 75% of my matches are inactive so I'm saving myself a lot of time and frustration by doing it the way I do it.

I've been on Match for about 2 months went on 1 date, again incompatible. I'm also on OK Cupid and have had no dates from there, had a guy ask me but after speaking to him on the phone it was fairly clear that he was a player.

I was also on Plenty of Fish for about 2 months, had one guy ask me out after we spoke on the phone, again clear that he was a player. I just closed my account on POF as it's extremely disorganized and the guys seem to be players.

Much success to you, just know that anything worthwhile takes time.
 
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CestMoi is offline CestMoi Post #5  October 16,2010, 8:26am
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Diana_P wrote :
In my experience, most of the people I have gone out with were much better looking in person than they were in their profile photos.
Who else shares this experience? IIRC, I've read this from other posters here. I'm new -- sorry if this is beating a dead horse.
 
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I've been active on eH since July, and once previously a few years ago. Last time around I met ~6 men, all of whom were nice people and none of whom sparked any chemistry. This time I've met 4 matches, all of whom are nice - one who I'm very optimistically still seeing.

I've also been active on Match.com and PoF. I've met - between the two sites - about 10 men - zero of which I felt any compatibility with. Several of them I had a physical attraction to though.

In general, I think eH is as good a site for me as is available. The main differences I find between my eH matches and other site matches is that my matches from eH are generally more compatible re: values and general outlook on life. They also tend to be (or at least claim to be) looking for long term relationships and are more interested in having families.



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Who else shares this experience? IIRC, I've read this from other posters here. I'm new -- sorry if this is beating a dead horse.
Generally speaking, I find that most of my matches photos are out of date. I'd say at least half my matches I've met have considerably less hair than on their photos, and about the same number are quite a bit heavier than their photos. Almost universally, my matches are shorter than their stated height. For me, none of these necessarily means they're more or less attractive than their photos. I'd say, generally, they're about as attractive as their photos.
 
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Almost universally, my matches are shorter than their stated height.
Thanks for your response. I've only met 2 matches, and they were both about 2" shorter than their profiles stated.
 
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Diana_P wrote :
In my experience, most of the people I have gone out with were much better looking in person than they were in their profile photos.
CestMoi wrote :
Who else shares this experience? IIRC, I've read this from other posters here. I'm new -- sorry if this is beating a dead horse.
Yes, I've found this as well. Pleasantly surprised!
 
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I've been on other sites and I only had one guy that wanted to go out on a date. But after talking to my friends I decided to cancel because the site didn't have a good repulation.

This is the first site thatI have actually gotteb what seems like good matches and I don't have to search through 100s of profiles. Thats why I joined here. But I haven't gone on a date yet.

I've only been on eharmony for a month so I guess this would be a pretty normal experience thus far.
 
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I have been on EH three different times for periods of 6 - 9 months. I have only had 1 meeting in two years that lead to a second date, and that one didn't get past the third. I have thrown in the EH towel!
 
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